Changing Classrooms at Beauvoir?

[Anonymous]

Good lord, this is not what Beauvoir parents are like at all. Sure, there are jerks in any group but I'd bet most people commenting here are not a part of the community. It's actually very down to earth and not at all like the caricature many think is for real.
-actual Beauvoir parent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never said it was bullying. What I said was people thinks it's OK until it's being done to their kid. Because really being excluded from a birthday party for a 4 year old, 5 year old, etc. is far from a good teaching moment. Perhaps you were never the kid excluded or snickered about not so far behind your back. But carry on with your teaching moments.

And all this back and forth right here....EXACTLY why I will not consider Beauvoir for my child. These threads on here really give some insight to the parent community there, and it does not reflect well at all.

People commenting are mostly not from beauvoir. They are just people commenting as happens on all threads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never said it was bullying. What I said was people thinks it's OK until it's being done to their kid. Because really being excluded from a birthday party for a 4 year old, 5 year old, etc. is far from a good teaching moment. Perhaps you were never the kid excluded or snickered about not so far behind your back. But carry on with your teaching moments.

And all this back and forth right here....EXACTLY why I will not consider Beauvoir for my child. These threads on here really give some insight to the parent community there, and it does not reflect well at all.

People commenting are mostly not from beauvoir. They are just people commenting as happens on all threads.

True. I highly doubt first PP above is a Beauvoir mom.

The problem is that OP didn't explain clearly what her kid's problem was, so everyone's speculating.

[Anonymous]

It's funny how when the feedback is negative Beauvoir parents cry foul: the feedback cannot be from Beauvoir parents. It's impossible, they are imposters, they are jealous because their kids could not get in the school, they have a vendetta to besmirch the good name of the school.

Good luck to you all!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's funny how when the feedback is negative Beauvoir parents cry foul: the feedback cannot be from Beauvoir parents. It's impossible, they are imposters, they are jealous because their kids could not get in the school, they have a vendetta to besmirch the good name of the school.

Good luck to you all!

Exactly you are apparently a non-beauvoir parent posting on this thread and you sound pretty disgruntled to me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's funny how when the feedback is negative Beauvoir parents cry foul: the feedback cannot be from Beauvoir parents. It's impossible, they are imposters, they are jealous because their kids could not get in the school, they have a vendetta to besmirch the good name of the school.

Good luck to you all!

Most of the posters are criticizing Beauvoir's inclusive policy so it sounds like thy are not beauvoir parents but strangely enough have some obsession with beauvoir that they continue to post in beauvoir threads. Focus on your own schools ladies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never said it was bullying. What I said was people thinks it's OK until it's being done to their kid. Because really being excluded from a birthday party for a 4 year old, 5 year old, etc. is far from a good teaching moment. Perhaps you were never the kid excluded or snickered about not so far behind your back. But carry on with your teaching moments.

And all this back and forth right here....EXACTLY why I will not consider Beauvoir for my child. These threads on here really give some insight to the parent community there, and it does not reflect well at all.

People commenting are mostly not from beauvoir. They are just people commenting as happens on all threads.

True. I highly doubt first PP above is a Beauvoir mom.

The problem is that OP didn't explain clearly what her kid's problem was, so everyone's speculating.

Ha says the very angry sounding non-beauvoir parent. Don't you have your own school forum to go on and post nasty things and more importantly if you are not at beauvoir why on earth would you take time to read and play on a thread about beauvoir? Very strange.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never said it was bullying. What I said was people thinks it's OK until it's being done to their kid. Because really being excluded from a birthday party for a 4 year old, 5 year old, etc. is far from a good teaching moment. Perhaps you were never the kid excluded or snickered about not so far behind your back. But carry on with your teaching moments.

And all this back and forth right here....EXACTLY why I will not consider Beauvoir for my child. These threads on here really give some insight to the parent community there, and it does not reflect well at all.

People commenting are mostly not from beauvoir. They are just people commenting as happens on all threads.

True. I highly doubt first PP above is a Beauvoir mom.

The problem is that OP didn't explain clearly what her kid's problem was, so everyone's speculating.

