Do women discuss sex with their friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was in college and in my early twenties - yes. But once we met our husbands and got married we no longer talk about our sex lives. Somehow it's more private, and probably more boring, too.

Man here, same. Only time I hear about sex from guy friends is either 1) all the sex they have with APs, or 2) none of the sex they are having with wives.

Occasionally, someone will mention their wife having a mid-life surge of libido. That generally leads to him getting peppered with questions of how to put that in our wives coffee.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A few years ago my book group read 50 Shades of Gray. Pretty awful book IMO. But fueled with wine, for the first time sex with spouse was discussed. It was more funny than raunchy and while I consider myself to be a bit of a prude I soon realized I had one of the more exciting sex lives in the group. No toys or chains but when I said I love giving my DH a BJ a bunch of the ladies almost spit out their wine in shock.

Too funny. That's because most women hate it. Each to their own though.

Not myself or the women I know. I love doing it. However....if I'm not getting equal attention or it's been awhile since he's treated me, my enthusiasm can be lesss.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A few years ago my book group read 50 Shades of Gray. Pretty awful book IMO. But fueled with wine, for the first time sex with spouse was discussed. It was more funny than raunchy and while I consider myself to be a bit of a prude I soon realized I had one of the more exciting sex lives in the group. No toys or chains but when I said I love giving my DH a BJ a bunch of the ladies almost spit out their wine in shock.

Too funny. That's because most women hate it. Each to their own though.

Not myself or the women I know. I love doing it. However....if I'm not getting equal attention or it's been awhile since he's treated me, my enthusiasm can be lesss.

I love doing it too because it drives him crazy and I have complete control over him. It also gets me really going as well more than most other things we do.

[Anonymous]

I don't. I do not have friends. I have casual . I am a loner, and I love it that way. I don't like people, I don't trust people, and I don't tell people anything about myself.

[Anonymous]

^ "casual acquaintances" ( phone problems)

[Anonymous]

A year ago I was sitting around with a bunch of golf buddies all 50-60+. We were talking about a group of guys at our club in their late 40's who were getting divorced. Jokes were flying about the guys finally getting laid again because once you hit 45 the brakes come on at home. I said "Oh BS, once we became empty nesters (at age 55) the brakes came off". Most of them were stunned and I'm sure they now look at my DW with admiration. Other than that time its not a topic of conversation. I'm extremely happy that I was able to disagree!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was in college and in my early twenties - yes. But once we met our husbands and got married we no longer talk about our sex lives. Somehow it's more private, and probably more boring, too.

This. I think we only talked about the outlier cases. If they were really good, bad, LARGE, small, could go 5 times in a row, etc. Now that we're married no one wants to hear about it anyway!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A year ago I was sitting around with a bunch of golf buddies all 50-60+. We were talking about a group of guys at our club in their late 40's who were getting divorced. Jokes were flying about the guys finally getting laid again because once you hit 45 the brakes come on at home. I said "Oh BS, once we became empty nesters (at age 55) the brakes came off". Most of them were stunned and I'm sure they now look at my DW with admiration. Other than that time its not a topic of conversation. I'm extremely happy that I was able to disagree!

Wow, is that true? 40 y/old man here,I assumed once menopause hit, low libido went to no libido.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A year ago I was sitting around with a bunch of golf buddies all 50-60+. We were talking about a group of guys at our club in their late 40's who were getting divorced. Jokes were flying about the guys finally getting laid again because once you hit 45 the brakes come on at home. I said "Oh BS, once we became empty nesters (at age 55) the brakes came off". Most of them were stunned and I'm sure they now look at my DW with admiration. Other than that time its not a topic of conversation. I'm extremely happy that I was able to disagree!

Wow, is that true? 40 y/old man here,I assumed once menopause hit, low libido went to no libido.

PP's wife probably maintained her libido. An empty nest isn't going to turn once a month into once a week, but it might turn once a week into 3-4x per week. If you're only having sex once a month, it's not because of the kids. If you're only having sex once a week, it might just be that the kids are holding you back.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hell yes. I'm very sexual and my close friends are, too. I love talking about sex!

Do the guys know?

Not pp, but I could have written it. They know and don't care. I don't see sex as some private thing that should never be discussed. I dont see discussing it as violating privacy. Hell, I'm a little proud that DH's friends know I give amazing blowjobs. I know I'm an outlier with how I view sex, and that's fine by me. There are some friends I don't talk to about it because I know their comfort level is different. But my close friends who I've had for years? Nothing is off the table.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hell yes. I'm very sexual and my close friends are, too. I love talking about sex!

Do the guys know?

Not pp, but I could have written it. They know and don't care. I don't see sex as some private thing that should never be discussed. I dont see discussing it as violating privacy. Hell, I'm a little proud that DH's friends know I give amazing blowjobs. I know I'm an outlier with how I view sex, and that's fine by me. There are some friends I don't talk to about it because I know their comfort level is different. But my close friends who I've had for years? Nothing is off the table.

Same here. Some people have a lot of hangups about the topic.

I'm sure your husbamd really loves your amazing skill too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A year ago I was sitting around with a bunch of golf buddies all 50-60+. We were talking about a group of guys at our club in their late 40's who were getting divorced. Jokes were flying about the guys finally getting laid again because once you hit 45 the brakes come on at home. I said "Oh BS, once we became empty nesters (at age 55) the brakes came off". Most of them were stunned and I'm sure they now look at my DW with admiration. Other than that time its not a topic of conversation. I'm extremely happy that I was able to disagree!

Wow, is that true? 40 y/old man here,I assumed once menopause hit, low libido went to no libido.

PP's wife probably maintained her libido. An empty nest isn't going to turn once a month into once a week, but it might turn once a week into 3-4x per week. If you're only having sex once a month, it's not because of the kids. If you're only having sex once a week, it might just be that the kids are holding you back.

PP here - my DW never lost her libido. However, we are currently babysitting for a week for two toddler grandchildren. We are exhausted at night.....we aren't 35! Pretty sure that we will skip a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Male so I don't count, but a friend's DW told me her husband doesn't have any drive

She's advertising.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Male so I don't count, but a friend's DW told me her husband doesn't have any drive

She's advertising.

Agree. Years ago a friends DW told me she and her husband hadn't had sex in something like five years. The way she said it and the look on her face was definitely advertising. I felt very sorry for her but I had no intention of helping her out. It was very uncomfortable given that she and my DW were very good friends. They are still married and I have no idea if they have worked things out. To be honest I thought her husband was nuts because she was really hot.