Yes. Your Kid is overscheduled.

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All we need is red rum

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Anonymous wrote:I'm curious as to what some parents would say if their child came to them not wanting to do all of the activities?

You act like all the parents are pushing activities on kids. These are things kids want to do. Their friends are in soccer, they want to join soccer. They try baseball, they want to join the team.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you "scheduling d*mn play dates"? If your kids are so amazing, aren't they responsible enough to knock on a few doors around the neighborhood and invite people over, or ride their bike to the playground and make new friends there?

Wait, I thought kids were supposed to be bored--but you're social engineering play dates? Which is it?

No one wants your kid knocking on their door inviting themselves in so you get free babysitting.

That's not called free babysitting. That used to be normal childhood, kids in the neighborhood just playing with each other.

I had that normal childhood. Kids were sexually harassed, we spent lots of time with bad babysitters watching tv and eating frozen pizza, and wandered around creeks and construction sites. Kids commonly had broken arms or sprains due to lack of supervision and because these things happen a lot when you get kids together. A lot of kids in my current town ride bikes. And every year, kids on bikes, even older high school kids, are routinely struck by cars or trains. I’m not really comfortable taking on the above risks. I guess best case scenario, the neighborhood kids are “safe” and play lots of video games, which isn’t great either.

The only thing that I can say is that im sorry that so many bad things happened to you and your friends.

1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys are molested so it happened to your friends too.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm curious as to what some parents would say if their child came to them not wanting to do all of the activities?

Mine child did and he scaled back but they must do 2 activities one hopefully involves exercise, and one involves an art.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm curious as to what some parents would say if their child came to them not wanting to do all of the activities?

Mine child did and he scaled back but they must do 2 activities one hopefully involves exercise, and one involves an art.

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Oh and they both dropped their instrument in HS but one plays now and gets mad at me that I let him drop it.. then laughs like it was his choice and he knows it.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm curious as to what some parents would say if their child came to them not wanting to do all of the activities?

Mine child did and he scaled back but they must do 2 activities one hopefully involves exercise, and one involves an art.

Same here. Third kid wanted to scale back but I insisted on a rec sport per season plus an instrument.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm curious as to what some parents would say if their child came to them not wanting to do all of the activities?

I'd be thrilled.

I have those kids. They want to just play outside and not do any activities. My kids never wanted to join a soccer team because their friends joined it, or any other teams because of their friends.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm curious as to what some parents would say if their child came to them not wanting to do all of the activities?

I'd be thrilled.

I have those kids. They want to just play outside and not do any activities. My kids never wanted to join a soccer team because their friends joined it, or any other teams because of their friends.

This is something that never really happened in our neighborhood. Kids did some activities, but no one stopped playing outside in the neighborhood because of it. Were you bothered that they didn't want to do activities?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm curious as to what some parents would say if their child came to them not wanting to do all of the activities?

I'd be thrilled.

I have those kids. They want to just play outside and not do any activities. My kids never wanted to join a soccer team because their friends joined it, or any other teams because of their friends.

What's wrong with "just" wanting to play in the neighborhood? You make it sound like a bad thing.

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I am totally with you op. “But she loves it!l Be the parent and teach your child how to have balance and boundaries. Beyond even just how important free play is, it is part of raising whole, full kids to teach them that they don’t need to do everything, don’t need to always be the best, and need to know how to REST. No one wants to listen to all the professionals telling them this isn’t good for kids (ask ANY therapist they are all seeing the effects with teens right now).

If you want an easy book that talks through some of the research behind taking a less intense approach I recommend Raising a Kid who Can

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Anonymous wrote:I'm curious as to what some parents would say if their child came to them not wanting to do all of the activities?

I'd be thrilled.

I have those kids. They want to just play outside and not do any activities. My kids never wanted to join a soccer team because their friends joined it, or any other teams because of their friends.

What's wrong with "just" wanting to play in the neighborhood? You make it sound like a bad thing.

I do not make it sound like a bad thing. My kids love being able to play with neighborhood kids. I was saying my kids are one of those kids who do not like to do activities. Most posters say their kids love being busy or want to join teams because of their friends but my kids aren’t those kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm curious as to what some parents would say if their child came to them not wanting to do all of the activities?

I'd be thrilled.

I have those kids. They want to just play outside and not do any activities. My kids never wanted to join a soccer team because their friends joined it, or any other teams because of their friends.

What's wrong with "just" wanting to play in the neighborhood? You make it sound like a bad thing.

I do not make it sound like a bad thing. My kids love being able to play with neighborhood kids. I was saying my kids are one of those kids who do not like to do activities. Most posters say their kids love being busy or want to join teams because of their friends but my kids aren’t those kids.

I'm sorry, I mistook what you were saying.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm curious as to what some parents would say if their child came to them not wanting to do all of the activities?

I'd be thrilled.

I have those kids. They want to just play outside and not do any activities. My kids never wanted to join a soccer team because their friends joined it, or any other teams because of their friends.

What's wrong with "just" wanting to play in the neighborhood? You make it sound like a bad thing.

Not PP but I believe sports and music teach life lessons and develop the brain in ways that are valuable and can’t be obtained in free play. I also believe in the importance of free play and encourage that as well, but I wouldn’t want my kids to just have free play.

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Anonymous wrote:I am totally with you op. “But she loves it!l Be the parent and teach your child how to have balance and boundaries. Beyond even just how important free play is, it is part of raising whole, full kids to teach them that they don’t need to do everything, don’t need to always be the best, and need to know how to REST. No one wants to listen to all the professionals telling them this isn’t good for kids (ask ANY therapist they are all seeing the effects with teens right now).

If you want an easy book that talks through some of the research behind taking a less intense approach I recommend Raising a Kid who Can

Sports have been around for decades. What’s driving the changes is social media and screen time, not athletics. And the ramifications of covid lockdowns.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm curious as to what some parents would say if their child came to them not wanting to do all of the activities?

I'd be thrilled.

I have those kids. They want to just play outside and not do any activities. My kids never wanted to join a soccer team because their friends joined it, or any other teams because of their friends.

What's wrong with "just" wanting to play in the neighborhood? You make it sound like a bad thing.

Not PP but I believe sports and music teach life lessons and develop the brain in ways that are valuable and can’t be obtained in free play. I also believe in the importance of free play and encourage that as well, but I wouldn’t want my kids to just have free play.

I also associate having most of free time being just free play with toddlerhood. Once you hit kindergarten, I think most kids do join sports, music, dance… whatever interests them.