Ha says the very angry sounding non-beauvoir parent. Don't you have your own school forum to go on and post nasty things and more importantly if you are not at beauvoir why on earth would you take time to read and play on a thread about beauvoir? Very strange.

You seem to have serious problems in real life. Try to address them. DCUM won't help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never said it was bullying. What I said was people thinks it's OK until it's being done to their kid. Because really being excluded from a birthday party for a 4 year old, 5 year old, etc. is far from a good teaching moment. Perhaps you were never the kid excluded or snickered about not so far behind your back. But carry on with your teaching moments.

And all this back and forth right here....EXACTLY why I will not consider Beauvoir for my child. These threads on here really give some insight to the parent community there, and it does not reflect well at all.

People commenting are mostly not from beauvoir. They are just people commenting as happens on all threads.

True. I highly doubt first PP above is a Beauvoir mom.

The problem is that OP didn't explain clearly what her kid's problem was, so everyone's speculating.

Ha says the very angry sounding non-beauvoir parent. Don't you have your own school forum to go on and post nasty things and more importantly if you are not at beauvoir why on earth would you take time to read and play on a thread about beauvoir? Very strange.

You seem to have serious problems in real life. Try to address them. DCUM won't help.

The immediate PP sure does sound very angry.

As OP, I think it's rather strange that you are implying that the "problem" is that I didn't "explain clearly."

My child doesn't have "a problem." I've explained all that was necessary for me to get answers from other Beauvoir parents, which I have received.

The rest of the post has evolved into a discussion about what constitutes bullying vs. relational aggression.

And, I agree that most of these posters are not Beauvoir parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the previous PP (previous to the "snowflake" comment--which I'd never make).

Sorry, but I don't outsource my judgement or my kids' judgement to some school handbook.

Our parties are very fun and extremely open, yet we allow our kids to make their own mistakes and to learn from them. Life is a 100-year marathon. Unless truly necessary, I don't impose my views (much less some random handbook) on other people.

Well, your moral and ethical compass are somewhat skewed. Most Beauvoir parents comply with the provisions in the handbook. Not because they've "outsourced judgment," but because they agree that tolerance and inclusion are more important than the birthday child getting their way.

What relevance is the idea that a party is "fun and extremely open" if kids are included and you allow them to "make their own mistakes"? If you're applying this to elementary school kids, you're actually sanctioning hurtful behavior.

I might make an exception for a child who is physically aggressive (after age 6 or so) or who is a bully -- and I would make it clear to my child's teachers and the parents of the child why they were not invited -- but otherwise I don't think there's an excuse for excluding an 8-year old child in order to let your child "make their own mistakes," or, put another way, be a hurtful jerk.

Well, I respect your opinions and preferences.

Will you respect mine?

Different poster here. People have different approaches on this issue. I agree with Beauvoir's approach and it is consistent with the school's social curriculum. this curriculum is one of the reasons we chose the school for our kids. Beauvoir is very clear about this curriculum and its policies. You aren't at all required to send your kids to a school with this type of curriculum, or with the supporting policies you dismiss as merely handbook provisions. Just choose another school. One good thing about DC is that there are lots of great and varied options. Just don't send your kids to a school with clear policies and expect your disagreement with them to justify breaking the rules.

[Anonymous]

OP, if the school is not able to make a switch, are you in a position to speak to the other child's parents to try to address your concerns?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if the school is not able to make a switch, are you in a position to speak to the other child's parents to try to address your concerns?

Haven't read the whole thread...OP, is the policy is so clear, why hasn't the school taken action so far?

[Anonymous]

Beauvoir parent here. Stay strong and keep looking out for your child even if you riffle some feathers. I had two bad years at Beauvoir and the rest were great. The bad year really had a negative effect on our child - particularly the year with the terrible teacher. Regardless of numerous complaints to the teacher and their superior, NOTHING was done. In another instance, a mean terrible kid was the problem and nothing was done for him either. In fact, the school never even mentioned there was an issue to his parents. They had absolutely no idea. So even though our overall experience of many years has been great, stay strong on protecting your child's interest.