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I really want that pudding recipe!
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Maybe because the MIL is providing the house, and the hospitality, and the use of her kitchen/silverware/dishes, and every other dish on the table? I guess my family is different, because in my family we don't expect one relative, especially an elderly relative, to take on the entire burden. My mom usually hosts, and the rest of us actually ask her what she'd like us to bring, and then follow her suggestions. |
It depends on the host. Some hosts like to do it all themselves, some hosts prefer (or come to prefer) contributions from the guests. |
my rule is- don't offer to host unless you are prepared to completely host. otherwise call it a potluck. |
I agree 100%, but the host in this case is the MIL, who has made it clear that she prefers contributions from the guests. A perfectly reasonable preference. |
Absolutely. And if Op has logistical issues with bringing/making that particular dish she should just say so and offer an alternative. |
I would never single one person out to bring something without asking everyone to contribute. Especially an out of towner! |
OP: Post the recipe already, for the love of all that is soft and squishy. Or else we don't believe it's not really super easy and you're just bein' bitchy about your MIL.
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OP already said that her MIL is ordering everything else for the dinner. |
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It's sort of a compliment to you that your MIL likes your pudding enough to request it. So acknowledge the compliment, the circumstances, and compromise.
"Marge, I'm glad you enjoy my pudding so much that you'd like it for the holiday meal, but the logistics with TSA security and food safety are just too tricky. (Attach TSA regs posted upthread to the email.) We'll be with you all weekend. How about it I make it Friday to go with the leftovers?" Done and done. |
O.k. - it's a little weird that Op is the only one who is expected to fly in and go straight into the kitchen while everyone else is kicking back and taking it easy. Maybe Op can hand her dh the recipe and tell him to take care of it while she takes a nap? Is there a chance that MIL has divided up other duties - setting the table/cleaning the house, dish duty among the other family members. Maybe the other guests are complaining that they have to scrape plates, scrub floors while all op has to do is mix up a little pudding. Pudding! |
| No way will OP post the recipe if it has gathered this much fanfare. Especially if it's a family/semisecret recipe. I probably wouldn't post it either hhahahah. |
Disclaimer: I am a progressive liberal woman....but I have to admit, I judge (and would be sorely disappointed with) a non-homemade thanksgiving meal. Ordering? Yuck. |
So, do you think you order magically appear? You don't have to pay for them, or drive to pick them up, or arrange them for the table? Hosting guests, and serving a full meal, even if you didn't cook any of it, is still more work than making pudding. |
HAHA give me a break |