Number of women who cheat on their husbands had increased by 40%

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Anonymous wrote:I want to have an affair because DH basically ignores me except on the rare occasions he feels like having sex, and I am stuck on my own with the kids during his constant work travel. However, I can't imagine how I'd actually do it. No one has expressed any interest in having an affair with me. I'm not overweight and try to dress nicely, but maybe I'm just too old? (43). How do people get these affairs started?

In my experience, women in their early 40s, or from about 38 on are the best candidates for cheating. You shouldn't have any trouble finding someone but time is always an issue. That said, you aren't looking to date, just spend a few hours of quality naked time. As for finding someone, you do know there are sites dedicated to this end, right?

Guy here and this is my experience. I cannot speak for the article, but I know several women bw late thirties and fifty who are itching for excitement and have gone through with it.

I am 50. I have a HS friend, a woman, who is also 50. We are not in the same area, so there's nothing between us except we talk candidly. (not explicitly, just very open). She is divorced, and said she has had affairs with three married men, one fairly seriously that is still going on. Four or five of her closest friends, also late 40/early 50s, also have been involved in affairs. Some women who feel unsatisfied still are very much interested and have a high sex drive into their 50s, and they can attract the men they want.

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Are their husbands having affairs as well? If you do not know, the answer is likely yes.

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Anonymous wrote:Are their husbands having affairs as well? If you do not know, the answer is likely yes.

I don't know those women, and the one I do know is divorced.

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I cheated on my second husband at least 40 times (not counting the year long affair I had with one man). My second husband is one of my best friends, and he takes half the blame, because he told me that he thought I was so beautiful that I would cheat on him so he deliberately pushed me away. When he pushed me away I responded by cheating because I thought he didn't want me. This is BPD and PTSD at work together in a relationship, and I have worked hard to overcome both of them. I do not cheat now, nor will I ever again. Cheating hurts everyone around you.

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This is one of the most interesting articles on infertility I've read . I was wondering how many DCUMers recognize themselves in this article ?


The changing reasons why women cheat on their husbands - CNN
https://apple.news/AO9JydUJNTGmVGevgnO6t6g

When my kids leave for college I am dumping my husband, I think he knows that is my plan. He is a great dad and a good husband, but I have convinced myself there is more out there for me.

So are you going to have affairs while you run out the clock?

Maybe you are impossible to please.

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Anonymous wrote:I want to have an affair because DH basically ignores me except on the rare occasions he feels like having sex, and I am stuck on my own with the kids during his constant work travel. However, I can't imagine how I'd actually do it. No one has expressed any interest in having an affair with me. I'm not overweight and try to dress nicely, but maybe I'm just too old? (43). How do people get these affairs started?

In my experience, women in their early 40s, or from about 38 on are the best candidates for cheating. You shouldn't have any trouble finding someone but time is always an issue. That said, you aren't looking to date, just spend a few hours of quality naked time. As for finding someone, you do know there are sites dedicated to this end, right?

Guy here and this is my experience. I cannot speak for the article, but I know several women bw late thirties and fifty who are itching for excitement and have gone through with it.

I am 50. I have a HS friend, a woman, who is also 50. We are not in the same area, so there's nothing between us except we talk candidly. (not explicitly, just very open). She is divorced, and said she has had affairs with three married men, one fairly seriously that is still going on. Four or five of her closest friends, also late 40/early 50s, also have been involved in affairs. Some women who feel unsatisfied still are very much interested and have a high sex drive into their 50s, and they can attract the men they want.

Sure. I find it hard to believe that she had multiple affairs in her 50’s. The sex drive stops, it takes a lot of energy(most 50 plus do not have) and people love to lie about sex and money. The women I know over 5o talk of a different dynamic. The men are in demand and the women really have to work hard.

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Anonymous wrote:A few years ago just before I got married I had an amazing father/daughter conversation with my Dad about marriage and fidelity. My parents have been happily married for over 30 years and it's very obvious they are still in love. I asked my Dad if he had ever been tempted to cheat and he said "sure, everyone is!" I was like whoa! He then said something like "it's human nature to at some point be physically attracted to someone else but that doesn't mean you do anything about it." Before I could ask him the BIG question he said that he had never cheated not just because he loved my mom but because my siblings and I would lose respect for him and that would kill him. He then went on to say that when he went off to college the only advice his father ever gave him was to always make his mother proud and never embarrass the family. He'd never forgotten that. I then reminded him that when I went off to college he said "remember, college guys are only interested in two things - getting drunk and getting laid usually in that order!" He then said "well, my father was far more eloquent!"

