Best age to have a baby?

[Anonymous]

I think early 30s. It gives you your entire 20s to have fun, travel, learn things, settle, build finances.

Having kids early and counting on doing all the fun things when they start their own lives away from home is a gamble. You don’t know what your health or your spouses health will be like then.

Early 30s give your best opportunities at both ends of having kids. Young enough to be energetic and (hopefully) still in good health after they are gone to do whatever you’ve always wanted to do.

[Anonymous]

24 and 33 for me. Can't believe my oldest is going to college this year!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah the hate on 40 plus moms is strange here. I do find when people hate on others choices its because their own didn’t work out that well and they are trying to go back and justify their choices by tearing others down.

No, it’s simply too old. There is such a thing.

[Anonymous]

I had 3 kids when I was 30-38. DH is a year younger than me. I think my age was good. I sort of with that DH was older than me so that he could have been more established in his career. DH is very active and plays a lot of sports with the kids so I guess having a youngish dad also has its benefits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah the hate on 40 plus moms is strange here. I do find when people hate on others choices its because their own didn’t work out that well and they are trying to go back and justify their choices by tearing others down.

No, it’s simply too old. There is such a thing.

While some woman may have had perfectly healthy babies in their forties, many more could not conceive, had miscarriages or had children with special needs.

It feels like a lot of kids have autism, ADHD and anxiety. I’m sure moms of all ages can have kids with problems but it often seems like the older moms have more problems. This is not about ageism against older moms but it is a disservice to others to make it seem like it is the norm to have babies in your forties.

[Anonymous]

Definitely after 30. For women that want careers, your 20s are for advanced degrees, exploring, living overseas, and establishing yourself at work (long hours needed in my field).

I had mine at 30, 36, and 39. I was ready for a baby at 30, but life after that birth was the most difficult time in my life. I had so many work demands. It was hard to balance and my oldest spent a lot of time in daycare.

I love being a mom to my two youngest. I’m much more established in my field and have a great job, low stress, great pay, and tons of telework. I’m much more involved now as an older mom as I have more time and energy to give to my family. I didn’t have that at 30.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely after 30. For women that want careers, your 20s are for advanced degrees, exploring, living overseas, and establishing yourself at work (long hours needed in my field).

I had mine at 30, 36, and 39. I was ready for a baby at 30, but life after that birth was the most difficult time in my life. I had so many work demands. It was hard to balance and my oldest spent a lot of time in daycare.

I love being a mom to my two youngest. I’m much more established in my field and have a great job, low stress, great pay, and tons of telework. I’m much more involved now as an older mom as I have more time and energy to give to my family. I didn’t have that at 30.

I also had my first at 30 and it was hard. I mommy tracked and eventually stayed home when my third was born. DH’s career has taken off so we don’t need my income.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:24 and 33 for me. Can't believe my oldest is going to college this year!

I cannot believe it either because 24 is much to young to have a baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:24 and 33 for me. Can't believe my oldest is going to college this year!

I cannot believe it either because 24 is much to young to have a baby.

DP here. I 100% would have married my college boyfriend. If he was ready, I would have married him and have had kids in my twenties. I am certain we would have also divorced.

A lot of people we know married their college sweethearts. Nothing wrong with that. I met my DH in grad school, got married and had three kids in my thirties. This was a better timeline.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d say, despite some risks, mid thirties. You have lived a life, you likely have a career, have traveled, made some mistakes and acquired some wisdom. You are still young enough to have one or two or three!

When you can afford to have a child and you do not expect family and friends to help you,!

[Anonymous]

What a loaded question. There's no best age. You get what life gives you. This is why people are so annoying. It's like reading a book about having a baby - real life is nothing you can plan!

I had mine OP at mid 30s. You know what? I'm exhausted now in my early 50s with 2 MS with one having learning disabilities so there is that!

I wish I had mine in my early/mid 20s. But then I would have missed out on the best time of my life - I was travelling, making money, really fun times in my life then. I didn't meet DH until mid 30s but had I met him sooner, had my kids sooner, how would I feel now?

You will never know the what ifs. You will never know the "best age" of anything. Love your life. You just can't plan for all the most important things in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a loaded question. There's no best age. You get what life gives you. This is why people are so annoying. It's like reading a book about having a baby - real life is nothing you can plan!

I had mine OP at mid 30s. You know what? I'm exhausted now in my early 50s with 2 MS with one having learning disabilities so there is that!

I wish I had mine in my early/mid 20s. But then I would have missed out on the best time of my life - I was travelling, making money, really fun times in my life then. I didn't meet DH until mid 30s but had I met him sooner, had my kids sooner, how would I feel now?

You will never know the what ifs. You will never know the "best age" of anything. Love your life. You just can't plan for all the most important things in life.

I’m mid forties with middle school kid and he is a pain in the ass. I think having kids this age would be hard at any age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d say, despite some risks, mid thirties. You have lived a life, you likely have a career, have traveled, made some mistakes and acquired some wisdom. You are still young enough to have one or two or three!

If no major obstacles, 30-35 is ideal. Align life, have one and be done, keep living your life.

[Anonymous]

Mid 30s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mid 30s

The only right answer.