NYC private school requiring prospective parents to write essay on DEIA

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Anonymous wrote:What I found hypocritical is that these elite private schools are pushing diversity, equity, and inclusion but would not give a second look at an application from a child with ADHD or mildly on the spectrum, where the schools might need to adapt a bit to different learning styles. What about those kids?
I know there may be the occasional exception to this but in general, these kids are shunned from many elite private schools. Public schools don’t have an option to cherry pick their students. I’m missing the equity part…

There are a lot of ADHD and spectrum kids in my children's (different) rigorous high schools. There were even more in our k-8. I think schools know how many children they can accommodate and if you're waiting to apply until HS, sometimes those spots are full with kids that have been their longer.

Name the schools.

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All of them. Parents have to decide to tutor and work on accommodations with the school as diagnoses come in, or leave the friends and school. It’s a mix.

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Anonymous wrote:Any DC privates doing this yet?

Prospective parents at The Brearley School, an all-girls school on the Upper East Side, are informed on their application that “parents are expected to attend two diversity, equity, inclusion and antiracism (DEIA) workshops per school year,” and write a 500-word essay demonstrating their fealty to those values.

https://nypost.com/2022/10/22/elite-nyc-prep-schools-aim-woke-indoctrination-at-parents-too/

They should require this at some schools here in DC. These classes are optional and sadly the parents that are exclusive and need these workshops the most often do not attend them when they are optional.

Serious question, what do you think will change by having private school parents take these classes? What will be different?

Exactly. A couple deia classes and then what? It’s all so insane. I grew up in a bad part of dc and was immersed in multiculturalism my whole life. What are these forced classes supposed to accomplish beyond checking a box for the schhol?

Yes. It seems rather telling that no one has an answer to “what will taking these classes or writing these essays actually do?” It’s just more virtue signaling without an actual purpose.

sounds like church to me

It is like a new religion of the woke

So I assume then that you have a problem with religious schools

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Anonymous wrote:Any DC privates doing this yet?

Prospective parents at The Brearley School, an all-girls school on the Upper East Side, are informed on their application that “parents are expected to attend two diversity, equity, inclusion and antiracism (DEIA) workshops per school year,” and write a 500-word essay demonstrating their fealty to those values.

https://nypost.com/2022/10/22/elite-nyc-prep-schools-aim-woke-indoctrination-at-parents-too/

Not that I know of. I'd be horrified -- we're not in North Korea.

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Anonymous wrote:C'mon people, we all know it's about virtue signaling. Brearley isn't actually about to practice DEI in its admissions rubrics and neither are any of the other privates. These DEI "initiatives" are just to cover their A$$es against any potential charges.

I don’t know about Brearly, but many privates have pushed forward with increasing diversity and adding scholarships.

Sure but if you really support DE&I, then you’d send your kids to public school. End of story.

Our private is considerably more diverse, both racially and socioeconomically, than our local public.

Because you have chosen to live in a white, wealthy neighborhood.

Wow, so now chasing to live in a nice neighborhood is bad? Seriously, listen to yourself. I actually live in an apartment in a super urban setting, but I don't look negatively on those who chose to live in a nice neighborhood. What is wrong with you??

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Anonymous wrote:Any DC privates doing this yet?

Prospective parents at The Brearley School, an all-girls school on the Upper East Side, are informed on their application that “parents are expected to attend two diversity, equity, inclusion and antiracism (DEIA) workshops per school year,” and write a 500-word essay demonstrating their fealty to those values.

https://nypost.com/2022/10/22/elite-nyc-prep-schools-aim-woke-indoctrination-at-parents-too/

Not that I know of. I'd be horrified -- we're not in North Korea.

exactly, we're in the US where a private school can do whatever it wants and you are free not to apply.

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Anonymous wrote:C'mon people, we all know it's about virtue signaling. Brearley isn't actually about to practice DEI in its admissions rubrics and neither are any of the other privates. These DEI "initiatives" are just to cover their A$$es against any potential charges.

I don’t know about Brearly, but many privates have pushed forward with increasing diversity and adding scholarships.

Sure but if you really support DE&I, then you’d send your kids to public school. End of story.

Our private is considerably more diverse, both racially and socioeconomically, than our local public.

Because you have chosen to live in a white, wealthy neighborhood.

Wow, so now chasing to live in a nice neighborhood is bad? Seriously, listen to yourself. I actually live in an apartment in a super urban setting, but I don't look negatively on those who chose to live in a nice neighborhood. What is wrong with you??

Noooo. It’s not a bad thing in and of itself. However, claiming the moral high ground by saying your private is so much more diverse than your neighborhood private when you actively chose a non-diverse neighborhood? So you segregate yourself with your housing choice AND with your private school choice? And then claim you are actually choosing diversity? Yeah, no.

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I would be out, sorry, and not because I don’t support diversity and inclusion. I’m not going to write a bs essay about it however now that I’m an adult. I did enough of that in hs and college.

Most of those parents will get an assistant to write it anyway

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Anonymous wrote:What I found hypocritical is that these elite private schools are pushing diversity, equity, and inclusion but would not give a second look at an application from a child with ADHD or mildly on the spectrum, where the schools might need to adapt a bit to different learning styles. What about those kids?
I know there may be the occasional exception to this but in general, these kids are shunned from many elite private schools. Public schools don’t have an option to cherry pick their students. I’m missing the equity part…

There are a lot of ADHD and spectrum kids in my children's (different) rigorous high schools. There were even more in our k-8. I think schools know how many children they can accommodate and if you're waiting to apply until HS, sometimes those spots are full with kids that have been their longer.

Name the schools.

