If you could go back in time would you still have kids?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. That said, I'm jealous of childless friends for their time, disposable income, freedom, and sleep. Very jealous. But I still love my life as mom without those four.

I have zero jealousy of my childless friends. I can't imagine having their life. However, I have an amazing DH who is truly a partner in raising our children, so for me, it has been a wonderful ride. I think having a spouse you love and who pitches in makes the experience a huge difference.

Having kids made me realize how selfish my H is, doesn't make me regret having the kids.

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Anonymous wrote:YES! And I'd start earlier so I could have two.

Me too. Old DC Mom. Lots of education and only one kid. She is wonderful and we wish we could have another one, but it wasn't in the cards. Gotta keep the one we have healthy and happy.

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Anonymous wrote:Even though my ex cheated and had a diagnosed psychological breakdown, leaving me to raise our 4 year old autistic child alone, I would still do it again. My kid is awesome and my life is so much more fulfilling than it was before.

You are a hero! You go!

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Even though my ex cheated and had a diagnosed psychological breakdown, leaving me to raise our 4 year old autistic child alone, I would still do it again. My kid is awesome and my life is so much more fulfilling than it was before.

You are a hero! You go!

+1

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I would have had more. I have two. I wish I had started earlier and not been such a wuss - over thinking/analyzing.

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Anonymous wrote:I love my kids dearly, but still I would not recommend having them in my forties as I did.

My aunt is 59 and has a 13yr old and a 16yr old. She is wrecked and is not shy about telling me it is because of her age. Before i had kids and was just married to her nephew she would tell me all the time to hurry up and have kids. She also says she feels very bad that her career took a hit in her 40s and advised me to take the blow in my 20s/30s. She was right. Im in my mid 30s, school aged kids and took a few years off when they were little and I was only making 50k/yr, so it was NBD, nor a financial hit. I picked it back up after they were preschoolers and am now in a six figure leadership role. By the time I hit 45 and they will have just graduated HS, I will be hitting my peak earning, just in time. Could not imagine, even in my career now, having babies. She's waiting up at night for teens and dealing with some serious drama at 59…and when I'm 59 my kids will be 33 & 31.

Not everyone has the option of having kids early due to many factors, infertility being a big one.

Wrecked or not, bet she wouldn't trade those kids.

Well of course not. She would however have started earlier (her words, not mine). She was married 12 years before choosing to have kids and then struggled to have #2 and had expensive IVF to conceive. That is often what happens when you try to have kids at 46, vs 32. She is very worried because their father (61) is in the early stages of Parkinsons, her career is blown, and she will be a senior citizen when they are still in college. Hopefully the Parkinsons will progress slowly. It is sad.

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OMG yes. They give my life meaning. Their Dad is a shit. Both of my parents died. My only sibling lives abroad.

Where the hell would I be without these two amazing souls?

Okay, so I'd look five years younger and have a couple of books out. I probably would also be living abroad and socializing with adults. Yeah, that.

Wouldn't trade being a late in life Mom to two wonderful children for anything. They are magnificent. I yearn to live up to what they demand of me.

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As a child free person I am so thankful for all the PPs doing the hard work so I don't have to! It sounds absolutely miserable. Well done!

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Anonymous wrote:As a child free person I am so thankful for all the PPs doing the hard work so I don't have to! It sounds absolutely miserable. Well done!

Don't be a twat.

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This morning my kiddos climbed into my bed and my dd hugged me and said "you are the best mother in the WHOLE world." Those were the first words spoken to me this morning and it has absolutely made my day.

Yes. I would do it again. It isn't easy and I do occasionally envy the freedom of my younger self, but I wouldn't trade it in at all. These two complete me.

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Yes to #1, and, although it kills me to write this, not sure for #2(extremely disabled).

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Yes, although I think I would have liked to have started younger. But then, I wouldn't have been able to have them with my husband and I wouldn't have the kid I do, so it's hard to say I would make that tradeoff. Maybe I would have had two, but I'm not entirely sure about that.

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Anonymous wrote:As a child free person I am so thankful for all the PPs doing the hard work so I don't have to! It sounds absolutely miserable. Well done!

Enjoy your reproductive cancer.

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Anonymous wrote:As a child free person I am so thankful for all the PPs doing the hard work so I don't have to! It sounds absolutely miserable. Well done!

Enjoy your reproductive cancer.

WTF? What is wrong with you?

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Anonymous wrote:As a child free person I am so thankful for all the PPs doing the hard work so I don't have to! It sounds absolutely miserable. Well done!

Don't be a twat.

Child-free person here as well and I agree. Why hate the parents who love their choice to have kids? It's no better than the parents who assume the child-free are lonely and bitter and unfulfilled. Geez.