SIL travels with her own cocktails

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone who does this has an unhealthy relationship with alcohol and needs to drink and/or get drunk to have a good time.

Ha, I don’t drink and I do this. Well, I don’t bring G & T, although sometimes I bring AF G & T, but I make myself delicious mocktails. Most people have sucky AF options and I’m not drinking plain water or seltzer when everyone else is having delicious beer and wine. So I come packing my own. If I’m with a group of jerks, I’d use an excuse like SIL. If I’m with normal human beings, I just tell them what I brought. Sometimes I bring extra so people can try how great AF options can be, without the hangover.

I'd be interested in your AF drink recipes. Please consider an AMA in the Food forum!

+1. I was going to post an inquiry about your AF drinks, as well!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is high maintenance. I feel a little sorry for your brother

I bet you think the same thing about people with nut allergies and celiac disease.

[Anonymous]

There is also the concern about driving with an open container…

[Anonymous]

It is rude to have someone over regularly and not serve something they can/will drink (while judging them for not drinking what you are serving) - and clearly this doesn't seem to be about alcohol since you serve beer and wine.

[Anonymous]

You are a bad host. Why can’t you accommodate all your guests?

[Anonymous]

You should feel utterly humiliated at your lack of hosting skills. Anyone in my family would sooner die than make someone bring a thermos of gin just so they could have something they enjoy to drink. And then to come here and trash her! How I wish I knew who your SIL is so I could let her know what a rude witch you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is high maintenance. I feel a little sorry for your brother

I bet you think the same thing about people with nut allergies and celiac disease.

No, that’s not high maintenance, just less “life stamina” than most. But we aren’t in Sparta so that’s to be expected

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My SIL also brings her own cocktails. I thought this was a millennial thing.

Why does she do that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:High maintenance? For taking care of her own wishes without bothering anybody or making a big deal out of it?

That's a bold strategy, Cotton.

She is being quite passive aggressive too. She is not a toddler who doesn’t eat what’s served. She can have a soda or some juice if she doesn’t like beer or wine. What is she brought her own food too? I am not taking about allergies.

[Anonymous]

Like sure, she'd probably have an alcohol problem if she brought her g&t thermos to a PTA meeting or a mani-pedi. But for a social event hosted by her cheap, judgy, sourpuss SIL: not a problem.

[Anonymous]

Weird that she gets headaches from wine/beer, but not from gin.

Where else does she bring her magic thermos? Soccer games? The grocery store?

I suspect OP is the “SIL” in this story and is looking for affirmation for his/her drinking problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:High maintenance? For taking care of her own wishes without bothering anybody or making a big deal out of it?

That's a bold strategy, Cotton.

She is being quite passive aggressive too. She is not a toddler who doesn’t eat what’s served. She can have a soda or some juice if she doesn’t like beer or wine. What is she brought her own food too? I am not taking about allergies.

No, she isn't. There is nothing aggressive about it. There *would* be something aggressive about bringing a full bar set and ostentatiously mixing cocktails for other people, since they aren't provided, unless she was invited to.

And this isn't acting like a toddler, either. If alcoholic beverages are being served, and this happens on a predictable basis, it's really rude of the hosts to only serve things she will not enjoy. You want passive aggressive toddlers? That's the hosts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weird that she gets headaches from wine/beer, but not from gin.

Where else does she bring her magic thermos? Soccer games? The grocery store?

I suspect OP is the “SIL” in this story and is looking for affirmation for his/her drinking problem.

You are trying really, really hard to salvage this.

Sorry. DCUM rarely gets this much of an overwhelming consensus. Judgement is in.

[Anonymous]

Anyone who actually likes G&T’s wouldn’t want them without any fizz, which SIL loses in her Thermos. If she drinks the whole container and it’s of normal strength, that is probably 3-5 servings of alcohol. For a woman, there is no way this is healthy.

[Anonymous]

Thermoses have a vacuum seal. Why would that necessarily lose fizz? Thermoses come in all sizes, even 12 oz. And she could have as much ice or soda in it as she wanted. OP said there wasn't any untoward behavior, like acting drunk.

I don't know, there seems to be some kind of late stage end run play here to paint the SIL as problematic, when this initial pass failed.