| Some of you should grow up and stop the blame game. We need to honestly look at the many causes of depression and deal with it. Short term meds may be needed for severe mental illness, but they do not make you "healthy". |
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Why aren't the kids themselves speaking out about the real issues? Do they not trust any adult? Do they know there'll be repercussions to their brutal honesty? Are they afraid? |
This sock puppet posts every few days to revive the thread. Enough already. |
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It could be a failure of the person in communicating their wants and needs. My husband had serious teen depression and as an adult I noticed that his adult depressive episodes seem to be related to his not being great at communicating. Communicating things he doesn't like, things he'd like to change, stuff that bugs him, his hopes his ideas. His mom was an alcoholic and completely unavailable which might have had something to do with it, I don't know. Maybe at that age not - but clearly she had similar issues (and still does). I try to keep the lines of communication open. It seems to help. It is not easy. One time he had kind of a little breakdown and I was surprised at the stuff he shared then they I had never heard before. We are much better at communicating now but sometimes I snoop on his phone not to see if he's having an affair but to see what he is thinking about sometimes. Sometimes I still get the stonewalling DH. With a teen that doesn't communicate - it's hard because (and yes I have one of these at home) they can be totally secretive about so many things. So it's like an endless game of trying to do right by them while being screamed at (I now just acknowledge that 'I suck' and I got myself a mug that says 'worst mom ever'. Someone buy me the tshirt? Nothing I do is good enough for the teen) one minute and hearing snippets of her life other minutes. Teens are all stonewalling all the time. That doesn't help. |
You are so right. We should all have that "I suck" mug/shirt.
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Going back to the first page or so, yes, absolutely a concussion can trigger depression or adverse behavior changes. Following a moderate concussion this happened to my child, but at the time concussions were not taken very seriously once the CT scan was done and no bleeding in the brain was detected. We were given no advice on what to look for afterwards and struggled mightily with a child whose behavior changed radically in not good ways.
If your child has a concussion, please take the recovery very seriously and fight with the school about avoiding mental overload in the aftermath. Schools now seem aware of sports-related steps they need to take but remain clueless about academic impacts. |
This is excellent advice. Thank you. I think HS sports need to be reevaluated. |