I think that nearly *all* GoFundMe campaigns are tacky

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Anonymous wrote:I was watching that 1,000 pound sisters show and I shudder at the money being spent on the one sister. She's been in a care facility for a YEAR. She has no means of making a living, she had the bariatric surgery, but then there's the skin surgery - it has to be millions on her, meanwhile there are kids in this country that can't see a dentist. I dunno. There has to be a limit somewhere.

As long as that limit isn't on you and yours.

We deny people organ transplants for lack of funds, but sure, keep providing care to people who refuse to even care for themselves.

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Anonymous wrote:I think that 100% of them, regardless of the event that occurred, are tacky if the GoFundMe was started by the victim(s)’ family member or BFF. If I see one it better be for a life or death situation, and I don’t want to see any photos or videos attached that are gruesome, or I won’t donate. The “life or death” part generally excludes living expenses for a living, able individual, or costs of replacing inanimate objects.

Cool observation. Tell me more about your inane judgments.

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You sound like a really bad person and I hope you’re a troll.

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I set up a GoFundMe once. In hindsight, I'm embarrassed, but at the time I didn't know what else to do. Most of the donations were small (like 10-20 dollars) and from casual friends. I'd donated to some of their funds before, which probably helped. A few strangers donated as well. I was extremely grateful and thanked everyone individually.

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Anonymous wrote:Having to beg for money from strangers for medical care or burials is the bread and butter of r/ABoringDystopia

The reality is that, even in those perfect Scandinavian countries, no one individual is getting millions of dollars worth of medical care for “free.” They just let people die instead.

Much better to ration health care by the ability to pay

Or, worse, leave it to insurance companies trying to make a profit to decide.

https://www.propublica.org/article/unitedhealth-healthcare-insurance-denial-ulcerative-colitis

“But one student was costing United a lot of money. Christopher McNaughton suffered from a crippling case of ulcerative colitis — an ailment that caused him to develop severe arthritis, debilitating diarrhea, numbing fatigue and life-threatening blood clots. His medical bills were running nearly $2 million a year.“

In no country on the planet does one person get $2M worth of healthcare per year, unless that individual is literally paying $2M/year for it. Doesn’t happen.

That's not how insurance works, PP.

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Anonymous wrote:Yikes. It’s a blessing to be so privileged, OP

I gladly donate. And many times I will donate as much as possible. I can’t imagine what it would be like to lose a spouse and suddenly be on one income with kids. My cousin suddenly lost his wife. I was more than happy to donate

Enjoy your gilded existence

+1

We must run in different circles. The ones I have donated to recently were in no way tacky situations: sudden death of the dad of a family of four, one of whom has severe special needs; a college student working to get his parents out of a desperate situation in a war-torn country (legally). I was so happy to give to these and be a part of something good.

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I donated to a child who was a burn victim. Also to a new mom with aggressive cancer. I'm a very lucky person and I contribute where I can.

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I think sometimes they are started by well-meaning people even if the subject doesn't need the money? Like it's just become so ingrained in our culture which I think is very weird. I'm sorry, but if you are UMC or above, you do not need a go-fund me. Unless I guess you don't have health insurance but then you probably aren't UMC.

Still, I would be absolutely mortified if something happened and a well-meaning person started a gofundme on my behalf. And I AM poor. But I have health insurance and some savings.

Also this reminds me of the time a family friend's 17 year old started a gofundme for her mom, because the mom's rent money was stolen from her purse. Unclear why she was paying rent in cash but w/e.

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Anonymous wrote:I think sometimes they are started by well-meaning people even if the subject doesn't need the money? Like it's just become so ingrained in our culture which I think is very weird. I'm sorry, but if you are UMC or above, you do not need a go-fund me. Unless I guess you don't have health insurance but then you probably aren't UMC.

Still, I would be absolutely mortified if something happened and a well-meaning person started a gofundme on my behalf. And I AM poor. But I have health insurance and some savings.

Also this reminds me of the time a family friend's 17 year old started a gofundme for her mom, because the mom's rent money was stolen from her purse. Unclear why she was paying rent in cash but w/e.

I had a well meaning friend start a GFM for my family after an accident. I didn't know about it for a weekish because I was so pre occupied with other stuff. I waffled quite a bit on shutting it down or not. Our friends wanted to help and we were incurring a ton of bills that we could afford, but still ate up a chunk of savings. Things add up quickly, parking at the hospital, food because no one wanted to cook and we were living at the hospital, unpaid time at work because recovery was long, etc. We did end up shutting it down because I just wasnt comfortable with it. Friends ended up giving money in other ways.

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Anonymous wrote:I think sometimes they are started by well-meaning people even if the subject doesn't need the money? Like it's just become so ingrained in our culture which I think is very weird. I'm sorry, but if you are UMC or above, you do not need a go-fund me. Unless I guess you don't have health insurance but then you probably aren't UMC.

Still, I would be absolutely mortified if something happened and a well-meaning person started a gofundme on my behalf. And I AM poor. But I have health insurance and some savings.

Also this reminds me of the time a family friend's 17 year old started a gofundme for her mom, because the mom's rent money was stolen from her purse. Unclear why she was paying rent in cash but w/e.

I had a well meaning friend start a GFM for my family after an accident. I didn't know about it for a weekish because I was so pre occupied with other stuff. I waffled quite a bit on shutting it down or not. Our friends wanted to help and we were incurring a ton of bills that we could afford, but still ate up a chunk of savings. Things add up quickly, parking at the hospital, food because no one wanted to cook and we were living at the hospital, unpaid time at work because recovery was long, etc. We did end up shutting it down because I just wasnt comfortable with it. Friends ended up giving money in other ways.

I hope your family is okay now and that was nice of your friend but yeah. I would just be so uncomfortable.

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I agree. Nothing like public begging. Losers.

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I prefer donating to a 501c then to a random person and have gofundme take their cut. They also have the gall to ask you to up your donation so that the person gets a nice round number after they deduct their commission. I feel the same about the websites for weddings that ask for cash for honeymoons.

Also, didn’t Alyssa Milano set one up for her son’s baseball team? That made me cringe.

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I don't donate often, but I've seen lots that are worth donating to. A bunch of my hometown was badly flooded, and I was glad to have an easy way to get money to friends who needed to replace all their stuff, their cars, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm weirded out by the ones for funerals. If you can't afford a funeral, then you need to cremate and do the cheapest thing possible. The person is dead - they won't care about what flower arrangement was there.

Cremation is anywhere from $3000 to $5000. The only way to have a free funeral is to not claim the body and let the state put you in a pauper' or grave. Love and caring for someone doesn't end just because the person is dead and people want to honor their loved ones life. It's sad that so many of you are devoid of empathy and compassion.

[Anonymous]

Good thing your opinion means nothing. Don't donate then. Problem solved.

I have never donated to one but if other people want to they're free to do what they want.