Do you really know many women who had kids before the age of 30? I don't. I would be a 61 if my oldest had a child at 30. I'm willing to roll the dice. |
“Smug”? It’s called personal responsibility. We had kids when we were ready. We have friends who chose to never have kids. That’s another option too. |
You just described social changes resulting from the industrial revolution, which began in 1750. Humans have been around much longer than that. Communal arrangements were the norm for millennia. |
Yeah, by any means please remain a SAHM because you sound painfully unintelligent. Not once has it occurred to you that, your ability to be a SAHM is contingent on your spouse's ability to not only remain employed but gainfully so ? What country do you live in ? Is there job safety in this country? You talk about being a SAHM as if having a spouse that can maintain gainful employment long enough to raise kids into adulthood is a fait accompli. This country is full of families staring down at economic hardship precisely because like you, they thought whatever employment the spouse had was for life , until the layoffs, pink slips or even medical emergencies sent them into abyss . |
Options cut both ways . I'm sure everything you wrote is felt by many men about you and your peers. Perhaps, you think of yourself as a great catch and that's your prerogative, are you at least willing to humbly consider the fact that, potential mates don't view you as a 'quality partner' either ? |
Is it because most British women are better educated and do more schooling than 4 years of undergraduate studies? I was 32 when I finished my formal education. Iff I had wanted to have children before age 30, it would have been doing part time studies and taking longer to finish my schooling.
No doubt that it continues to be a challenge to be have a career and be a parent as a woman. Not sure why this post is significant. |
I’m sure you look great and amazonian but if you are under 5’7, the whole anglo/American gym weightlifting women trend just makes you look like a cartoon character. Mainland euro women are always roasting how American women are “sporty”…and it’s not in a good way. |
I had my first at 20, my second at 25. I thought I would be a young grandmother and here I am at 61 with no grandchildren and I am coming to the realization that I will probably not have grandchildren. There are no guarantees in life. |
Have you met British women? “Better Educated” is not a term I would use to describe the median British woman. |
LOL. My wife is Spanish and her sisters and neices are all thin because they still smoke like chimneys and drink the equivalent of slim-fast instead of eating. |
I think the British have the same problem that the US does -- more women than men getting college degrees. https://www.bbc.com/news/education-36266753 Apparently, they need affirmative action for poor white boys, because poor black and Asian boys have a higher rate of college education than poor white boys.
A college education means more to lower income people than middle income, and more so if you are not white. Given that the UK is like almost 80% white, it makes sense that white British women have a harder time finding partners with equal SES backgrounds. |
No, we don't. We have other, more important things to worry about other than how much time American women spend in the gym and we've been celebrating athletic bodies since Surya Bonaly. We all wanted to be like her - European here. |
Having babies used to be a change in status for women. Becoming a mother changed peoples perceptions of you. It was the pinnacle of womanhood. Even for royalty. Now with education, career and volunteering women can have status and a place in society without motherhood. And since having children is tough, ties you to a potentially unreliable partner and is expensive its not as desirable if there are other options. And in western societies there is a lot of unconscious weighting of those factors. Women want to be ready and in the right place to have children as opposed to that being the goal of their up to then life. |
Being a mother is just harder these days. 1) Most women have to work while still generally being the default parent; 2) Society frowns upon the "free range" parenting strategies of our own parents' generations; 3) Childcare and college expenses are astronomically high. Because women are much more financially independent these days, they can think strategically about when the time is right to transition to motherhood. |
We should care about 'mainland euro' women opinion of American women because.......????? |