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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I really hate this idea that something must be wrong in a family if a child has depression.  Most kids with depression come from loving, stable homes.  My DC had serious depression.  I've had serious depression.  There's obviously something genetic going on here.[/quote]
But what, if anything, were triggers or stressors?  Or did it just come out of no where (besides genetics)?  [/quote]

It could be a failure of the person in communicating their wants and needs.
My husband had serious teen depression and as an adult I noticed that his adult depressive episodes seem to be related to his not being great at communicating. Communicating things he doesn't like, things he'd like to change, stuff that bugs him, his hopes his ideas. 
His mom was an alcoholic and completely unavailable which might have had something to do with it, I don't know. Maybe at that age not - but clearly she had similar issues (and still does).
I try to keep the lines of communication open. It seems to help. It is not easy. One time he had kind of a little breakdown and I was surprised at the stuff he shared then they I had never heard before. We are much better at communicating now but sometimes I snoop on his phone not to see if he's having an affair but to see what he is thinking about sometimes. Sometimes I still get the stonewalling DH.

With a teen that doesn't communicate - it's hard because (and yes I have one of these at home) they can be totally secretive about so many things. So it's like an endless game of trying to do right by them while being screamed at (I now just acknowledge that 'I suck' and I got myself a mug that says 'worst mom ever'. Someone buy me the tshirt? Nothing I do is good enough for the  teen) one minute and hearing snippets of her life other minutes. Teens are all stonewalling all the time. That doesn't help.[/quote]

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