I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.

[Anonymous]

OP, I have no questions for you because I tend to enjoy the snarky posts. DCUM is entertainment for me. Every circus needs a clown and we all know that clowns are depressed (tears of a clown). Thanks for fulfilling that role.

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That's the thing though. If you read my OP, you'll see that I'm really NOT insecure. I'm not perfect - hey, judgmental obviously! - but insecurity isn't something I struggle with. Which makes me wonder why I do this.

I also don't curse on DCUM, though I do IRL. Like poor grammar and spelling, it renders posts irrelevant IMO.

Just because you said you're not insecure in your OP, doesn't mean you're not. I assume that you are very insecure. Also, pointing out someone's poor grammar and spelling just means that you have nothing to add to the discussion. Do you really think you have to have perfect grammar to offer advice on parenting or anything else (except for grammar, of course).

Why does someone have to be insecure to have strong opinions? I genuinely don't get why that's a go-to. Sure, say I'm bitchy or judgmental or snooty - that makes more sense. But how does insecure even play in?

I have lots of strong opinions. About myself, my children, my family. But what another family does isn't really that interesting to me because I don't see how it affects me. One reason people care about what others do is because they see it as a judgment of what they do. For instance, you admittedly don't support SAHMs. While working is certainly a fine choice, there is no reason to have such strong opinions about what others do, unless you aren't really secure in your own decisions and use it as a defense mechanism - insult others to make you feel mor superior about your own life.

But this is just false in my case - I have the means (personal assets, not my husband's) to be a SAHM if I chose to. I have no doubt that it's the right choice for me. Just because something doesn't affect you, doesn't mean you can't have opinions about it. I'm not pregnant and don't plan to be, but I feel strongly that women should have the right to abort if they choose. I'm not low-income, but I believe strongly in promoting educational experiences for those who might not have access to them financially. On and on.

Nah. Just because you have the means to be a SAHM and you don't doesn't mean you are 100% ok with your choice. Clearly something that doesn't affect you at all shouldn't make you lash out at others online. Yet it does. You should evaluate yourself. Because that is a crappy way to live.

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Do you ever think about how your nasty comment could have derailed someone's evening, day or life?

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Anonymous wrote:I think you crave attention and seek it through available means. Since you fail at humor or erudition, your best bet is hostility. Irl there alway someone meaner and smarter, so you have to proceed with caution.

I have trouble responding to posts like this, that try to be well-written and edgy but fail completely. Of course there are people meaner and smarter than I. When did I say otherwise? And I'm actually pretty funny, though there hasn't been much chance to show that on this thread

Oh please, you had no trouble posting a bitchy response. IMO, funny and truly sarcastic posters don't look for a chance to demonstrate their skill, sadly, you are not one if them. And it's sad, because many dull meanies turn this site into yet another babycenter.

Looking to demonstrate? What are you even talking about?

Was that an attempt at humor? Accept it, you are not funny, just a jerk.

Um, no. Good lord, you're dumb.

No, you are dumb. And mean.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you ever think about how your nasty comment could have derailed someone's evening, day or life?

Not OP but I hope nobody posting on an anonymous board is that fragile.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you ever think about how your nasty comment could have derailed someone's evening, day or life?

If a comment online bothers you that much, don't be online. Seriously.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you ever think about how your nasty comment could have derailed someone's evening, day or life?

It would never occur to me that that would be the case - I'd never respond to a comment about me (hey, there've been plenty on this thread) with anything other than a passing thought. Also, I don't just attack emotionally fragile people for no reason. It's usually people who make comments I find ridiculous or offensive.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you ever think about how your nasty comment could have derailed someone's evening, day or life?

If a comment online bothers you that much, don't be online. Seriously.

Amen!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Do you ever think about how your nasty comment could have derailed someone's evening, day or life?

It would never occur to me that that would be the case - I'd never respond to a comment about me (hey, there've been plenty on this thread) with anything other than a passing thought. Also, I don't just attack emotionally fragile people for no reason. It's usually people who make comments I find ridiculous or offensive.

To clarify, I'm not a monster. If someone posts about committing suicide, I'm the one posting the hotline, not the one being horrific towards them. My comments are more in the context of conversations.

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That's the thing though. If you read my OP, you'll see that I'm really NOT insecure. I'm not perfect - hey, judgmental obviously! - but insecurity isn't something I struggle with. Which makes me wonder why I do this.

I also don't curse on DCUM, though I do IRL. Like poor grammar and spelling, it renders posts irrelevant IMO.

Just because you said you're not insecure in your OP, doesn't mean you're not. I assume that you are very insecure. Also, pointing out someone's poor grammar and spelling just means that you have nothing to add to the discussion. Do you really think you have to have perfect grammar to offer advice on parenting or anything else (except for grammar, of course).

Why does someone have to be insecure to have strong opinions? I genuinely don't get why that's a go-to. Sure, say I'm bitchy or judgmental or snooty - that makes more sense. But how does insecure even play in?

I have lots of strong opinions. About myself, my children, my family. But what another family does isn't really that interesting to me because I don't see how it affects me. One reason people care about what others do is because they see it as a judgment of what they do. For instance, you admittedly don't support SAHMs. While working is certainly a fine choice, there is no reason to have such strong opinions about what others do, unless you aren't really secure in your own decisions and use it as a defense mechanism - insult others to make you feel mor superior about your own life.

