If you could go back in time would you still have kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This morning my kiddos climbed into my bed and my dd hugged me and said "you are the best mother in the WHOLE world." Those were the first words spoken to me this morning and it has absolutely made my day.

Yes. I would do it again. It isn't easy and I do occasionally envy the freedom of my younger self, but I wouldn't trade it in at all. These two complete me.

That's awesome!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:YES! And I'd start earlier so I could have two.

Me too. Old DC Mom. Lots of education and only one kid. She is wonderful and we wish we could have another one, but it wasn't in the cards. Gotta keep the one we have healthy and happy.

Me three.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would I do it over again? No. It's a ton of work and I would honestly rather be able to spend the time I spend on my kids, furthering my career, travelling and going to the spa. I'd like to leave my house by walking out the door and to my car with out either a) a babysitter or b) herding my children to said car.

However, I imagine in the years to come, my opinion will change. Parenting gets easier and more rewarding the older they get. (I have twin 5 year old kindergartners) I enjoy it so much more now than I did even a year ago.

I feel similarly (have a 4yo).
Maybe I would have felt differently if I had a more involved, mature, and appreciative spouse? Who knows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes but with a different father AND would def. not choose to be a single mom ughhh

Q. for you and others who responded similarly: do you regret the choice of your kids rather because he did not change the way you expected him to when you married him? Put another way, did the man fail to grow up or assume the proper role as father as he should?

Why the regret, exactly?

[Anonymous]

In the 40s, no. I just laugh when I read threads of 40? 41? 45? 47? 50? too old?

[Anonymous]

Yes, but not here. I would have moved home immediately to avoid the custody he'll I've been through.

[Anonymous]

Yes, and would have had more, like 4 kids. Adore my 2.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely no question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, and would have had more, like 4 kids. Adore my 2.

Me too! I wish we had more than our 1 but we started too late unfortunately... But better one than none by 10000000000s!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:YES! And I'd start earlier so I could have two.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:YES! And I'd start earlier so I could have two.

Me too. Old DC Mom. Lots of education and only one kid. She is wonderful and we wish we could have another one, but it wasn't in the cards. Gotta keep the one we have healthy and happy.

Me three.

Me 4.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would.
I have 3 unruly terrible teenagers.
I would definitely have kids again. Just not these same ones

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes but with a different father AND would def. not choose to be a single mom ughhh

Q. for you and others who responded similarly: do you regret the choice of your kids rather because he did not change the way you expected him to when you married him? Put another way, did the man fail to grow up or assume the proper role as father as he should?

Why the regret, exactly?

I answered similarly, except that I'm the DH. I've always been attracted to brooding types with a sarcastic sense of humor. Turns out those qualities aren't very attractive in a spouse and parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I would.
I have 3 unruly terrible teenagers.
I would definitely have kids again. Just not these same ones

Lol, love this.
I have teens too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes but with a different father AND would def. not choose to be a single mom ughhh

Q. for you and others who responded similarly: do you regret the choice of your kids rather because he did not change the way you expected him to when you married him? Put another way, did the man fail to grow up or assume the proper role as father as he should?

Why the regret, exactly?

I answered similarly, except that I'm the DH. I've always been attracted to brooding types with a sarcastic sense of humor. Turns out those qualities aren't very attractive in a spouse and parent.

Thanks very much - trying to understand this. Your response makes perfect sense.

Anyone else? (male or female parent; just really curious about those who responded "yes but with a different partner").