What is this generation’s obsession with height about?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If your son is serious about team sports, it's all about height. I know at least two kids on my son's club team that reclassified (i.e., repeated 8th grade) so they would be tall enough by the time they joined the high school team. It's not the only thing that matters, of course, but if you are too small, it really hurts your chances to make varsity, be a starter, etc.

OTOH, at my T3 law school, lots of v. successful men were short. Including my future husband!

High school is just a mean place, and anyone who expects otherwise is simply deluding themselves.

That is pathetic to repeat a grade for a sport that will get you nowhere in life. The talented kids who are on their way to the pros don’t need to do that.

NP here. I also know of a kid who is repeating a grade (& transferring to boarding school) to play their sport.

It’s not about pro sports. It’s about getting into their parents’ Ivy League alma mater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It used to be weight was the acceptable thing to rib kids about, but now people have realized that is hurtful. Unfortunately, it's moved to height.

I'm sorry your son is going through that. This generation needs more empathy.

I think women emphasizing height as the most desirable trait for men on their dating profiles (and on dumb shows like the bachelor) has made this a bigger fixation for guys themselves. Some women won't date below 6 feet (or 5'11") which is crazy.

No. Height has always been made fun of if you’re on the extreme end one way or the other. You just weren’t paying attention because you weren’t the target.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am currently 5”7 and I was 5”5 when I graduated HS in ‘95 and I was never bothered by height. I played varsity golf in HS and D1 golf. I married a cheerleader who is 5”7.

Why does marrying a cheerleader matter?

It’s code for “I got the cute girl.”

Um that is ridiculous. This isn’t 1950.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To each their own, but I personally think that women generally look best between 5’2” and 5’6” and men between 5’6” and 5’10”. Outside of that range you’ve got to be extremely good looking to make it work.

I'm 5'8" and like to wear tall heels. I just could never get into men under 6'. Jokes on me but now my girls are super tall (thanks to their dad). They seem to love being tall and everyone wants them to model, play volleyball, or play basketball. But I worry they have limited their dating pool. All 3 say they won't date men who are shorter than they are but they're so tall it doesn't leave open many options besides athletes. Yikes! Hopefully they get lucky like I did with their dad but then how tall will my grandkids be?!?!?!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If your son is serious about team sports, it's all about height. I know at least two kids on my son's club team that reclassified (i.e., repeated 8th grade) so they would be tall enough by the time they joined the high school team. It's not the only thing that matters, of course, but if you are too small, it really hurts your chances to make varsity, be a starter, etc.

OTOH, at my T3 law school, lots of v. successful men were short. Including my future husband!

High school is just a mean place, and anyone who expects otherwise is simply deluding themselves.

That is pathetic to repeat a grade for a sport that will get you nowhere in life. The talented kids who are on their way to the pros don’t need to do that.

NP here. I also know of a kid who is repeating a grade (& transferring to boarding school) to play their sport.

It’s not about pro sports. It’s about getting into their parents’ Ivy League alma mater.

I know students who are tracked to go to college on a D1 scholarship but aren’t completely ready go to a 5th year at a boarding school tuition free. But how does playing a sport for the average kid help get into an Ivy League.

[Anonymous]

Outliers (short men and tall women) have always been teased. Nothing new there.

Beyond that- it is Sports and dating apps/social media.

Sports are more competitive than ever, high schools are larger than ever, and height is a big advantage is most sports.

Dating apps- self explanatory. Most women would notice unusually tall vs short but didn’t know or care 5’9” vs 5’11” vs 6’0” etc in my dating days (I’m 44). Social media has put a focus on a specific number.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's just one of those things that's considered a genetically desirable trait.

Taller people excel at more types of sports, height is correlated with career success, taller people are perceived as more confident, etc.

As a shorter woman, I worried about having short sons, so I did prefer to date average-to-above-average height men. Ironically, now I have two DDs.

That’s as outdated as saying light colored skin and blue eyes are correlated with career success.

It's not really the same thing though. Height (in men) is a pretty desirable trait in all cultures.

It is the same idea because it’s a genetic trait that people do not control. Half of Asian women in some Asian countries use skin whitening creams. Lighter skin is desirable in pretty much all cultures.

We know that how much melanin in the skin has no bearing on intelligence. We know that height has no bearing on intelligence. But both groups face discrimination and it’s hard to believe the discrimination still exists. Makes no sense.

From Wikipedia:
Statistics. Across studies, the correlation coefficient of height and intelligence was generally found to be around 0.2, indicating a positive association between height and intelligence which is weak but still statistically significant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every woman in todays progressive generation hates “short man energy”

OMG this is funny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:as a 5 foot 5 adult man this thread is making me want to kill myself.

My son is predicted to be 5'4-5'6 and some of the comments on this thread and even from the OP are sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your son is serious about team sports, it's all about height. I know at least two kids on my son's club team that reclassified (i.e., repeated 8th grade) so they would be tall enough by the time they joined the high school team. It's not the only thing that matters, of course, but if you are too small, it really hurts your chances to make varsity, be a starter, etc.

OTOH, at my T3 law school, lots of v. successful men were short. Including my future husband!

High school is just a mean place, and anyone who expects otherwise is simply deluding themselves.

That is pathetic to repeat a grade for a sport that will get you nowhere in life. The talented kids who are on their way to the pros don’t need to do that.

NP here. I also know of a kid who is repeating a grade (& transferring to boarding school) to play their sport.

It’s not about pro sports. It’s about getting into their parents’ Ivy League alma mater.

That’s even sadder. Imagine how they will feel when he doesn’t get in and doesn’t play the sport anymore.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:as a 5 foot 5 adult man this thread is making me want to kill myself.

My son is predicted to be 5'4-5'6 and some of the comments on this thread and even from the OP are sad.

I have a few things about me that most people wouldn't consider ideal and a short son. I've passed on my philosophy that there are lots of shallow people in life, but there are good people too.

Cultivate the latter, follow a middle finger mindset to the former and go and live your best life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:as a 5 foot 5 adult man this thread is making me want to kill myself.

My son is predicted to be 5'4-5'6 and some of the comments on this thread and even from the OP are sad.

I have a few things about me that most people wouldn't consider ideal and a short son. I've passed on my philosophy that there are lots of shallow people in life, but there are good people too.

Cultivate the latter, follow a middle finger mindset to the former and go and live your best life.

Says napoleon

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:as a 5 foot 5 adult man this thread is making me want to kill myself.

My son is predicted to be 5'4-5'6 and some of the comments on this thread and even from the OP are sad.

I have a few things about me that most people wouldn't consider ideal and a short son. I've passed on my philosophy that there are lots of shallow people in life, but there are good people too.

Cultivate the latter, follow a middle finger mindset to the former and go and live your best life.

Says napoleon

Are you holding Napoleon up as a failure?
Better then those nobodies who live average lives

[Anonymous]

Never heard of any conversations about height within my group.

[Anonymous]

I think being a midget is fun