Every DCUM beach vacation w/family

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Anonymous wrote:For those of you who say you learned the lesson and don't vacation with family anymore, did you stop vacationing with all of the family?

I love traveling with some of my siblings, but one is really hard to travel with. I posted a couple years ago about whether it was OK for the rest of us to go on a trip without her, and DCUM gave a pretty universal "no" but it seems really unfair that my choices are to basically parent her kids the whole trip, or to just accept I can't go with the others.

We only do resorts now. No house shares. My parents pushed back initially "but we'll never see each other!!!" but after I finally got them to try it my way they realized how much nicer it was to not be awakened by grandkids at zero dark thirty and for everybody to have their own space to retreat to.

That seems a lot more expensive. In our family the biggest issue is the failure to watch the kids, which it doesn't seem like that would help.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They need to add “elderly relative who insists on cooking meals for everyone but has questionable food safety practices”. That always makes thing fun.

+1. And who gets annoyed when people try to order takeout or go out to dinner because she already cooked.

And elderly relatives who eat nothing and have no appetites but insist on cooking. Serving size for 4 for a family of 10, lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a lake home and for the 3 main summer holidays, invite our 4 adult children (with two spouses). It’s a 2:2. I would kill for one more bathroom. Ppl can sleep anywhere.
Also, ppl leave their crap everywhere! It’s just something we live with for a few days every year. I love it and hate it at the same time.
My daughters plan and make the meals. I buy the groceries. Husband cleans up. The boys do other chores. My DIL brings many many groceries and snacks but doesnt clean or cook.

Why would your DIL lift a finger? She’s in hell. The fact that she comes to hell at all is a miracle. You should be grateful for the chance to see your son. She’s gracious to go there at all.

And of course people leave their crap “everywhere,” moron, there’s no space. No room. No storage. Too many people for a crammed shytshack, of course there is no room for their stuff.

[Anonymous]

Hi-it’s me, a DIL who doesn’t lift a finger!

I used to pitch in (with the other women and girls and my husband while every single other man chilled on the couches) but if you’ll recall you kept “having to” rearrange the way I (a grown up woman with a functional home snd kitchen of my own) loaded the dishwasher, chopped veggies, wiped counters.

I hope things are going well for you in the kitchen! I am on the couch with the dudes so DH will represent our family in the kitchen duties.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My sister insisted her young daughter get her own room instead of sharing with her or her other daughter leaving my teenage son (the only boy in a house of 7 females) on the main couch. Those with teenage boys understand the need for privacy in the morning and she could not understand this.

What do teenage boys need to do in the morning requiring privacy that could not be done in the bathroom?

Get out of bed? I'm guessing you don't have a teenage boy.

It’s called carry a sweatshirt in front of you and go to the bathroom.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We have a lake home and for the 3 main summer holidays, invite our 4 adult children (with two spouses). It’s a 2:2. I would kill for one more bathroom. Ppl can sleep anywhere.
Also, ppl leave their crap everywhere! It’s just something we live with for a few days every year. I love it and hate it at the same time.
My daughters plan and make the meals. I buy the groceries. Husband cleans up. The boys do other chores. My DIL brings many many groceries and snacks but doesnt clean or cook.

Why would your DIL lift a finger? She’s in hell. The fact that she comes to hell at all is a miracle. You should be grateful for the chance to see your son. She’s gracious to go there at all.

And of course people leave their crap “everywhere,” moron, there’s no space. No room. No storage. Too many people for a crammed shytshack, of course there is no room for their stuff.

I’m sorry, did PP say they have 8 adults in a 2 bedroom/2 bath house 😑

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They need to add “elderly relative who insists on cooking meals for everyone but has questionable food safety practices”. That always makes thing fun.

We have this relative (marinates raw meat loosely covered in the fridge, balancing precariously on top of produce) and she also vastly underestimates how much food to make so at least it gives us an excuse to head out for pizza!

I'm not entirely sure what's wrong with this one, other than that "precariously balanced" is a little annoying because you have to be careful. Do you think that there is something that is going to jump out of the marinade and onto the produce? Do you want your meat hermetically sealed?

It’s called use a sealed container, or at least some Saran Wrap or foil, doofus. -NP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister insisted her young daughter get her own room instead of sharing with her or her other daughter leaving my teenage son (the only boy in a house of 7 females) on the main couch. Those with teenage boys understand the need for privacy in the morning and she could not understand this.

What do teenage boys need to do in the morning requiring privacy that could not be done in the bathroom?

Get out of bed? I'm guessing you don't have a teenage boy.

