You and your child don’t know the truth. Once again: unless you/your child actually saw each student’s transcript, all you know is what you were told. However, I agree with you on one thing. This discussion is fruitless. You will never convince me that all 3 of those students had 3.95+ GPAs. Time to move on. |
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Do you two ever wonder why you spend so much time thinking about other people’s grades? It’s not something most of us do.
In a few years, you’ll have some distance and perspective and you may ask yourselves this question. But for now, you two should really have coffee; you have a lot in common. |
Narrator: The athletic recruit also had a high GPA. Just because someone is an athlete doesn't mean their full application is any "less" than a non-athlete. Stop making assumptions. |
| Just a note, as a SFS parent, this board does NOT reflect the craziness of most parents at the school. Yes, there are handful of super type-A, gunner people (as at any school) but, in my experience, this certainly is not representative of the school. It's embarrassing that a handful of parents have these discussions on an anonymous board. |
I agree that there are nice parents. But it is also 100% true that this is not a discussion or question you could ask other SFS parents. It's a weird place that way. And some people that are perfectly nice day to day are digging in hard behind the scenes (purposely not divulging). There is usually close to zero exposure on "institutional knowledge" for families that were new in 9th (from other parents and from CCO). Maybe that sort of info is more accessible if you were rising MS family, but probably only if you know a fellow parent whose older child(ren) already graduated and they happen to be willing to share and are trust-worthy. And of course, you finally know the real story once your child has fully gone through admissions. By knowledge, I mean - full story on college chances for unhooked high stats kids, how grades/rigor impact this, which colleges are particularly un-friendly (or friendly) to SFS applicants. |
Actually, it does more than you think or would like to think. People cover it up well but it’s there. It’s nuts. |
PP you are responding to. That has not been my experience at all. I have three kids, one who has graduated and two who are in the US. I don't think the parents are any more nuts than at any other DC independent school. Regardless of people's experiences, airing this on a public forum is just embarrassing. Just talk to parents at the school who have older kids! |
IME at three schools, they are no more nuts than parents at other schools like Sidwell. But, yeah, many of them are bat-shyte, particularly when it comes to college admissions. You probably are too close to see it. |
| Hey, the average grade at Harvard is an A minus. Does anyone with a teaspoon of brains think all these students are brilliant subject matter experts? These grades are meaningless ... more to do with social politics than academic worth! |
The Sidwell parents I know are super competitive about everything. I think it does represent most. |
+100. Super competitive! Including the seemingly “low key” ones. |
12:59 weighing in - yes- there are parents who are competitive and hide it - seemingly aware of their craziness - but I think also hiding their cards to get any advantage they think they can. But, there are regular nice parents too. Unfortunately, since you never know who's crazy and not - even nice parents don't talk much about substantive matters related to school or college. |
I'm not a Sidwell parent, but I don't know why the fact that there are competitive parents there is either surprising or necessarily negative. There's a type of school for everyone. If by "competitive" you mean that they value achievement, then of course they are, or else why would they send their kids to a school such as Sidwell. These are not the type of parents who would be totally fine if their their kids end up partying at a relaxed/average LAC, pulling a B- GPA. There's a type of parent and a type of kid who is gunning for the Ivy League and the Ivy League is full of such kids. |
Many Sidwell students attend such schools - and you are right - often the parents aren't happy about it, having expected better. This is the kind of competitive we mean. |
Plenty of run-of-the-mill competitive A types. And many OTT nutso types. |