Well, sure, of course he said all that. Classic dad lines.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A few years ago just before I got married I had an amazing father/daughter conversation with my Dad about marriage and fidelity. My parents have been happily married for over 30 years and it's very obvious they are still in love. I asked my Dad if he had ever been tempted to cheat and he said "sure, everyone is!" I was like whoa! He then said something like "it's human nature to at some point be physically attracted to someone else but that doesn't mean you do anything about it." Before I could ask him the BIG question he said that he had never cheated not just because he loved my mom but because my siblings and I would lose respect for him and that would kill him. He then went on to say that when he went off to college the only advice his father ever gave him was to always make his mother proud and never embarrass the family. He'd never forgotten that. I then reminded him that when I went off to college he said "remember, college guys are only interested in two things - getting drunk and getting laid usually in that order!" He then said "well, my father was far more eloquent!"

I could never have a conversation like that with my father! Do you really believe he was telling the truth?

Yes, I do though I know some people on DCUM would never believe someone could be faithful! But I do know that it would kill him if he lost the respect of my mother and his children. He's just wired that way and he's been a great example. After I graduated from college and before I got married we'd have dinner together once a month just to catch up and we always had interesting conversations. It's something I do miss being married.

You're no longer married ?

I'm married. Since I got married we no longer have our monthly dinners.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A few years ago just before I got married I had an amazing father/daughter conversation with my Dad about marriage and fidelity. My parents have been happily married for over 30 years and it's very obvious they are still in love. I asked my Dad if he had ever been tempted to cheat and he said "sure, everyone is!" I was like whoa! He then said something like "it's human nature to at some point be physically attracted to someone else but that doesn't mean you do anything about it." Before I could ask him the BIG question he said that he had never cheated not just because he loved my mom but because my siblings and I would lose respect for him and that would kill him. He then went on to say that when he went off to college the only advice his father ever gave him was to always make his mother proud and never embarrass the family. He'd never forgotten that. I then reminded him that when I went off to college he said "remember, college guys are only interested in two things - getting drunk and getting laid usually in that order!" He then said "well, my father was far more eloquent!"

I could never have a conversation like that with my father! Do you really believe he was telling the truth?

Yes, I do though I know some people on DCUM would never believe someone could be faithful! But I do know that it would kill him if he lost the respect of my mother and his children. He's just wired that way and he's been a great example. After I graduated from college and before I got married we'd have dinner together once a month just to catch up and we always had interesting conversations. It's something I do miss being married.

You're no longer married ?

I'm married. Since I got married we no longer have our monthly dinners.

You sound repressed

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I feel like my DH and I are the only ones with a long (30 years), happy marriage. It makes me sad. We have so many friends who have divorced. I have no desire at all to cheat.

My parents have been married 39 years years and they are crazy about each other. There is no doubt in my mid that they are still physically attracted to one another! A lot of their friends who have been married 30 plus years are the same way so there is hope. My parents have a winter home in Florida and my Dad retired a few years ago because he really hated being away from my mother even though he liked his job. When they are apart for more than a few days they are miserable. I love it!

Nope! You do not know what goes behind closed doors, definitely not your parent's friends'. Keep on deluding yourself if you want. Would be interesting to hear your thoughts after 39 yrs of marriage.

You're right I do not know but if they're faking it they do a great job. If you go through your married life waiting for your SO to cheat the odds are very good they will because that attitude will slowly infect your marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A few years ago just before I got married I had an amazing father/daughter conversation with my Dad about marriage and fidelity. My parents have been happily married for over 30 years and it's very obvious they are still in love. I asked my Dad if he had ever been tempted to cheat and he said "sure, everyone is!" I was like whoa! He then said something like "it's human nature to at some point be physically attracted to someone else but that doesn't mean you do anything about it." Before I could ask him the BIG question he said that he had never cheated not just because he loved my mom but because my siblings and I would lose respect for him and that would kill him. He then went on to say that when he went off to college the only advice his father ever gave him was to always make his mother proud and never embarrass the family. He'd never forgotten that. I then reminded him that when I went off to college he said "remember, college guys are only interested in two things - getting drunk and getting laid usually in that order!" He then said "well, my father was far more eloquent!"

