Dropping 20lbs+ or more past 40 significantly ages people’s looks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been obese my entire life and I’m 30. I think I will finally be able to lose the weight (thanks Ozempic) and i’m really dreading how it’s going to age me to get to a normal weight. Totally worth it of course, but I legit look 25 thanks to my fat face (from the shoulders up of course….my body is more like 65 tbh). I fully expect to have early onset turkey waddle that will need addressing with a deep plane neck lift or maybe even face lift sooner rather than later in addition to the body lift.

I don’t think this applies to people who haven’t been significantly overweight for a long time like me. Anyone I’ve known who was a bit chubby and lost 20 pounds always looks better than before IMO.

You’re still young, you’ll look good. Definitely incorporate strength training, light on the cardio, you won’t need it. The strength training helps with the extra skin. I’m the poster from earlier that lost 120lbs. I lost it on a combination of Wegovy, Keto and IF. These semaglutides work, so stick with it. Don’t get discouraged if it doesn’t immediately seem to work, it will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the opposite. In my mid 40s and when I dropped 20 pounds people thought I was much younger. I guess it depends on where you carry your weight.

I agree. I lost almost 40 lbs and my face looks so much better (I'm 50). Before, the fat in my face dragged my cheeks down and gave me that sad downturned mouth look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Slowing down and pausing during weight loss gives skin chance to tighten (and also helps promote weight maintenance). So lose 10 lbs, pause and maintain for a month, lose 10 more. Or lose for 6 months, pause and maintain for 3 months, go back to losing.

Also setting a target weight that is slightly overweight or at the upper end of BMI rather than the weight you looked best at when you were in your 20s/30s. Older people are often more attractive/look younger at a higher BMI than younger people. Post 50 being slightly overweight (e.g. BMI of 26) is also associated with the lowest all-cause mortality.

Listen to this person! I lost 15 pounds this year. I am now at a healthy BMI (slightly above the middle of the normal range) but was planning to lose 5-8 more to get to my pre-baby weight. But I think I may instead stop here and work more on fitness and strength. Right now, I still have a bit of curves and roundness to my face that looks attractive. I don't want to get that skinny older lady look.

Also you want to avoid a flat butt at all costs. It's better to be an 8 with a round ass than a 4 with a flat ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP must have a friend who lost weight and looks better. This is her passive aggressive way to put her down.

She thought using the word, "significantly" would make her assertion sound more legit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been obese my entire life and I’m 30. I think I will finally be able to lose the weight (thanks Ozempic) and i’m really dreading how it’s going to age me to get to a normal weight. Totally worth it of course, but I legit look 25 thanks to my fat face (from the shoulders up of course….my body is more like 65 tbh). I fully expect to have early onset turkey waddle that will need addressing with a deep plane neck lift or maybe even face lift sooner rather than later in addition to the body lift.

I don’t think this applies to people who haven’t been significantly overweight for a long time like me. Anyone I’ve known who was a bit chubby and lost 20 pounds always looks better than before IMO.

You’re still young, you’ll look good. Definitely incorporate strength training, light on the cardio, you won’t need it. The strength training helps with the extra skin. I’m the poster from earlier that lost 120lbs. I lost it on a combination of Wegovy, Keto and IF. These semaglutides work, so stick with it. Don’t get discouraged if it doesn’t immediately seem to work, it will.

I don’t know…I suspect I might have some kind of connective tissue disorder, or maybe hormonal imbalance from PCOS but there’s just no chance for my stomach to ever look normal. And I was never extremely obese, topped out at a BMI of 41. I’ve never seen someone with layers upon layers of stretch marks like I do from my pubic bone up to under my breasts. I’m still obese (BMI 33 now) and it’s totally crepey and saggy with a significant apron, which I’ve had ever since I can remember. My inner thighs, too, have this sheet of hanging fat. I know lots of people my age seem to bounce back fairly well even with 100 pound weight losses but I don’t think I can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been obese my entire life and I’m 30. I think I will finally be able to lose the weight (thanks Ozempic) and i’m really dreading how it’s going to age me to get to a normal weight. Totally worth it of course, but I legit look 25 thanks to my fat face (from the shoulders up of course….my body is more like 65 tbh). I fully expect to have early onset turkey waddle that will need addressing with a deep plane neck lift or maybe even face lift sooner rather than later in addition to the body lift.

I don’t think this applies to people who haven’t been significantly overweight for a long time like me. Anyone I’ve known who was a bit chubby and lost 20 pounds always looks better than before IMO.

