OPs post was only about dealing with her daughter's disappointment for being split from her friends and the friends being mean about it. OP actually intended for the post to be placed in the Fairfax forum for input form Gen Ed parents on dealing with it, but it got moved here. Once again, way to be smug and dismissive. Some other parents were empathetic. And yes, it is absolutely fair to question if Fairfax county goes about AAP the right way, incorporating feedback from non-AAP parents/kids. But I see your attitude. "If it works for me, screw thee." |
This. |
Could you explain how your center experience has been life changing? My kid attended an AAP center and was still underwhelmed by everything. He felt like he learned more in 3 hours of AoPS math and language arts classes than he did in an entire week of school. My kid's center was at best mildly accelerated and largely still filled with the station model for math, reading groups that never saw the teacher, lots of busywork, and lots of powerpoint presentations. I know that not all centers are the same, and I'm curious about what your center did differently to make the experience life changing for your kid. |
If I stick my head in the sand and don't listen to others' experiences, then yes, all is well. |
Likely, they either have a truly gifted child which isn't representative of most kids in AAP, or they were at a lower SES school and used it as a get away ticket |
I'm the quoted PP, and I have a truly gifted child. He was bored out of his mind at the center and still didn't feel like he fit in with the other kids. At best, it was life changing in a negative way. |
NP. My first DC's center school experience was also life changing, a bit less dramatic for my second DC. The academics are a part of it, more the ELA and S/SS than Advanced Math since the teachers have generally only been so-so math teachers. The focus on critical thinking in the AAP curriculum has been targeted towards DC's weaknesses and has helped him learn and think. More importantly, the cohort and the teachers' comfort, familiarity with GT students who will question and correct errors and think out of the box. My older DC found a group of kids who accepted and did not belittle his intelligence and quirks, unlike his GE classes. My younger DC found a group of kids who are very similar to him, playing pretend, writing fan fic, terrified of fire alarms, etc. The center school model is unusual and a relic from a time when GT was considered important. It isn't anymore and FCPS is trying to dismantle it. There are a lot of people in the administration who are hostile to it and they are doing their best to get rid of it. OP's opinion is the majority opinion. |
OP did not post an opinion |
OP is probably long gone from this thread. They were looking for sympathy from other FCPS parents for their kids being bullied or made to feel dumb when they aren't picked for AAP. Instead, they ended up with a bunch of AAP parents justifying the program and accusing the OP of inventing the story. |
The post was moved to the AAP form - btw, this was why this forum was created. It is the place to criticize AAP and for the haters to post. It wasn't created to be a safe space for AAP parents. It was created because the AAP division was too much for the VA Schools forum. |
For the bolded, really?! At which school are kids belittling another kid's intelligence and quirks in the 2nd grade? Statistically, there were even another 4 or 5 AAP kids within your kid's 2nd grade classroom, and there should have been several kids above grade level. In FCPS, if anything kids are belittled for being "dumb" - not for being "too smart." Also, you don't think gen ed kids play pretend or write fan fic? WTH? |
History doesn't matter. Gen Ed parents aren't hanging out in the AAP forum, but Gen Ed parents would be best suited to actually provided OP with feedback on the specific situation. |
DS has a friend that is smart and could careless about school. He is in Advanced Math and LIII but is not curious and has no external motivation to learn about a subject outside of what he has to at school. There are plenty of smart kids just like him. He was in-pool for LIV and had poor GBRS and HOPE scores (his parents applied this year.) There is no doubt that he is smart he is not motivated. His parents know this and applied for LIV again because they know he will do fine in it but he does the bare minimum at school and at home. Statistically, he is that kid you are talking about but he doesn't show it no matter who goads or prods him. Kids are picked on for being smart and quirky. It happens all the time. The book worm, the kid always raising their hand, the kid who wants more math. Most of the kids could care less but there are kids who will use another kids intelligence and curiosity to target them. I know kids from our neighborhood who moved to the Center due to bullying in the classroom, mainly because they stood out for their intelligence and other kids were ostracizing them for that reason. I can think of 3 off the top of my head who moved for that reason. The three kids, none were in my kids class but I spoke to their parents as we were deciding on moving to the Center or staying, all said that the kids just fit in better at the Center. They loved it there and have friends from the program still. I know of one in my sons class who was loudly announcing he was going to the Center in 4th grade because he was smart and heard plenty of kids commenting that they were glad he was leaving. DS told me that he had issues in the classroom because of how he acted towards the other kids and his interests. I am not sure if his issues were that he was quirky or if he thought he was smarter then the others well before leaving for the Center and the other kids ignored him. No one seemed to be sad when he left. I saw him at a party the next year and his Mom said that he was struggling socially at the Center so I suspect it was personality more then anything else. |
Again, I'm really curious about where this is happening. My kids attended a Title I ES. There were still quite a lot of bookworms, kids always raising their hands, and kids who loved math in every classroom. It wasn't some sort of weird thing that would cause a kid to be ostracized. The nerdy, AAP bound kids + the bright, nerdy kids who didn't get in were like 30% of the grade. Maybe boy vs. girl dynamics are different. Maybe things are different in an even lower SES school that places very few kids in AAP. Otherwise, at any school placing 15% or more of the grade into AAP, the whole idea of kids being picked on for nerdiness seems weird to me. |
The bulk of the 15% who go to AAP aren't out of their element - the 1-3% who would still go to a more restricted G and T program probably are. |