What is this generation’s obsession with height about?

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who is 5’3” and her husband is 6’7”. To me they look like freaks.

My nephew is 6'6" and his fiancee is 5'4". His brother is 6'4" and wife is barely 5'. You get used to it.

+1 I'm barely 5'; DH is near 6'3". I don't even notice the height difference anymore. Married 20 years, with 2 teen kids at just above average in height, and still growing. DS may hit 5' 11.5" to 6', and DD will hit 5.6", maybe slightly more.

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My youngest gets more about being so skinny than short —though he’s not short anymore. Caught up and starting to surpass a lot of friends that were talk young. Turns 16 in April

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Anonymous wrote:What gives is "UMC suburban high school" OP.

I was tall in the 80s as a girl and went to private school. Tall girls and short boys were made fun of constantly. UMC people want things to be perfect, like small to average size girls and average to tall boys.

I think you are on to something much bigger there and it's a bit unsettling

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Anonymous wrote:To each their own, but I personally think that women generally look best between 5’2” and 5’6” and men between 5’6” and 5’10”. Outside of that range you’ve got to be extremely good looking to make it work.

? lots of women like men who are closer to 6".

Re-read the first eight word of my comment.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree. I’m son is 12 and his friends and even their parents think it fine to comment on his height. I do believe they don’t intend to be mean spirited, but it is still unkind. These same people would never comment on someone’s weight- but height seems to be fair game. Which makes zero sense as one has no control over how tall they will be and at what rate they will grow.

Omg. My younger one used to get that sh@t—even in preschool !!! We had a neighbor say something about our oldest being short in middle school (he was about 50% height). We are late growers.

I love my kid now towers over the most obnoxious mom who’s done stayed the same 5’7” he was in 6th grade.

Senior is now 6’1” was 5’4” in 9th.

Sophomore looks very young, very very skinny (15years old)— just starting to grow now. 5’2”-3 last year. He’s around 5’7” with a baby face and voice hasn’t dropped. I think he is going to end up taller than older sibling. And this kid took so much abuse about his height—even from ahole coaches in 6th-7th grade (not basketball).

Same story here with my late blooming DS. We’ll see if his younger brother follows suit (only in 8th grade right now). I was never all that surprised about teasing from other kids (terrible as that is..teens are immature)- but the comments about my “short” DS from other parents…seriously WTH is wrong with people? Middle school was the worst of it. And coaches…don’t even get me started. LOL.

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Anonymous wrote:My youngest gets more about being so skinny than short —though he’s not short anymore. Caught up and starting to surpass a lot of friends that were talk young. Turns 16 in April

I have skinny kids (take after DH’s side and will probably fill out in their 20s) and they’ve gotten a lot of grief about being skinny….not just DS but also my DD!? So it seems to apply to girls these days too. They were/are late bloomers but average height. Suburban UMC large public school, if that matters.

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Anonymous wrote:My youngest gets more about being so skinny than short —though he’s not short anymore. Caught up and starting to surpass a lot of friends that were talk young. Turns 16 in April

I have skinny kids (take after DH’s side and will probably fill out in their 20s) and they’ve gotten a lot of grief about being skinny….not just DS but also my DD!? So it seems to apply to girls these days too. They were/are late bloomers but average height. Suburban UMC large public school, if that matters.

People are commenting on your daughter’s weight? That sucks. They are probably jealous.

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Anonymous wrote:In general, being born a short male is similar to being born an ugly female. It presents serious but not insurmountable disadvantages in life. It is what it is.

No way. Way worse to be an ugly female.

If a short male is in good shape, smart, objectively handsome, and has a successful (high income) career, he will be just fine. It’s only an issue in high school.

This. An ugly woman has no chance and an obese woman, similar.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a 5’10 woman. It would take a lot for me to go for a 5’5 guy.

The fact is that women are getting taller on average over time, and most women want a man who is at least the same height. So it is harder for really short guys.

I dated a few shorter guys, though. It isn’t completely something I would rule out. And I think taller-female couples are getting more common (like Zendaya and Tom Holland.).

Well, since you're still single, maybe it's something you should consider.

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A lot of women are also overweight, even if it's just a little. So a shorter man makes them feel bigger. The two friends I have that are dating men their height or shorter are all very slim and in great shape.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL is obsessed with height. She’s tall (5’9”) and married to DH (6’2”). For years, she’s had to tell me how she loves to see tall women marry tall men and how unfortunate that shorter women marry tall when they should stick to their own height or slightly taller.

I’m 5’3” married to 6’ DH for 25 years.

She still makes her grandchildren line up by height and constantly makes comments, “almost as tall as X relative,” “are you still growing?” “Are you the tallest in your class?”

This is awful. You should have spoken to her especially if one of your kids is shorter. I am the shortest (smallest and most attractive) person in DH’s large family of giants (women are all 5’10” and above and men are all above 6’). While they all love their heights and are very proud of their 12 year old 6’ girls, they have never said the things your MIL said to you.

You should have said that most men prefer smaller women to giants (that may not be true, but that would have shut MIL for good)

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a 5’10 woman. It would take a lot for me to go for a 5’5 guy.

The fact is that women are getting taller on average over time, and most women want a man who is at least the same height. So it is harder for really short guys.

I dated a few shorter guys, though. It isn’t completely something I would rule out. And I think taller-female couples are getting more common (like Zendaya and Tom Holland.).

Well, since you're still single, maybe it's something you should consider.

What makes you think that? I’ve been married for 20 years. To a man who is taller than me and very successful. Not that it matters, because I have been very successful in my own right.

Lol at cheerleaders being high value. Most of them in my hometown work at Walmart now. Congrats?

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I think ideal male height is about 5'10" to 6'1". Any taller and you often get a gangly giraffe look which I personally don't find attractive. My husband is 6'3". and I found him attractive despite his height, not for it.

Our son is still younger so I have no idea how tall he'll end up being.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 5’10 woman. It would take a lot for me to go for a 5’5 guy.

The fact is that women are getting taller on average over time, and most women want a man who is at least the same height. So it is harder for really short guys.

I dated a few shorter guys, though. It isn’t completely something I would rule out. And I think taller-female couples are getting more common (like Zendaya and Tom Holland.).

Well, since you're still single, maybe it's something you should consider.

What makes you think that? I’ve been married for 20 years. To a man who is taller than me and very successful. Not that it matters, because I have been very successful in my own right.

Lol at cheerleaders being high value. Most of them in my hometown work at Walmart now. Congrats?

That’s not a very nice thing to say. What’s wrong with working at Walmart? Why do you clearly look down on them? Perhaps they are happier and have a better work-life balance than you have. Either way, I was the equivalent of a cheerleader in my home country and I now have a PhD. If we measure people based on educational and work accomplishments that guess I did very well (despite my looks).

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Anonymous wrote:I think ideal male height is about 5'10" to 6'1". Any taller and you often get a gangly giraffe look which I personally don't find attractive. My husband is 6'3". and I found him attractive despite his height, not for it.

Our son is still younger so I have no idea how tall he'll end up being.

I agree with you, but that’s just our individual preference. I am sure my SIL who is 6’ would disagree with us.