Letting your kids drink at home?

[Anonymous]

Why is everybody allowing their teenagers to just HANG OUT? I occasionally allow my DS to go out to a movie or dinner with his friends. All of this free time you are affording your kids is not instilling good work ethic and engraining a sense of entitlement.

[Anonymous]

"This guy came to the forum for an open discussion, not a lecture from parents who have no ability to consider different parenting strategies?"

Noo, this bozo was a "my way or the highway" kind of asshole.

[Anonymous]

This is a black and white issue for me. No gray area at all. I would never in a million years allow my kids to drink at home because it is illegal. And I don't condone illegal activities.

My kids know that I am fine with adults have a drink occasionally. They also know that if it were not illegal, I would be fine giving them a beer or a glass of wine. But it's against the law, so we don't do it.

I have five kids. My oldest graduates from college next year. The others are teens. We have never had even one single issue related to drinking.

[Anonymous]

Who knew there were so many boozers on the DCUM?

[Anonymous]

"Would you really be so judgmental about the parent who was so concerned that they'd rather be there to supervise incase something went seriously wrong?"

Would you let your kid smoke in your house?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a black and white issue for me. No gray area at all. I would never in a million years allow my kids to drink at home because it is illegal. And I don't condone illegal activities.

My kids know that I am fine with adults have a drink occasionally. They also know that if it were not illegal, I would be fine giving them a beer or a glass of wine. But it's against the law, so we don't do it.

I have five kids. My oldest graduates from college next year. The others are teens. We have never had even one single issue related to drinking.

Actually it isn't illegal in most states, including Maryland and Virginia. Where do you live?

[Anonymous]

dedicateddad wrote:I hate to agree with and therefore "feed the troll" per se but I'm afraid that I can't disagree with it. I think that perhaps the LSD is the only thing I would prefer to keep my kids away from and might not allow in my home but as a parent of twin 14 year old boys it began to make more sense for my wife and I to give them the basement area where they can have some friends over and do what they are going to do anyway...but now they have a safe place. We also RARELY purchase liquor for them...no reason for inexperienced kids to get alcohol poisoning...but we will buy them a case of beer and let them all get a little crazy and have no risk of them trying to get behind the wheel of a car or do something stupid.


My question to bring to the table is in regards to sex...our boys are really just getting interested in girls and we have taught them about being safe...what do you other parents think about providing condoms and a safe CLEAN place for the kids to experiment sexually...

Just started reading this thread. Are you kidding! 14 year olds? I can see maybe 17 year olds choke choke, but 14? Wow!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of this talk about guns and politics is getting away from my original post. The fact is, the fact that I am providing a supervised and safe forum for these activities, and my children will be the better for it. Their friends like the system too, they often joke that they wish their parents were so open-minded.

Liberals ... trying to be cool and connect with their teenages.

Sorry, but don't be painting all us liberals with a broad brush. I'm as politically liberal as they come but there is no way I'm going to buy alcohol for my 14 year old and his friends. This is crazy stuff! Yes, we discuss all kinds of disease and pregnancy prevention strategies with DS so he will be prepared but Jeez, I'm not holding any parties in my house. Liberal yes law abiding definitely!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a black and white issue for me. No gray area at all. I would never in a million years allow my kids to drink at home because it is illegal. And I don't condone illegal activities.

My kids know that I am fine with adults have a drink occasionally. They also know that if it were not illegal, I would be fine giving them a beer or a glass of wine. But it's against the law, so we don't do it.

I have five kids. My oldest graduates from college next year. The others are teens. We have never had even one single issue related to drinking.

Actually it isn't illegal in most states, including Maryland and Virginia. Where do you live?

"Some parents believe that, to ensure their teens' safety, they should allow their children to drink at home with parental supervision so that they won't try to do it in a dangerous environment. Maryland recently enacted a law that will now fines such parents $1,000-$2,500. This applies to any adult over the age of 21 that is caught providing an underage drinker with alcohol. A repeat offense increases the fine to $5,000.Kurt Gregory Erickson, president of the Washington Regional Alcohol

From US Law .com

I would say that you are wrong that it is not illegal. It is also a huge liability should anything happen to any one of those kids on your watch.

Also that fine is per kid caught at your house drinking. You ave 20 kids, it could be a $20,000 fine. And it has been enforced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but don't be painting all us liberals with a broad brush. I'm as politically liberal as they come but there is no way I'm going to buy alcohol for my 14 year old and his friends. This is crazy stuff! Yes, we discuss all kinds of disease and pregnancy prevention strategies with DS so he will be prepared but Jeez, I'm not holding any parties in my house. Liberal yes law abiding definitely!

I think that I would rather have you serve alcohol than serve condoms to my kids.... ugh, Liberals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmm. This is an interesting thread to read as a parent. I do not understand the hostility among the fellow parents in a discussion forum. I guess the internet is just like real life! LOL!

