Would you date someone in his/her late 30s who is still a virgin?

[Anonymous]

I'm 34 and I don't think it's that unusual. I know to women who are virgins are 34. One bc she has no self esteem and doesn't think she's good enough (she thinks she's ugly etc) . Even though she's cute.

Another who is drop dead gorgeous but picky as hell. this one dates but doesn't give a guy a decent chance unless he's perfect.

Both are fairly conservative women and more religious than not. Both I think would be great partners if they could open up more. As girl friends they are the nicest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope that someone will because I believe that my cousin is a virgin and she is that age. Lovely young woman, but shy and dealing with some family issues beyond her control.

I remember you (your cousins' issue) from a different post...so what steps is she taking to meet a good guy?

She's setting up an Eharmony profile! Her sister and I are splitting the cost of a membership for her for now. Thanks for asking.

[Anonymous]

I am a man who was a virgin until his 30's but now in a very loving, sexually charged relationship. Seemingly outgoing, I suffered from a lot of social anxiety regarding dating. Looking back, there were women definitely interested but I didn't move it forward and was also afraid that my lack of experience would be a turn off.

What I eventually learned with the right person is that sex is not a competition but a way to deepen the incredible bond I have with her and experiment with new things that add to our relationship.

So I would say yes, date someone in their 30's who is a virgin. My partner seems to be having a very good time!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 34 and I don't think it's that unusual. I know to women who are virgins are 34. One bc she has no self esteem and doesn't think she's good enough (she thinks she's ugly etc) . Even though she's cute.

Another who is drop dead gorgeous but picky as hell. this one dates but doesn't give a guy a decent chance unless he's perfect.

Both are fairly conservative women and more religious than not. Both I think would be great partners if they could open up more. As girl friends they are the nicest.

Yet you think they "would be great partners"? Um, no. This dysfunction is why they are virgins. Red flag that these psychological issues would make them horrible partners and people would be wise to stay away.

[Anonymous]

I would date a guy who was a virgin well into his 20s, but after that, I'm not sure. Maybe if there were some legitimate reason (religion doesn't count because I'm an atheist and only would get serious with other agnostic/atheist people)... like he has a disability and has hence not had much luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most don't use condoms in a relationship for to long. Unless your super worried about pregnancy even with being on bc. I'd say no more then 2 months.

Wow, how many women have you impregnated? How many diseases do you have and which?

[Anonymous]

Late 30's? By that point you've been an adult for 20 years and...Never? Really?

If I were still single and dating I think that I would be wary of a late 30's virgin. I totally understand and respect waiting for religious reasons - but 20 years is a L-O-N-G time to wait. It just seems that a delay like that would mean that there was something more to it than just religious reasons. Maybe some sort of hang up? I don't know..but if I thought there was potential for a LTR I would at least try to sort all of that out with them I suppose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bottomline - you date people you are attracted to. And if they want to date you, they also are attracted to you.

So eventually, sex will follow and virginity will be a moot point. And you will have more sex and find pleasure.

I am not understanding the big deal? Unless the question is - I am dating a late 30s virgin who does not eventually want to have sex?

I'll tell you the big deal. A guy who's a virgin until his late 30s has less experience than I do, is likely less interested in sex and would be shocked at some of the things I like. I know, I dated a guy who was in his late 20s, a recovering Mormon who'd slept with one woman. He couldn't imagine giving oral, doing anal, self pleasure ( for me), was shocked at the thought of using toys. If you're a woman who's not much into sex or is into infrequent vanilla sex, maybe. That relationship lasted six months.

That probably had more to do with him being Mormon than with only having had one other partner.

[Anonymous]

no and no.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't recommend this; I'm a guy who lost his v-card at 14. At 40, divorced, I tried to date a 36 year old who I believe was a virgin. Yes, very religious, and pretty picky. Totally did not work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 34 and I don't think it's that unusual. I know to women who are virgins are 34. One bc she has no self esteem and doesn't think she's good enough (she thinks she's ugly etc) . Even though she's cute.

Another who is drop dead gorgeous but picky as hell. this one dates but doesn't give a guy a decent chance unless he's perfect.

Both are fairly conservative women and more religious than not. Both I think would be great partners if they could open up more. As girl friends they are the nicest.

Yet you think they "would be great partners"? Um, no. This dysfunction is why they are virgins. Red flag that these psychological issues would make them horrible partners and people would be wise to stay away.

I think the former can be worked with. The latter is more difficult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't recommend this; I'm a guy who lost his v-card at 14. At 40, divorced, I tried to date a 36 year old who I believe was a virgin. Yes, very religious, and pretty picky. Totally did not work.

I'm not a virgin, but I wouldn't date a guy who was having sex at age 14. Or referring to virginity as the "v-card" above the age of 14.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't recommend this; I'm a guy who lost his v-card at 14. At 40, divorced, I tried to date a 36 year old who I believe was a virgin. Yes, very religious, and pretty picky. Totally did not work.

I'm not a virgin, but I wouldn't date a guy who was having sex at age 14. Or referring to virginity as the "v-card" above the age of 14.

Agree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't recommend this; I'm a guy who lost his v-card at 14. At 40, divorced, I tried to date a 36 year old who I believe was a virgin. Yes, very religious, and pretty picky. Totally did not work.

I'm not a virgin, but I wouldn't date a guy who was having sex at age 14. Or referring to virginity as the "v-card" above the age of 14.

Really, how would you know this? Are you asking people when they started having sex when dating? Seems like you're taking shots at PP for silly reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't recommend this; I'm a guy who lost his v-card at 14. At 40, divorced, I tried to date a 36 year old who I believe was a virgin. Yes, very religious, and pretty picky. Totally did not work.

I'm not a virgin, but I wouldn't date a guy who was having sex at age 14. Or referring to virginity as the "v-card" above the age of 14.

Really, how would you know this? Are you asking people when they started having sex when dating? Seems like you're taking shots at PP for silly reasons.

I'm in a relationship now, but when I was on the market, I actually did bother to get to know people's values before going out with them. I suppose that a guy could have lied and said that he lost his virginity later, but how would he know what age I saw as a cutoff? Most guys would actually lie on the side of a younger age than an older one.