Children from our K-8 with ADHD/learning differences have been accepted into Sidwell, St. Albans, GDS, Potomac, Holton, Flint Hill, Madeira, Bullis, St. Andrews, and Landon. I do think it might be easier to get in with learning differences coming from a private K-8 than a public school.

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Anonymous wrote:What I found hypocritical is that these elite private schools are pushing diversity, equity, and inclusion but would not give a second look at an application from a child with ADHD or mildly on the spectrum, where the schools might need to adapt a bit to different learning styles. What about those kids?
I know there may be the occasional exception to this but in general, these kids are shunned from many elite private schools. Public schools don’t have an option to cherry pick their students. I’m missing the equity part…

There are a lot of ADHD and spectrum kids in my children's (different) rigorous high schools. There were even more in our k-8. I think schools know how many children they can accommodate and if you're waiting to apply until HS, sometimes those spots are full with kids that have been their longer.

Name the schools.

Children from our K-8 with ADHD/learning differences have been accepted into Sidwell, St. Albans, GDS, Potomac, Holton, Flint Hill, Madeira, Bullis, St. Andrews, and Landon. I do think it might be easier to get in with learning differences coming from a private K-8 than a public school.

Which k-8?

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Anonymous wrote:Still can’t get over the hypocrisy of $50,000+ per year schools teaching DEI. Honestly, if you can’t put your money where your mouth is, stay quiet. The worst thing is, these parents and the students may actually walk out of their thinking they are truly inclusive and equitable. It’s the same IMO as those who go to church every Sunday, but break every commandment Monday thru Friday, and twice on Saturday.

So I’m racist because I send my kids to a private school? Ummm. Whatever.

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Anonymous wrote:Still can’t get over the hypocrisy of $50,000+ per year schools teaching DEI. Honestly, if you can’t put your money where your mouth is, stay quiet. The worst thing is, these parents and the students may actually walk out of their thinking they are truly inclusive and equitable. It’s the same IMO as those who go to church every Sunday, but break every commandment Monday thru Friday, and twice on Saturday.

So I’m racist because I send my kids to a private school? Ummm. Whatever.

I mean it’s not exactly racist, but it’s also NOT promoting diversity and inclusion. You’re essentially paying a lot of money so that your children are only educated around other white children from two parent homes.

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Anonymous wrote:Still can’t get over the hypocrisy of $50,000+ per year schools teaching DEI. Honestly, if you can’t put your money where your mouth is, stay quiet. The worst thing is, these parents and the students may actually walk out of their thinking they are truly inclusive and equitable. It’s the same IMO as those who go to church every Sunday, but break every commandment Monday thru Friday, and twice on Saturday.

So I’m racist because I send my kids to a private school? Ummm. Whatever.

I mean it’s not exactly racist, but it’s also NOT promoting diversity and inclusion. You’re essentially paying a lot of money so that your children are only educated around other white children from two parent homes.

Not the PP but there are a lot of assumptions in your post and many in this thread. In my experience, the main reasons to send your child to a private school is because the class sizes are smaller, the facilities are better, the overall education is better and you can afford it. Is it obnoxiously expensive? Yes. Is that "fair"? No. But some people have nicer houses, cars, etc than others too. A private school needs to pay for its facilities, teachers, etc. For those who are so offended by DEI programs, what do you suggest schools do? Isn't it better than doing nothing at all? What would be the better choice? Are you suggesting private schools shouldn't exist at all?

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Anonymous wrote:Still can’t get over the hypocrisy of $50,000+ per year schools teaching DEI. Honestly, if you can’t put your money where your mouth is, stay quiet. The worst thing is, these parents and the students may actually walk out of their thinking they are truly inclusive and equitable. It’s the same IMO as those who go to church every Sunday, but break every commandment Monday thru Friday, and twice on Saturday.

So I’m racist because I send my kids to a private school? Ummm. Whatever.

I mean it’s not exactly racist, but it’s also NOT promoting diversity and inclusion. You’re essentially paying a lot of money so that your children are only educated around other white children from two parent homes.

Not the PP but there are a lot of assumptions in your post and many in this thread. In my experience, the main reasons to send your child to a private school is because the class sizes are smaller, the facilities are better, the overall education is better and you can afford it. Is it obnoxiously expensive? Yes. Is that "fair"? No. But some people have nicer houses, cars, etc than others too. A private school needs to pay for its facilities, teachers, etc. For those who are so offended by DEI programs, what do you suggest schools do? Isn't it better than doing nothing at all? What would be the better choice? Are you suggesting private schools shouldn't exist at all?

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Anonymous wrote:Still can’t get over the hypocrisy of $50,000+ per year schools teaching DEI. Honestly, if you can’t put your money where your mouth is, stay quiet. The worst thing is, these parents and the students may actually walk out of their thinking they are truly inclusive and equitable. It’s the same IMO as those who go to church every Sunday, but break every commandment Monday thru Friday, and twice on Saturday.

So I’m racist because I send my kids to a private school? Ummm. Whatever.

I mean it’s not exactly racist, but it’s also NOT promoting diversity and inclusion. You’re essentially paying a lot of money so that your children are only educated around other white children from two parent homes.

Not the PP but there are a lot of assumptions in your post and many in this thread. In my experience, the main reasons to send your child to a private school is because the class sizes are smaller, the facilities are better, the overall education is better and you can afford it. Is it obnoxiously expensive? Yes. Is that "fair"? No. But some people have nicer houses, cars, etc than others too. A private school needs to pay for its facilities, teachers, etc. For those who are so offended by DEI programs, what do you suggest schools do? Isn't it better than doing nothing at all? What would be the better choice? Are you suggesting private schools shouldn't exist at all?

I think doing nothing at all is better than faux, time-wasting efforts (which this required parent stuff is).

Having a diverse student body is desirable and worthwhile.