Every couple should spend a week with children before having a family.

[Anonymous]

not sure why anyone cares why a couple chooses to have kids or not. its their choice.

the OP was leaning towards not having kids anyway, and went through some stupid experiment to confirm what she wanted to so all along and thats not have kids. the world is probably better that shes not birthing kids with her and her husbands DNA. chalk it up to faith

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:not sure why anyone cares why a couple chooses to have kids or not. its their choice.

the OP was leaning towards not having kids anyway, and went through some stupid experiment to confirm what she wanted to so all along and thats not have kids. the world is probably better that shes not birthing kids with her and her husbands DNA. chalk it up to faith

Please tell me you don't breed. Please.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:not sure why anyone cares why a couple chooses to have kids or not. its their choice.

the OP was leaning towards not having kids anyway, and went through some stupid experiment to confirm what she wanted to so all along and thats not have kids. the world is probably better that shes not birthing kids with her and her husbands DNA. chalk it up to faith

Please tell me you don't breed. Please.

What's wrong with their DNA?! Sounds about right....another parent angry with their life so must lash out at strangers on the internet.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:not sure why anyone cares why a couple chooses to have kids or not. its their choice.

the OP was leaning towards not having kids anyway, and went through some stupid experiment to confirm what she wanted to so all along and thats not have kids. the world is probably better that shes not birthing kids with her and her husbands DNA. chalk it up to faith

Please tell me you don't breed. Please.

What's wrong with their DNA?! Sounds about right....another parent angry with their life so must lash out at strangers on the internet.

What gets me is that that comment started out so good and then...bitterness ensues!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:not sure why anyone cares why a couple chooses to have kids or not. its their choice.

the OP was leaning towards not having kids anyway, and went through some stupid experiment to confirm what she wanted to so all along and thats not have kids. the world is probably better that shes not birthing kids with her and her husbands DNA. chalk it up to faith

Please tell me you don't breed. Please.

What's wrong with their DNA?! Sounds about right....another parent angry with their life so must lash out at strangers on the internet.

where do you get that i am angry about being a parent? some of you read too much into things.

i dont care they dont want kids. im not bitter because i have mine.

if that how you choose to read into it though, have at it. the world is probably better shes not having kids, especially if she doesnt want them and at that point the bitter parent will be OP and not me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:not sure why anyone cares why a couple chooses to have kids or not. its their choice.

Been around the world it seems like only stupid people are breeding,
Cretins cloning and feeding...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your DH is really too old now anyone, so good call. Enjoy your lazy brunches!

Don't forget about the travelling, spontaneous hot sex and happy marriage.

We're told he's too old and broken down for parenthood, so how's he going to have the energy for this stuff?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP The only person you have convince is yourself. Your DH being 45 and you don't have kids yet speaks a lot to me.

I had my first kid and 43 and the second at 47. I had plenty of energy for fatherhood. Still do. If this guy is such a wreck that he can't handle it, oh well. Enjoy your lonely old age and bitter regret for missed opportunities...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:not sure why anyone cares why a couple chooses to have kids or not. its their choice.

the OP was leaning towards not having kids anyway, and went through some stupid experiment to confirm what she wanted to so all along and thats not have kids. the world is probably better that shes not birthing kids with her and her husbands DNA. chalk it up to faith

Please tell me you don't breed. Please.

What's wrong with their DNA?! Sounds about right....another parent angry with their life so must lash out at strangers on the internet.

where do you get that i am angry about being a parent? some of you read too much into things.

i dont care they dont want kids. im not bitter because i have mine.

if that how you choose to read into it though, have at it. the world is probably better shes not having kids, especially if she doesnt want them and at that point the bitter parent will be OP and not me.

It does breed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP The only person you have convince is yourself. Your DH being 45 and you don't have kids yet speaks a lot to me.

I had my first kid and 43 and the second at 47. I had plenty of energy for fatherhood. Still do. If this guy is such a wreck that he can't handle it, oh well. Enjoy your lonely old age and bitter regret for missed opportunities...

