Son's rich friends (GDS) are wearing $1000 jeans, now he wants a couple pairs too
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Whatever happened to style? Everyone is chasing fashion. It changes weekly. Style is your reflection of yourself. It’s comfortably yours, and you build upon it. It suits your body and coloring, and taste. DD has a more complicated style than DS. They each have their own signature look. Sure, we’ll throw in a small fashion piece if it works, but they keep to the look that suits their personalities. For me, and I know I’m not expressing this very well, it’s about confidence. “Everybody’s wearing it” doesn’t hold any value. |
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Yes, some boys (and girls) at GDS are gay. I'd be worried about a high school that claimed to have no gay students. But they are no more likely to wear overpriced jeans than anyone else. |
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| How did this 2017 thread come up again? |
Anonymous
This |
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| My DC is at GDS. He was at a public school last year and the kids there were way more into pricey designer stuff than GDS kids. |
Anonymous
But perfect for virtue signalling -- "see, we don't have money to buy new pants, i just get mine from the thrift store" |
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| I don't understand, does your teen actually think you can afford those jeans? My elementary school and middle school kids would know that we would never buy something like that (and we have pretty high incomes and nice home in an great neighborhood!) They might comment on it, but wouldn't ask for something that expensive. Even when Supreme was really in, they would comment on a friend who had two supreme hoodies and how expensive they were. But never did it occur to them to ask for a $250 hoodie. |
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| And I want a yacht. Your kid needs to learn to deal with disappointments. |
Anonymous
how old is your son. |
Anonymous
| Come up with a clothing budget YOU are comfortable with, share it with your teen and let them make choices in that budget. Whatever they want after they have used up their clothing allotment comes from money they earn by working a real job (not home chores). |
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Yeah. Discussions on money in our house are tied to discussion of value. At the beginning of 9tj grade, I sit each kid down and show them their college account statements. What is in there. What we put in each month, and what it will pay for for college (In State easily with no debt). I also explain that if they want private or many OOS public, they need merit aid, which is why grades and SATs are so important. I then review this with kids before senior year, because it guides making their college list. So I would have no problem saying: most of our extra income is going to college. That is more important to us than expensive jeans. If you need a pair, save birthday money and get a job. But my kids would never ask, because they know we don’t go for excessive materialism. We have different priorities. We also just say not to a lot of stuff because we would rather spend the money to travel, got to the Kennedy Center, or do a great family activity. |
Anonymous
Right! I’m eating lunch and I started choking and my water went out my nose when I hit this. My co-worker was about to call 911. Nice guy. He also doesn’t believe this could be real. |
Anonymous
Well, not anymore. But, point taken. |
Anonymous
My favorite pair is this one. Yum! 
https://amiri.com/collections/bottoms/products/mx1-denim-cargo-dark-classic-indigo |
Anonymous
Pathetic trash. |