But this is just false in my case - I have the means (personal assets, not my husband's) to be a SAHM if I chose to. I have no doubt that it's the right choice for me. Just because something doesn't affect you, doesn't mean you can't have opinions about it. I'm not pregnant and don't plan to be, but I feel strongly that women should have the right to abort if they choose. I'm not low-income, but I believe strongly in promoting educational experiences for those who might not have access to them financially. On and on.

Yes. If THEY choose. Why is it so difficult for you to give SAHPs that same respect when they make difficult choices? Not everyone has the option of family friendly work hours in their field. What's it to you if they stay home a few years? What do you gain from criticizing them? I'm not a SAHP, fwiw.

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That's the thing though. If you read my OP, you'll see that I'm really NOT insecure. I'm not perfect - hey, judgmental obviously! - but insecurity isn't something I struggle with. Which makes me wonder why I do this.

I also don't curse on DCUM, though I do IRL. Like poor grammar and spelling, it renders posts irrelevant IMO.

Just because you said you're not insecure in your OP, doesn't mean you're not. I assume that you are very insecure. Also, pointing out someone's poor grammar and spelling just means that you have nothing to add to the discussion. Do you really think you have to have perfect grammar to offer advice on parenting or anything else (except for grammar, of course).

Why does someone have to be insecure to have strong opinions? I genuinely don't get why that's a go-to. Sure, say I'm bitchy or judgmental or snooty - that makes more sense. But how does insecure even play in?

I have lots of strong opinions. About myself, my children, my family. But what another family does isn't really that interesting to me because I don't see how it affects me. One reason people care about what others do is because they see it as a judgment of what they do. For instance, you admittedly don't support SAHMs. While working is certainly a fine choice, there is no reason to have such strong opinions about what others do, unless you aren't really secure in your own decisions and use it as a defense mechanism - insult others to make you feel mor superior about your own life.

But this is just false in my case - I have the means (personal assets, not my husband's) to be a SAHM if I chose to. I have no doubt that it's the right choice for me. Just because something doesn't affect you, doesn't mean you can't have opinions about it. I'm not pregnant and don't plan to be, but I feel strongly that women should have the right to abort if they choose. I'm not low-income, but I believe strongly in promoting educational experiences for those who might not have access to them financially. On and on.

Yes. If THEY choose. Why is it so difficult for you to give SAHPs that same respect when they make difficult choices? Not everyone has the option of family friendly work hours in their field. What's it to you if they stay home a few years? What do you gain from criticizing them? I'm not a SAHP, fwiw.

I don't categorically insult/disrespect every SAHM. I get that it's not an easy decision for everyone. My mother was one. There are certain types (the 'you're not raising your kids' type, the 'WE make so much money' type, etc) that I may weigh in on.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I have no questions for you because I tend to enjoy the snarky posts. DCUM is entertainment for me. Every circus needs a clown and we all know that clowns are depressed (tears of a clown). Thanks for fulfilling that role.

Wow, talk about insults that fall flat.

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That's the thing though. If you read my OP, you'll see that I'm really NOT insecure. I'm not perfect - hey, judgmental obviously! - but insecurity isn't something I struggle with. Which makes me wonder why I do this.

I also don't curse on DCUM, though I do IRL. Like poor grammar and spelling, it renders posts irrelevant IMO.

Just because you said you're not insecure in your OP, doesn't mean you're not. I assume that you are very insecure. Also, pointing out someone's poor grammar and spelling just means that you have nothing to add to the discussion. Do you really think you have to have perfect grammar to offer advice on parenting or anything else (except for grammar, of course).

Why does someone have to be insecure to have strong opinions? I genuinely don't get why that's a go-to. Sure, say I'm bitchy or judgmental or snooty - that makes more sense. But how does insecure even play in?

I have lots of strong opinions. About myself, my children, my family. But what another family does isn't really that interesting to me because I don't see how it affects me. One reason people care about what others do is because they see it as a judgment of what they do. For instance, you admittedly don't support SAHMs. While working is certainly a fine choice, there is no reason to have such strong opinions about what others do, unless you aren't really secure in your own decisions and use it as a defense mechanism - insult others to make you feel mor superior about your own life.

But this is just false in my case - I have the means (personal assets, not my husband's) to be a SAHM if I chose to. I have no doubt that it's the right choice for me. Just because something doesn't affect you, doesn't mean you can't have opinions about it. I'm not pregnant and don't plan to be, but I feel strongly that women should have the right to abort if they choose. I'm not low-income, but I believe strongly in promoting educational experiences for those who might not have access to them financially. On and on.

Yes. If THEY choose. Why is it so difficult for you to give SAHPs that same respect when they make difficult choices? Not everyone has the option of family friendly work hours in their field. What's it to you if they stay home a few years? What do you gain from criticizing them? I'm not a SAHP, fwiw.

Because someone else choosing something different from what OP has chosen is a personal affront. She seems it as a judgment of her. That is the only explanation that makes sense.

[Anonymous]

I like you OP. You are one of the reasons I keep coming here. You say it like it is. I wish you could do that IRL, too but I'll take it here. I am not sensing insecurity, btw.

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Anonymous wrote:I like you OP. You are one of the reasons I keep coming here. You say it like it is. I wish you could do that IRL, too but I'll take it here. I am not sensing insecurity, btw.

Time to start a new thread, OP: "I am a sock puppet. AMA".