Do you ask about guns when you schedule play dates?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are people so insulted that strangers might like to know more about them and the safety of their home before sending their child there?

I wouldn't be at all offended by being asked about guns, but it's very easy to understand why someone would. An unsecured firearm is such an obviously inappropriate thing to have around children that it could be interpreted as insulting to even ask someone about it. Replace unsecured firearm with someone else it would be insane to leave out around kids, "I just have to ask, do you have any cocaine in the house?" "I just have to ask, do you have any pornographic magazines that the kids can easily get to?" etc.

Ok this made me LOL. No one has asked me about guns but if they do I’ll say no and ask about cocaine at their house.

Why are you so insulted that people who don’t know you would make basic inquiries when you are going to be in charge of their children? It’s really crazy. Do wear gloves to protect that think skin of yours?

Why would you be offended by a cocaine question? Just say no or whatever the truth is.

Well cocaine is illegal, guns are not. Also more people have guns than use cocaine. If someone did ask, I’d answer. They don’t know me. It’s their kid.

[Anonymous]

I ask about guns, pets, pools, trampolines, helmet use, when the parents last drank alcohol, smoked pot, or used other drugs, and if there is a history or family history of addiction or mental illness.

I ask about the prescription and non-prescription drugs in their home. I ask where knives and matches are stored, and if furniture is bolted to the wall. I ask if the parents are both biologically related to their children, and if either parent experienced any kind of abuse or childhood trauma. I ask if there are any other adults in the house.

I ask about vaccination status.

I ask about parental controls on devices and screen time limits, and bedtimes, and how often the kids get lunchables. I ask how the parents commute, who watches the kids while the parents are working, how and where the family vacations.

I recently bought a polygraph machine off eBay, and it’s been a total game changer.

[Anonymous]

I ask about low lifes having gummies laying around

[Anonymous]

My kids are now at the age of making their own plans but I was asked only twice out of many playdates about guns. I was offended for 5 minutes but got over it. My offense was more like "what kind of person do they think I am that I would have a gun and/or leave it around" but I got over it quickly. I do have gummies but they are hidden to the extreme.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I ask about guns, pets, pools, trampolines, helmet use, when the parents last drank alcohol, smoked pot, or used other drugs, and if there is a history or family history of addiction or mental illness.

I ask about the prescription and non-prescription drugs in their home. I ask where knives and matches are stored, and if furniture is bolted to the wall. I ask if the parents are both biologically related to their children, and if either parent experienced any kind of abuse or childhood trauma. I ask if there are any other adults in the house.

I ask about vaccination status.

I ask about parental controls on devices and screen time limits, and bedtimes, and how often the kids get lunchables. I ask how the parents commute, who watches the kids while the parents are working, how and where the family vacations.

I recently bought a polygraph machine off eBay, and it’s been a total game changer.

We need more parents like you. Thank you for your service!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I ask about guns, pets, pools, trampolines, helmet use, when the parents last drank alcohol, smoked pot, or used other drugs, and if there is a history or family history of addiction or mental illness.

I ask about the prescription and non-prescription drugs in their home. I ask where knives and matches are stored, and if furniture is bolted to the wall. I ask if the parents are both biologically related to their children, and if either parent experienced any kind of abuse or childhood trauma. I ask if there are any other adults in the house.

I ask about vaccination status.

I ask about parental controls on devices and screen time limits, and bedtimes, and how often the kids get lunchables. I ask how the parents commute, who watches the kids while the parents are working, how and where the family vacations.

I recently bought a polygraph machine off eBay, and it’s been a total game changer.

Thread’s over, folks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids are now at the age of making their own plans but I was asked only twice out of many playdates about guns. I was offended for 5 minutes but got over it. My offense was more like "what kind of person do they think I am that I would have a gun and/or leave it around" but I got over it quickly. I do have gummies but they are hidden to the extreme.

Loser

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I ask about low lifes having gummies laying around

Same

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I ask about guns, pets, pools, trampolines, helmet use, when the parents last drank alcohol, smoked pot, or used other drugs, and if there is a history or family history of addiction or mental illness.

I ask about the prescription and non-prescription drugs in their home. I ask where knives and matches are stored, and if furniture is bolted to the wall. I ask if the parents are both biologically related to their children, and if either parent experienced any kind of abuse or childhood trauma. I ask if there are any other adults in the house.

I ask about vaccination status.

I ask about parental controls on devices and screen time limits, and bedtimes, and how often the kids get lunchables. I ask how the parents commute, who watches the kids while the parents are working, how and where the family vacations.

I recently bought a polygraph machine off eBay, and it’s been a total game changer.

Not good enough. You should be demanding a thorough inspection of the home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No I never ask and I trust that if they have it it’s locked. If someone asked me, I would avoid them in the future as high maintenance

WTF is wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No I never ask and I trust that if they have it it’s locked. If someone asked me, I would avoid them in the future as high maintenance

And that would be a lucky person for not having you in their life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Heavens to betsy no! This is private information OP. Let the kids have fun and mind your own beeswax

Heavens to Betsy lady, I'm so curious. Is this how you really talk, or is this some weird internet persona you've made up to annoy people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a gun safe and they are kept locked away. Ammo is actually in a separate safe. Our kids don't know about the guns (even though they know DH goes hunting).

I would think you're high maintenance and would likely rescind the playdate. I'm not offended by your question, I'm more offended because you likely think people who have guns are crazies and I really don't want those kind of friends. DH goes to war zones regularly and needs to know how to protect himself. He also hunts and we eat the game. Which I get also offends a lot of people who'd rather eat a cow that lived in a pen.

I don't care if you have guns and what you do with them, I just care how you store them but if you're this weird about someone asking the question, then I don't want to know what else you're weird about and don't want my kid around you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I ask about guns, pets, pools, trampolines, helmet use, when the parents last drank alcohol, smoked pot, or used other drugs, and if there is a history or family history of addiction or mental illness.

I ask about the prescription and non-prescription drugs in their home. I ask where knives and matches are stored, and if furniture is bolted to the wall. I ask if the parents are both biologically related to their children, and if either parent experienced any kind of abuse or childhood trauma. I ask if there are any other adults in the house.

I ask about vaccination status.

I ask about parental controls on devices and screen time limits, and bedtimes, and how often the kids get lunchables. I ask how the parents commute, who watches the kids while the parents are working, how and where the family vacations.

I recently bought a polygraph machine off eBay, and it’s been a total game changer.

Not good enough. You should be demanding a thorough inspection of the home.

True. Should I offer to split the cost of the inspector with the other family, or is this an expense that customarily the host picks up? I don’t want to offend them by insinuating they can’t afford a proper inspection!

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What was the race of the crook?