It’s called carry a sweatshirt in front of you and go to the bathroom.

And why should he have to do that instead of the other mother sharing with her daughter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister insisted her young daughter get her own room instead of sharing with her or her other daughter leaving my teenage son (the only boy in a house of 7 females) on the main couch. Those with teenage boys understand the need for privacy in the morning and she could not understand this.

What do teenage boys need to do in the morning requiring privacy that could not be done in the bathroom?

Get out of bed? I'm guessing you don't have a teenage boy.

It’s called carry a sweatshirt in front of you and go to the bathroom.

And why should he have to do that instead of the other mother sharing with her daughter?

Apparently because PP is a pushover who won’t advocate for fairness in sleeping arrangements, and won’t leave. Any other questions?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those of you who say you learned the lesson and don't vacation with family anymore, did you stop vacationing with all of the family?

I love traveling with some of my siblings, but one is really hard to travel with. I posted a couple years ago about whether it was OK for the rest of us to go on a trip without her, and DCUM gave a pretty universal "no" but it seems really unfair that my choices are to basically parent her kids the whole trip, or to just accept I can't go with the others.

We only do resorts now. No house shares. My parents pushed back initially "but we'll never see each other!!!" but after I finally got them to try it my way they realized how much nicer it was to not be awakened by grandkids at zero dark thirty and for everybody to have their own space to retreat to.

That seems a lot more expensive. In our family the biggest issue is the failure to watch the kids, which it doesn't seem like that would help.

We had that too, hence resorts with kids clubs and our own rooms. No more getting stuck with all the kids in the house because I’m an early riser and all the other parents want to sleep until 10.

Yes it costs more, but I have limited time off and want to be “on vacation” on my vacation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They need to add “elderly relative who insists on cooking meals for everyone but has questionable food safety practices”. That always makes thing fun.

+1. And who gets annoyed when people try to order takeout or go out to dinner because she already cooked.

And elderly relatives who eat nothing and have no appetites but insist on cooking. Serving size for 4 for a family of 10, lol.

Yup. For decades.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister insisted her young daughter get her own room instead of sharing with her or her other daughter leaving my teenage son (the only boy in a house of 7 females) on the main couch. Those with teenage boys understand the need for privacy in the morning and she could not understand this.

What do teenage boys need to do in the morning requiring privacy that could not be done in the bathroom?

Get out of bed? I'm guessing you don't have a teenage boy.

It’s called carry a sweatshirt in front of you and go to the bathroom.

And why should he have to do that instead of the other mother sharing with her daughter?

+1

Selfish and spoiled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a lake home and for the 3 main summer holidays, invite our 4 adult children (with two spouses). It’s a 2:2. I would kill for one more bathroom. Ppl can sleep anywhere.
Also, ppl leave their crap everywhere! It’s just something we live with for a few days every year. I love it and hate it at the same time.
My daughters plan and make the meals. I buy the groceries. Husband cleans up. The boys do other chores. My DIL brings many many groceries and snacks but doesnt clean or cook.

Why would your DIL lift a finger? She’s in hell. The fact that she comes to hell at all is a miracle. You should be grateful for the chance to see your son. She’s gracious to go there at all.

And of course people leave their crap “everywhere,” moron, there’s no space. No room. No storage. Too many people for a crammed shytshack, of course there is no room for their stuff.

+1

[Anonymous]

We're the only childless couple among our ILs and for YEARS we got the "share the bathroom with FIL" room, because why would we need our own bathroom? We don't have (teenage) kids!

The other thing that always irked me was that we got the crappiest room because "this is OUR vacation, and you take other vacations through the year." Yeah, but somehow I'm paying 95% of what you're paying and you have 4 kids staying in the same house on a "kids floor" that I will never even see.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You forgot the one adult sibling who doesn’t watch their own kids and how another adult is suddenly in charge of several other children who are never well behaved.

I was this victim on two beach vacations. Folks me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. So there was never a third time. I never vacation with my sister ever again.

I think you and I have the same sister!

I feel like almost everyone who’s not an only has the Lazy Checked Out I’m-On-Vacation Parent Sibling. I’m from a big family, so I have two. Lucky me!

I have one of these, too. She always has to "run out to CVS" for the toothpaste she "forgot" and stays gone for hours while her DH hides in their bedroom "working" on his laptop.

You should note her brands of toothpaste, deodorant, shampoo etc on one trip and buy and pack a spare of each in your luggage. When she announces she simply must duck out to CVS for the item she “forgot,” you ceremoniously present it to her in front of everyone. The look on her face would easily be worth the $15-20.