You’re still young, you’ll look good. Definitely incorporate strength training, light on the cardio, you won’t need it. The strength training helps with the extra skin. I’m the poster from earlier that lost 120lbs. I lost it on a combination of Wegovy, Keto and IF. These semaglutides work, so stick with it. Don’t get discouraged if it doesn’t immediately seem to work, it will.

I don’t know…I suspect I might have some kind of connective tissue disorder, or maybe hormonal imbalance from PCOS but there’s just no chance for my stomach to ever look normal. And I was never extremely obese, topped out at a BMI of 41. I’ve never seen someone with layers upon layers of stretch marks like I do from my pubic bone up to under my breasts. I’m still obese (BMI 33 now) and it’s totally crepey and saggy with a significant apron, which I’ve had ever since I can remember. My inner thighs, too, have this sheet of hanging fat. I know lots of people my age seem to bounce back fairly well even with 100 pound weight losses but I don’t think I can.

Well….ok…that sounds similar to my situation at 52. I’ve got a significant apron and that’s not going anywhere. That will have to be surgically removed. So if you have that, then, yeah, a tummy tuck is in your future. I also have the thigh issue. But I can live with that.

So at 30, just lose the weight with the meds, and exercise as much as you can. It really does help. If you have health insurance, it will pay for panniculectomy (not as good as a TT, but looks good). I would set a goal for your weight loss and at least get a consult with a plastic surgeon. Good Luck. But on Ozempic, you won’t need it.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the person. 44 and lost 50 lbs in past 2 years. Look great and still look young (I have always looked young in the face whether normal weight or obese). 20 more lbs to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP must have a friend who lost weight and looks better. This is her passive aggressive way to put her down.

She thought using the word, "significantly" would make her assertion sound more legit.

Wrong. I look at DH and he looks terrible in the face. In fact, I’m concerned there is something seriously wrong with him, but of course, he won’t get checked out. His weight seemingly stabilized for the past year. He pointed out how other people over a certain age look after losing weight, and he was right anecdotally in our circles.

But whatever. You will believe what you want and keep you knives out.

[Anonymous]

OP, when you say terrible in the face, do you mean gaunt? You really might be able to get him some skin products that will give him a better overall glow and reduce whatever reaction you are having to him.

I don't really understand this thread because your primary concern here would seem to be about your husband (you don't talk about needing to lose weight yourself) and THAT ship has sailed, that weight is lost. Instead you have posted, like, a public service announcement for people past 40 who are losing weight, spreading a cautionary tale.

OP, are you a normal weight yourself, or overweight etc? Is there anything else going on? Why did you post this?

[Anonymous]

Also you want to avoid a flat butt at all costs. It's better to be an 8 with a round ass than a 4 with a flat ass.

I do not have a round ass at any weight (I had a wide flat ass at size 12 and a not-so-wide flat ass at a size 2/4 - I did not magically have a nice ass anywhere in between). I just have a flat, rectangular body shape (I have to be overweight to fill out an A cup). I do all of the butt exercises on a regular basis and have muscle, but there is minimal change in roundness. Am I supposed to bury myself in a hole or something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Slowing down and pausing during weight loss gives skin chance to tighten (and also helps promote weight maintenance). So lose 10 lbs, pause and maintain for a month, lose 10 more. Or lose for 6 months, pause and maintain for 3 months, go back to losing.

Also setting a target weight that is slightly overweight or at the upper end of BMI rather than the weight you looked best at when you were in your 20s/30s. Older people are often more attractive/look younger at a higher BMI than younger people. Post 50 being slightly overweight (e.g. BMI of 26) is also associated with the lowest all-cause mortality.

Listen to this person! I lost 15 pounds this year. I am now at a healthy BMI (slightly above the middle of the normal range) but was planning to lose 5-8 more to get to my pre-baby weight. But I think I may instead stop here and work more on fitness and strength. Right now, I still have a bit of curves and roundness to my face that looks attractive. I don't want to get that skinny older lady look.

Also you want to avoid a flat butt at all costs. It's better to be an 8 with a round ass than a 4 with a flat ass.

Lol a size 4 is going to look better than a size 8 no matter how flat the ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Slowing down and pausing during weight loss gives skin chance to tighten (and also helps promote weight maintenance). So lose 10 lbs, pause and maintain for a month, lose 10 more. Or lose for 6 months, pause and maintain for 3 months, go back to losing.

Also setting a target weight that is slightly overweight or at the upper end of BMI rather than the weight you looked best at when you were in your 20s/30s. Older people are often more attractive/look younger at a higher BMI than younger people. Post 50 being slightly overweight (e.g. BMI of 26) is also associated with the lowest all-cause mortality.

