That's a nice point, but useless at this time. We do not have the slightest idea what causes MERLD or ASDs. None. Nothing is known about etiology for either disorder. MERLD is very like the language symptoms of autism. In the future, we may know why kids get one or the other and how they're related (or not) but you're arguing evident that doesn't currently exist. |
evidence, not evident |
No, they don't. This is the worst kind of stereotyping. There's a saying "If you have seen one kid with autism, you've seen one kid." There is a LOT of variation, even among sibs. Autism is partly genetic and partly environmental. When you look at genetics for sibs with autism, they have mutations at different locations. It's not even the same genetic problem in the same family. |
She's rationalizing her decision to pay for therapy out of pocket. |
Do you want a cookie? Do you get to sit at a special lunch table to avoid being contaminated by the kids with ASDs? Does it comfort you at night to think "At least my kid doesn't have autism....?" Whatever gets you through the night, sugar. |
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This all reminds me of a conversation I had in the waiting room for OT a few years ago. my son was playing and I was trying to keep an eye on him.
Other Mom: He's not autistic you know. He plays with doors because he has MERLD. Me: I'm sorry what? Who? Other mom: You probably think my child is autistic because he keeps opening and closing the door on the toy house, but he isn't. Me: Oh, OK. I have no idea which child is yours. I am just trying to keep an eye on my son. Other mom: (points out her child who is playing with doors and then stops to flap with joy.) Flapping doesn't mean autism you know. Me: OK. Listen, I don't observe and diagnose other people's children. I am just trying to keep an eye on mine. This went on longer and then she asked my child's diagnosis. usually I don't share he has HFA, but I figured maybe it make her calm down. Me: He has HFA. Other mom: No, her doesn't. What doctors have you been to? This is what happens, they just throw around the autism diagnosis. I bet your child has MERLD. Me: I actually think the dx fits and I also think he is benefiting from the help he is getting. Other mom then proceeds to tell me what doctors I need to see, etc. FINALLY, my child's OT comes out to get him for the session and I left to "get something from my car." When I returned I sat next to someone quietly reading and I read. |
I had those relatives. The relative who is most Aspergers-ish was the most adamant my child isn't on the spectrum. He even said sarcastically something like "If George has HFA, then I must have severe autism because he's more social than I was at that age." This same relative has a Ph.D., but little social network. He functions well at work, but not outside of work. |
Your point? |
Her point is that MERLD parents are in denial, that MERLD kids are all really autistic. |
Is that right. |
Love you, PP. |
+2.
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The Diagnosis Glass is always greener. We thought our ds had HFA but he is actually schizophrenic.
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Really? How so? Seriously doubt a MERLD diagnosis or an ASD diagnosis makes much of a difference in the "classes one takes and opportunities given" but you seem to be saying that a MERLD diagnosis will have less of an impact. It probably depends on the individual and how severe they are impacted more than the actual diagnosis. |
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I read the free excerpt on Amazon and this dude doesn't know what he's talking about with respect to ASD. He discredited himself when he said he could tell after 2 minutes that a diagnosed patient wasn't truly autistic because he laughed at a poop joke during pretend play. My ASD kid can engage in pretend play and laugh at fart jokes, too. However, without the early therapies to teach him the basic skills, he wouldn't be where he is now.
I would not trust a generalist like this guy for an ASD diagnosis. |