College alternatives for girls

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Anonymous wrote:Give us three things she likes and/or is good at, OP. Otherwise this is just stupid.

Being a lawyer
Being a therapist
Reading/writing


She wants to go to college. We plan on sending her, but I feel there is a high probability that she will flunk out and I’m scared as crap about what happens then, especially since she doesn’t have the interest/attributes for most of the well paying jobs that don’t require a degree.

OP, you didn't say what she likes to do, you listed jobs she would like to have. Those are different things. They can inform one another, but aren't the same thing. How does she like to spend her time now?

But there is also a clear backup to being a lawyer and that is being a paralegal. Most paralegals have college degrees, but not all do.

[Anonymous]

Why are her grades terrible? To give you advice, I think it would help to understand what is causing the low grades.

[Anonymous]

I don't know what her academics are, is she borderline failing out now? Perhaps she needs a gap year or to start in community college. Alot of kids will rise to the occasion in college, though depending on the school and student there s a chance that a former straight A students is suddenly a C student.

You should like your over it frankly, that she's pushing your buttons and not living up to what she could be. Well that is understandable, but if that's the case, I'd start her in community college unless she can prove to you she can manage the college level classes between now and fall senior year.

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The fed gov has something called the pathways program. I don’t know a lot about it but I think it’s a way to recruit people into needed jobs that require specialised training, like government contracts. You start at a low pay scale but have the opportunity to train and grow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Getting married to a rich man or woman or whatever

This is hardly a plan.

It is becoming dependent upon another adult, and feeling like that was your only option because you could not get your act together.

Not a plan I would endorse for any person starting out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are her grades terrible? To give you advice, I think it would help to understand what is causing the low grades.

Right. Figure out the source, or it could follow her to the workplace.

Is it mental health, substance abuse? Learning disability?

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Anonymous wrote:I keep hearing about tech sales. Young and pretty and girly— maybe it’s a field for geez? I hear they make $$$.

Real estate another option
Interior decorator
Stylist
Makeup artist

You sound sickeningly sexist.

Just tell your young daughter to parlay her T &A into a livelihood.

Disgusting

I mean, I’m really not. Quite a feminist. But what I hear about tech and pharma sales is that it’s good looking guys and gals and they make tons of money shmoozing. I have two girls myself, but would want a more intellectual career for them, and they have certain passions. Actually one would love makeup or stylist. I’m fine with that if she can make it pay.

This is true - and it’s true in real estate too. Sales is somewhat about people and relationships, so how someone looks and presents themselves matters. I’m sorry if you don’t like that PP (the one who called the above poster disgusting), but no need to shoot the messenger.

OP- Does your daughter have any passions? Does the love dogs? Horses? Children? Does she have an eye for design? Does she like making money? Is her failing related to stubbornness? Depression? Dyslexia? Social issues?

But I have been reading this site for years and have NEVER heard anyone ask if someone's challenged SON is "hot" enough, he could support his self on that (or seduce a rich spouse).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You think nurses don't make enough? Check again. But seriously, make this her problem. Tell her she either goes to school full time or works full time. If she works, she pays you rent. She needs to figure this out herself.

I know RN's making close to 180k

Outside of travel or CA? Somewhere in the DMV? Do tell!

Doesn't RN require a degree?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Give us three things she likes and/or is good at, OP. Otherwise this is just stupid.

Being a lawyer
Being a therapist
Reading/writing


She wants to go to college. We plan on sending her, but I feel there is a high probability that she will flunk out and I’m scared as crap about what happens then, especially since she doesn’t have the interest/attributes for most of the well paying jobs that don’t require a degree.

Seriously, then have her start at a community college. Let her find her path while getting core classes out of the way. Then, transfer to a 4 year and finish---if that's the path she wants at that point. No reason to waste money and kill her self-esteem if she's not ready for the 4 year experience yet.

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She's a perfect candidate for community college. Encourage her to sample widely to figure out what she's interested in, has aptitude for, will generate a decent wage for the longer term. Also just get a job. Doing some work will help her identify strengths/interests--is she good with customers, detail-oriented, interested in the protocols, curious about the underlying business operation? So much of school is abstract, actually making money and dealing with an operation

I wouldn't encourage nannying or early childhood education for someone who is not naturally drawn to those--they are kind of traps where you can't transition easily to other fields. Even just working retail has an upward trajectory to management and by encountering different business concepts like sales, marketing, operations, accounting, human resources etc. she might find interest that would encourage her to pursue a undergrad business major if needed for further growth.

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OP, here is what I would do. Put applying to colleges on her, give her support but make her take initiative.

There is a ton of information available. Give her your parameters on cost and location, take her to visit schools she shows an interest in. Get her test prep if she wants it but do not push it if not. If she doesn't take initiative or does not get in somewhere, she can get a job and go to CC, but if she is invested she may surprise you, figure it out and not flunk out.

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Anonymous wrote:You think nurses don't make enough? Check again. But seriously, make this her problem. Tell her she either goes to school full time or works full time. If she works, she pays you rent. She needs to figure this out herself.

Nurses make enough, but that requires a degree, PP said Nurse’s Aid, that pays very little and it’s in the health field which she doesn’t care for.

Nursing, including being an RN, does not require a degree. There are college classes/certificate programs.

Incorrect. Being an RN requires an associate or a bachelor’s of nursing. In order to get your RN license you need to sit for an exam after you complete your education. If you pass, you become a RN. Most hospitals are now requiring a BSN. You guys are confusing CNAs/nurse’ aides/techs with actual nurses.

I don't really think of community college associates as "a degree," but ok, 2+ years community College.

Just in case people don’t realize it: all the really hard courses in medical programs (RN nursing, X-ray, respiratory therapy) are the same in 2 and 4 year programs. The 4 year programs include upper-level coursework in management, education, etc. Many people do the 2year program over 3 years.

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If you teach her to invest her savings at a young age, she might become wealthy beyond anything her salary could predict.

And if by now she hasn't learned the value of hard work, or has special needs you haven't diagnosed and supported... you can't demand a high salary for her. Might as well go all 1950s and hint she should find a rich husband...

That should never be an option! What if the rich husband beats her or divorces her with three kids.

Statistics of that are pretty low.

Every woman should have options besides marriage. husband could also die and leave her without any money.

[Anonymous]

The easiest if she’s hot is trophy wife. If not as hot, “trophy” second or third wife. Duh!

[Anonymous]

This is a college forum.
Go to a job forum.