Is the principal the only person who can deal with disruptive kids? |
NP. I don't see any anger in this thread, but personally I'd be quite unhappy if I donated something to any school that was claiming "educational disparity" and had it damaged by its students. |
Why do you label and assume all single parents are struggling to put food on the table? I am a single parent making over 300k per year, yet when my kids show up at school teachers, school administrators, other parents and as a result other kids look down at my kids and with your Labeling assume they are not smart and cant be getting excellent grades. |
No school in the world will raise and parent your kid unless you are talking pricey boarding schools in Europe or Asia.
If you are only working unstable cash jobs, 2 or 3 shifts, no father figure around, living in a group home: Do Not Have More Kids. |
Thank you, PP, for providing the evergreen and always-helpful DCUM advice: don't have done what you did. Given that the kids in question have already been had, a time machine would be helpful here. |
Only specific MCPS schools have Emotional Disability programs. Usually a specially trained para is assigned to a few students who are integrated with mainstream students for Art, Music, PE, and Library. The paras know when to pull an ED child who is misbehaving. A much more challenging situation is when a child who doesn't have an IEP is seriously misbehaving and that child doesn't have that level of support. Kindergarten and 1st grade are especially tricky, as students with emotional needs have not all been evaluated yet. |
Agree with both PPs. A parent once told me that the teacher emailed this parent about how the DC was being disruptive in class. The parent responded back that it was the teacher's job and what can the parent do about it when the parent is at work. I was floored. I didn't say anything, but I was thinking, "duh.. the teacher wants you to talk to your DC about the behavior in class". It takes a village. FWIW, my DC was in the same class, and my DC also got a few pink slips from this teacher. My response to this was to "punish" DC every time DC got the pink slip (like taking away 30min of electronics or something). Recently my DC and I were talking about this teacher, and DC told me that when DC was in the class, DC thought the teacher was "mean", but now reflecting on it, DC thinks the teacher was pretty good, and I would agree. My other DC had the same teacher. I don't know if this is a generational thing or not but I don't reward my children for doing what is expected of them, ie, behaving in class. I think some children respond well to praise rather than punishment, but there are other children that do not. You cannot apply the same discipline techniques across the board. It doesn't work that way. I have two kids and discipline that works on one doesn't work on the other. I have 3 other siblings and it was the same for the four of us. I realize that certain segments of our population, like black boys, get treated more harshly than other groups, but I think sometimes admins go too far the other way. If you coddle them for the 13 years they are in school in terms of letting them get away with sh1t with no punitive consequences what happens when they turn 18 and they continue to misbehave? The time to discipline them is during the earlier years. By HS, it's that much more difficult to get trouble kids to change their behavior. |
I have SN child - GTLD with very high IQ. Generally nonviolent, but who would love to misbehave if he gets support of class or another clown. Why not to have fun instead of studying if teacher lets it go or cannot control class? He will use absolutely every opportunity due to immaturity.
The only environment this kid can learn is regular magnet (not GTLD one). The reason is - magnet kids are more accommodating and pushing this kid to learn instead of fulling around with other clowns all day. Basically in any non-magnet class my child goes for lowest common denominator in work and behavior. This is in support that mixing kids is really bad idea. If you will put my child in mixed class, he will learn nothing... On the other hand he is not disruptive in magnet environment. He is absolutely disruptive (non-violently) in regular environment. For us magnet is life saver, otherwise my child would get nothing out of public education in MCPS. I am sure that there are many kids like mine, but most of them did not get to magnet. Probably most of them are fulling around our public systems and will end up with zero knowledge. |
I also hope you checked out ADHD Inattentive that goes along with his high IQ hyperfocus. His future jobs and spouse will thank you. But yes, going to a progressive program or one with more engagement (curriculum, teaching, homework, peer students) will be better than regular public school 30 kids/room. |
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Oh, cry me a friggin' river! My responsible, mature, high IQ child didn't even get into a magnet. If your genius is 'fulling' around in public school, send him to private. Other children who are there to learn should have to suffer because your 'clown' wants to have fun! Geez. |
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