People not interested in giving the best to their children academically and making their education a priority should not have children or be allowed only limited number of kids. |
True but it’s a distinction without a difference because college grads today on average know less than our parents on average did graduating high school. College ed has been watered down, that’s it’s almost criminal how expensive it is. |
Thid is very hard to decipher, how do you define ‘best’’ and ‘educational priorities’. Truth is just because it’s catchy to say everyone should go to college, college isn’t for everyone. That said graduating highschool should have meaning. A graduate should be able to read, write, know math up to at least geometry, know geography, civics, and basic understanding of chemistry, economics, world, and American history. Most of this is sorely lacking for many students despite parent interest for good education. Look at Common Core (really Curriculum 2.0) despite parents hating it it was shoved down our throats. Perhaps now we do need to send all MoCo kids to college so they can relearn and be competent in basic math. |
+1 All fantastic points and very accurate. |
Actually, I think that MCPS has emphasized "college going culture" too much. Not everyone has equal capacity to do various types of academics. We have very limited vocational programs and enrollment in these programs is often limited by academic criteria. So, we are basically graduating kids who are semi-literate with no trade, all because we hope that everyone can go to college. Especially for kids entering the system as teenagers from other countries. There is no way that they will catch up. Meanwhile the skilled trades are begging for workers. |
This was a big deal when my kids were in MCPS..the Seven Steps for College readiness. Like if you are not an advanced reader in K, forget college. And I was happy to read last week that MCPS is expending tech education. Plenty of ways to be successful without college. https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/answer-sheet/wp/2012/10/26/why-mcps-seven-keys-to-college-readiness-should-be-tossed/?utm_term=.9ac1ff14d0d9 |
People have different priorities. You don't get to decide what those are or if they can have kids. |
"DC is a stellar MCPS student who would love to have study buddies of different race/SEC status. Where to find such opportunities? Classmates are either uninterested or unwill.
Your child should learn how to inspire others around her to engage and make them want to learn." My DC was in a program that taught stellar students how to inspire/engage/make them want to learn. DC had a huge success rate. The program as a whole had a terrible success rate, so it didn't last very long. DC's "secret" was that their "successes" were based on friendships built on sports teams. Groups that already knew how to work together on a team could transferred that knowledge to school work. Not everyone can use this model but would there be a way to create lots more teams based on video games/online sports/social media based competitions? |
PP you quoted here. You misunderstood my tone. When I say "its cultural " I mean that I, as a parent, have a flexible mindset about my children's education. I dont get their report cards in the mail and think "oh they are_______" (smart, not so smart, average). I get the reports and determine where, exactly, they need to study harder or differently. I know and understand that graduation from even the best school in the country means they have met the bare minimum required by law. I know for them to be competitive they will need to do much more. Teaching that mindset to PARENTS is the key. I say "cultural " to establish the belief that the mindset is taught by social peers and family and differentiate it from the idea that it's related to genetics or intelligence. |
PP, you should know that on DCUM, "it's cultural" means "Asian-Americans are successful because they work hard and value education, white people value friends and sports over education, black people are lazy and only have themselves to blame, and Hispanic people are illiterate and think of schools as free day care". |
Maybe so, at some point 1000s of examples of the same thing equals a stereotype, whether you fall into its stereotype or not is up to you. How you parent and your family's values is based on you and your cultural aspects you choose. Some people just rotely do what they saw their parent(S) role model, some question things and improve, some have a growth mindset all the time. You pick your culture, then live it. The living it is the important part, not what you say or check in the box. Show me, don't tell me. Show me you are an active parent. Show me you care about educating your child. Show me. |
Really? I'm the PP you're responding to, and if you're the PP I was responding to - I was just trying to improve communication. What you mean when you say "it's cultural" is not necessarily what the people reading the post understand you to mean. But, you know, PP, people really don't have an obligation to prove anything to you. Think what you want to think. If you want to believe in bigoted stereotypes, that's on you. |
It's not cultural it's almost always SES related and before someone talks about Asians the ones that can actually afford to come here were generally more well off in their home countries. There are plenty of poor whites and asians who struggle/don't value academics and richer blacks and hispanics who value education |
There is only one way to catch up in academics. Spend all your time on academics besides eating, sleeping and exercising. When we work hard, other students are also working hard. If we don’t work more, there is no way to catch up. After we catch up, we can just work hard. |
DP Watch your own racist views. There are plenty of poor Asians who come to this country. ![]() You do not have to be wealthy to value education. |