My child is too young for this to be a concern of mine right now, but there will be that time in the future. I agree with the original posting except for the drugs. Teenagers and beer, sure. Marijuana is probably OK too, but LSD? Wow, I do not agree with that. There is not enough brain power brain power to get through that type of experience for a young teenager if they veer off course. It lasts too long.

LSD does not cause lasting brain damage. One of my high school friends took more LSD than the rest of us, and he went on to get a PhD in physics from Harvard and a career in a national lab.

You need to do your research on mind-altering substances and their effects. Kids know when parents don't know what they're talking about and will discount everything you say.

[Anonymous]

LSD does not cause lasting brain damage. One of my high school friends took more LSD than the rest of us, and he went on to get a PhD in physics from Harvard and a career in a national lab.

You need to do your research on mind-altering substances and their effects. Kids know when parents don't know what they're talking about and will discount everything you say.

I suggest you do some research as well. From what we understand of LSD, we can't find a reason for lasting damage. But there is considerable evidence that "bad trips" do exist and can cause serious psychological complications (anxiety disorders, depression disorders, etc.). Have you ever been around someone having a bad trip? Because I have, and it is no small thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a black and white issue for me. No gray area at all. I would never in a million years allow my kids to drink at home because it is illegal. And I don't condone illegal activities.

My kids know that I am fine with adults have a drink occasionally. They also know that if it were not illegal, I would be fine giving them a beer or a glass of wine. But it's against the law, so we don't do it.

I have five kids. My oldest graduates from college next year. The others are teens. We have never had even one single issue related to drinking.

Actually it isn't illegal in most states, including Maryland and Virginia. Where do you live?

"Some parents believe that, to ensure their teens' safety, they should allow their children to drink at home with parental supervision so that they won't try to do it in a dangerous environment. Maryland recently enacted a law that will now fines such parents $1,000-$2,500. This applies to any adult over the age of 21 that is caught providing an underage drinker with alcohol. A repeat offense increases the fine to $5,000.Kurt Gregory Erickson, president of the Washington Regional Alcohol

From US Law .com

I would say that you are wrong that it is not illegal. It is also a huge liability should anything happen to any one of those kids on your watch.

Also that fine is per kid caught at your house drinking. You ave 20 kids, it could be a $20,000 fine. And it has been enforced.

You are wrong. It is legal to give your child a drink in your own house in Maryland, as in most states.

"The prohibition set forth in subsection (a) of this section does not apply if the person furnishing the alcoholic beverage and the individual to whom the alcoholic beverage is furnished:
(i) are members of the same immediate family, and the alcoholic beverage is furnished and consumed in a private residence or within the curtilage of the residence; or etc..."

http://mlis.state.md.us/asp/statutes_respond.asp?article=gcr§ion=10-114&Extension=HTML
http://mlis.state.md.us/asp/statutes_respond.asp?article=gcr§ion=10-117&Extension=HTML

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a black and white issue for me. No gray area at all. I would never in a million years allow my kids to drink at home because it is illegal. And I don't condone illegal activities.

My kids know that I am fine with adults have a drink occasionally. They also know that if it were not illegal, I would be fine giving them a beer or a glass of wine. But it's against the law, so we don't do it.

I have five kids. My oldest graduates from college next year. The others are teens. We have never had even one single issue related to drinking.

Actually it isn't illegal in most states, including Maryland and Virginia. Where do you live?

"Some parents believe that, to ensure their teens' safety, they should allow their children to drink at home with parental supervision so that they won't try to do it in a dangerous environment. Maryland recently enacted a law that will now fines such parents $1,000-$2,500. This applies to any adult over the age of 21 that is caught providing an underage drinker with alcohol. A repeat offense increases the fine to $5,000.Kurt Gregory Erickson, president of the Washington Regional Alcohol

From US Law .com

I would say that you are wrong that it is not illegal. It is also a huge liability should anything happen to any one of those kids on your watch.

Also that fine is per kid caught at your house drinking. You ave 20 kids, it could be a $20,000 fine. And it has been enforced.

You are wrong. It is legal to give your child a drink in your own house in Maryland, as in most states.

"The prohibition set forth in subsection (a) of this section does not apply if the person furnishing the alcoholic beverage and the individual to whom the alcoholic beverage is furnished:
(i) are members of the same immediate family, and the alcoholic beverage is furnished and consumed in a private residence or within the curtilage of the residence; or etc..."

http://mlis.state.md.us/asp/statutes_respond.asp?article=gcr§ion=10-114&Extension=HTML
http://mlis.state.md.us/asp/statutes_respond.asp?article=gcr§ion=10-117&Extension=HTML

You need to read the thread a little more carefully.This person is giving other people's kids liquor and providing a place for them to drink which is the illegal part and the part they will get fined as well as have a huge legal liability should anything happen to someone else's kid.

[Anonymous]

I have been told that the party host parents commonly throw drunk kids out if it looks like the police are coming. the idiots supply booze and kids bring more. I suppose extra is sneaked in or some parents like the tools posting here don't care.