I could never have a conversation like that with my father! Do you really believe he was telling the truth?

Yes, I do though I know some people on DCUM would never believe someone could be faithful! But I do know that it would kill him if he lost the respect of my mother and his children. He's just wired that way and he's been a great example. After I graduated from college and before I got married we'd have dinner together once a month just to catch up and we always had interesting conversations. It's something I do miss being married.

You're no longer married ?

I'm married. Since I got married we no longer have our monthly dinners.

You sound repressed

Repressed? No. Tired? Yes! I have 7 month old and work full time. I'm exhausted like all new moms are.

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Nice!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
This is one of the most interesting articles on infertility I've read . I was wondering how many DCUMers recognize themselves in this article ?


The changing reasons why women cheat on their husbands - CNN
https://apple.news/AO9JydUJNTGmVGevgnO6t6g

When my kids leave for college I am dumping my husband, I think he knows that is my plan. He is a great dad and a good husband, but I have convinced myself there is more out there for me.

Your too old, he will be hitting that young booty

Silver Divorces are on the rise initiated by women. We don't care what booty you hit and we don't need men, we have a life and it is not completed by men.

OTOH, your young booty dumps you as soon as you get sick and nobody is there to care for you.

We get sick and our friends/social group/community is there to help us through the hard times.

Guy : so true, marriage is a dead as an institution. Law should be changed to reflect the new reality

Woman here: very true. No point anymore. Raw deal all around. No more marriage, women get pregnant and raise the kids how they want. Have sex with only the hot guys they want to without thinking about commitment. This is the future, and I, for one, am thrilled.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I want to have an affair because DH basically ignores me except on the rare occasions he feels like having sex, and I am stuck on my own with the kids during his constant work travel. However, I can't imagine how I'd actually do it. No one has expressed any interest in having an affair with me. I'm not overweight and try to dress nicely, but maybe I'm just too old? (43). How do people get these affairs started?

In my experience, women in their early 40s, or from about 38 on are the best candidates for cheating. You shouldn't have any trouble finding someone but time is always an issue. That said, you aren't looking to date, just spend a few hours of quality naked time. As for finding someone, you do know there are sites dedicated to this end, right?

Guy here and this is my experience. I cannot speak for the article, but I know several women bw late thirties and fifty who are itching for excitement and have gone through with it.

I am 50. I have a HS friend, a woman, who is also 50. We are not in the same area, so there's nothing between us except we talk candidly. (not explicitly, just very open). She is divorced, and said she has had affairs with three married men, one fairly seriously that is still going on. Four or five of her closest friends, also late 40/early 50s, also have been involved in affairs. Some women who feel unsatisfied still are very much interested and have a high sex drive into their 50s, and they can attract the men they want.

Sure. I find it hard to believe that she had multiple affairs in her 50’s. The sex drive stops, it takes a lot of energy(most 50 plus do not have) and people love to lie about sex and money. The women I know over 5o talk of a different dynamic. The men are in demand and the women really have to work hard.

NP. Sounds like wishful thinking on your part. I have encountered the same dynamic the other poster described. Put it this way, 50+ year old ladies are still getting drinks bought for them by the bar. And 50+ year old men (and younger) are still the ones paying for those drinks Easy to see who has the upper hand. Law of nature.

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Another reason not to get married as a guy. Women have routinely shown they’re opinions aren’t worth the paper it’s printed on.

Women will easily allow themselves to be “one” of the women a guy sleeps with if he’s successful and rich. I’ve seen it multiple times. Unless you’re one of the elite, women won’t be seen with you in public so to speak. Tiger Woods is a great example. All these women knew he was married, most knew he was sleeping around. They didn’t care - they still subjected themselves to being the OW because he was tiger woods. Some of them married themselves. Point being, if you’re in of the top tier of men women will willingly be a whore for you no questions asked.

For people here who don’t obtain that status but live in this area and are successful and have your act together and fit, you can easily go to Reston and pick up a married woman at the bar while their husbands are at home watching the kids. I’ve done it. They want the secure family life but will once again subject themselves to being your fling. Why? Most women don’t have a decent moral compass. Not all, just most. It’s a raw deal to get married as a guy, but a good deal of you’ve obtained success and play the field.