Ladies... what's the worst trait for a guy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bah. Ladies dig cocky, smug guys. But they rationalize their attraction by calling it "confidence."

We like 100% self confidence with zero cockiness. Confident enough to be kind, genuine, and self-effacing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bah. Ladies dig cocky, smug guys. But they rationalize their attraction by calling it "confidence."

We like 100% self confidence with zero cockiness. Confident enough to be kind, genuine, and self-effacing.

Np. Basically, don't be the guy who uses the phrase, "hey buddy."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm curious what's an instant deal breaker or turn off for women.

Is it a guy being fat, stupid, lazy, boring, other...?

Weakness

I don't mean physical weakness. Some men can't help that and with others, it can be remedied, if needed.

I mean weakness of character. My ex-husband had no moral convictions and was a coward with no backbone. Except for women. He bullied women. He was very charming when we dated and after we married, the mask fell away quickly.

[Anonymous]

Cheap

[Anonymous]

Insecure

[Anonymous]

Overly involved on social media.

[Anonymous]

There are so many. (Most of which have already been mentioned, I'm sure, but here goes.)

Insecure
Misogynistic
Always on their phone
Player
Stingy
Bad in bed
Rude
Neglects grooming (slovenly?)
Poorly dressed
Lacks ambition
Awkward

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, I'll say it. Physical attraction is important.
Being grossly overweight (I can be into a chubby guy)
Not well groomed
Bad smell (BO, breath, or cologne overkill)
Feminine hands (I'm so attracted to strong manly hands, girly hands turn me off)
Excessive body hair
Horrible style (I'm talking taz T-shirts and NASCAR hats)
Those are my physical turn offs, I posted my nonphysical deal breakers earlier.

Just for curiosity, what is your age? (I, a male grew up in a time where chest hair was considered sexy; I will not shave my body hair, but I do not expect you to either).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It turns me off to see an old guy in an expensive convertible. It's just so cliche.

Maybe I was't trying to turn you on. Maybe I finally got to the point in life, after surviving cancer, putting my kids through school, etc, that the Porshe convertible was affordable?

[Anonymous]

Entitlement

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have expected more 'fat' answers. What traits overcome the bad ones? Money? Brad Pitt looks?

Fat isn't a trait. Physical appearance isn't a trait.

[Anonymous]

Unreliability. Can't count on him to be on time. Can't count on him to pay his share of the rent. Can't count on him to remember your birthday. Can't count on him to hold down a job or even show up for work.

Serial cheater would probably be number two. Of course, liar/thief/druggie/DUIer would be up there too.

[Anonymous]

Someone who whines.

God, that is SO unattractive.

[Anonymous]

Actually, I said unreliability is #1 but I forgot about mean/abusive/controlling/violent - that would be a definite No.

[Anonymous]

Unreliable or irresponsible. Bad planner. Totally disorganized. Not looking to be his mother.