Listen to this person! I lost 15 pounds this year. I am now at a healthy BMI (slightly above the middle of the normal range) but was planning to lose 5-8 more to get to my pre-baby weight. But I think I may instead stop here and work more on fitness and strength. Right now, I still have a bit of curves and roundness to my face that looks attractive. I don't want to get that skinny older lady look.

Also you want to avoid a flat butt at all costs. It's better to be an 8 with a round ass than a 4 with a flat ass.

Lol a size 4 is going to look better than a size 8 no matter how flat the ass.

Not true. Do people really think this? That the smaller you are the better you look?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Slowing down and pausing during weight loss gives skin chance to tighten (and also helps promote weight maintenance). So lose 10 lbs, pause and maintain for a month, lose 10 more. Or lose for 6 months, pause and maintain for 3 months, go back to losing.

Also setting a target weight that is slightly overweight or at the upper end of BMI rather than the weight you looked best at when you were in your 20s/30s. Older people are often more attractive/look younger at a higher BMI than younger people. Post 50 being slightly overweight (e.g. BMI of 26) is also associated with the lowest all-cause mortality.

Listen to this person! I lost 15 pounds this year. I am now at a healthy BMI (slightly above the middle of the normal range) but was planning to lose 5-8 more to get to my pre-baby weight. But I think I may instead stop here and work more on fitness and strength. Right now, I still have a bit of curves and roundness to my face that looks attractive. I don't want to get that skinny older lady look.

Also you want to avoid a flat butt at all costs. It's better to be an 8 with a round ass than a 4 with a flat ass.

Lol a size 4 is going to look better than a size 8 no matter how flat the ass.

DP: Not IMO. I think size 8 is the ideal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Slowing down and pausing during weight loss gives skin chance to tighten (and also helps promote weight maintenance). So lose 10 lbs, pause and maintain for a month, lose 10 more. Or lose for 6 months, pause and maintain for 3 months, go back to losing.

Also setting a target weight that is slightly overweight or at the upper end of BMI rather than the weight you looked best at when you were in your 20s/30s. Older people are often more attractive/look younger at a higher BMI than younger people. Post 50 being slightly overweight (e.g. BMI of 26) is also associated with the lowest all-cause mortality.

Listen to this person! I lost 15 pounds this year. I am now at a healthy BMI (slightly above the middle of the normal range) but was planning to lose 5-8 more to get to my pre-baby weight. But I think I may instead stop here and work more on fitness and strength. Right now, I still have a bit of curves and roundness to my face that looks attractive. I don't want to get that skinny older lady look.

Also you want to avoid a flat butt at all costs. It's better to be an 8 with a round ass than a 4 with a flat ass.

Lol a size 4 is going to look better than a size 8 no matter how flat the ass.

so the this year’s size 8 is the old size 14 - a decade ago. And no - oozing bra fat and muffin tops are not appealing. Clothing manufacturers will take your money and convince you it is “normal” to have sizes xxl for women. Women. Demand for a product does not make it desirable to those with a goal of health.

DP: Not IMO. I think size 8 is the ideal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Slowing down and pausing during weight loss gives skin chance to tighten (and also helps promote weight maintenance). So lose 10 lbs, pause and maintain for a month, lose 10 more. Or lose for 6 months, pause and maintain for 3 months, go back to losing.

Also setting a target weight that is slightly overweight or at the upper end of BMI rather than the weight you looked best at when you were in your 20s/30s. Older people are often more attractive/look younger at a higher BMI than younger people. Post 50 being slightly overweight (e.g. BMI of 26) is also associated with the lowest all-cause mortality.

Listen to this person! I lost 15 pounds this year. I am now at a healthy BMI (slightly above the middle of the normal range) but was planning to lose 5-8 more to get to my pre-baby weight. But I think I may instead stop here and work more on fitness and strength. Right now, I still have a bit of curves and roundness to my face that looks attractive. I don't want to get that skinny older lady look.

Also you want to avoid a flat butt at all costs. It's better to be an 8 with a round ass than a 4 with a flat ass.

Lol a size 4 is going to look better than a size 8 no matter how flat the ass.

so the this year’s size 8 is the old size 14 - a decade ago. And no - oozing bra fat and muffin tops are not appealing. Clothing manufacturers will take your money and convince you it is “normal” to have sizes xxl for women. Women. Demand for a product does not make it desirable to those with a goal of health.

DP: Not IMO. I think size 8 is the ideal.

Totally depends on where you buy your size 8s. I still comfortably fit into the size 8 jeans I have from 15 years ago and I currently buy anywhere from size 4-10, so I consider myself a size 8.