Missed oppurtunities for what? If your shitty fucking attitude is any indication of the type of people you're raising, the world would have been better off if you'd just busted a nut into a tissue.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your DH is really too old now anyone, so good call. Enjoy your lazy brunches!

Don't forget about the travelling, spontaneous hot sex and happy marriage.

We're told he's too old and broken down for parenthood, so how's he going to have the energy for this stuff?

Huh? Where does it say he's old and broken down?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have been married for 5 years. We were 85% sure we don't want children.
My sister had the oppurtunity to make a spur of the moment trip to Portland to visit her husband (he restationed there...they'll join him in a month) and asked if DH and I would watch my nephews-ages 2.5 and 6.
They were with us for a week.
Good God. It is A LOT of work. Props to you parents. I don't know how you do it.
They left this afternoon. DH and I looked at each other and simultaneously agreed that we are not starting a family.
I often hear people on DCUM discuss how they had no idea how hard parenthood would be.
Try it for a week!! You might get your answer.

Meh, that's nothin'! Try six boy for one week. We could barely walk by the end, we were so exhausted. They were all between seven and 10. We were at a vacation home while the parents went on a trip overseas. Still, we got through it and I have very fond memories of that time. We now have our own kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am finding how much people care about this person having children or not having children amusing! I think some of you forgot to take your medication!?! I don’t really understand why people care or not if someone is going to have children and if they chose not to they are somehow less? This person's decision has NO bearing at all on anyone’s life, except for their own. Maybe some of you are religious and feel you have some duty to procreate and that is where the negativity is coming from? It is clear from this thread why so many people feel they HAVE to have children so that they are not ostracized. Shame on you!

Also, as a side note I agree w/ the people talking about the multiple threads on this site about "how hard raising little ones is" and the breakdown of the family unit. I guess some of you are choosing to forget about those DAILY threads.

I think it’s commendable that this couple is making a decision based on what works for THEM! I am a parent myself and I certainly don't sit around preaching about how I am so much better than childless people or even that I am more fulfilled. What I find fulfilling is not what others find fulfilling and there is nothing wrong with that. Also, to whomever stated that the human race might die off, you clearly have not read anything about how the world is completely over populated and the world resources can’t keep up with the population. Also, this could be another thread, but I feel it’s environmentally irresponsible for people to have very large families, and I only make the comment because this IS a decision that does have some barring on my children/grandchildren. Thank you OP for not adding to the over populated world or having children that you may resent.

+1!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP The only person you have convince is yourself. Your DH being 45 and you don't have kids yet speaks a lot to me.

I had my first kid and 43 and the second at 47. I had plenty of energy for fatherhood. Still do. If this guy is such a wreck that he can't handle it, oh well. Enjoy your lonely old age and bitter regret for missed opportunities...

Missed oppurtunities for what? If your shitty fucking attitude is any indication of the type of people you're raising, the world would have been better off if you'd just busted a nut into a tissue.

Missed opportunities for children, genius, what else.

It's those who whine that they're too old, too tired, and too broke to have babies who have a shitty attitude, not me.

I'm looking forward to the follow-up post we'll see in a year or two:

"My husband left me for a younger, fertile woman because he changed his mind about not having children"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your DH is really too old now anyone, so good call. Enjoy your lazy brunches!

Don't forget about the travelling, spontaneous hot sex and happy marriage.

We're told he's too old and broken down for parenthood, so how's he going to have the energy for this stuff?

Huh? Where does it say he's old and broken down?

OP The only person you have convince is yourself. Your DH being 45 and you don't have kids yet speaks a lot to me. There are practical issues also. My kids are 17 & 19 and both very ill this last week. I am 63. It is hard to describe the exhaustion of this -- you are still a parent when they get older. Mine both got better now, but the grind is MUCH harder when you get older, not matter what anyone on DCUM says.