What is the psychology behind being attracted to your kid’s coach/teacher?

[Anonymous]

I know this is a thing, especially for women. I myself have more than once felt attracted to my son’s coaches throughout the years. Happily married, but a little fantasizing never hurt anyone.

Just curious what is going on with that? The current coach is a reasonably attractive guy, also single which is outside the norm. However, he’s probably not someone I would give a second thought to if not for being the coach (and he’s a good one, my kid really looks up to him). Why do I think about him so much?

[Anonymous]

He probably treats your kid well and is always cheerful- no emotional legacy between you. It’s normal- let it remain a crush only.

[Anonymous]

Authority appeals to you.

[Anonymous]

Same for men. We fantasize about early education teachers. I think it's something primal about seeing someone sweet with little kids

[Anonymous]

They are seen as a care taker, care taker of your kid. Nuturing.

[Anonymous]

Someone who is good to your kid without the baggage of being someone whose off-putting day-to-day habits you've had to put up with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone who is good to your kid without the baggage of being someone whose off-putting day-to-day habits you've had to put up with.

This definitely makes sense, along with a little bit of the authority thing I think. Thanks! I feel embarrassed by this attraction even though no one knows. Good to hear it is fairly normal! And yes, absolutely keeping it in my head/crush only!!

[Anonymous]

Ew. No thanks.

The psychology is a person having unhealthy boundaries and projecting feelings on inappropriate people.

[Anonymous]

I think it is the fact that they are “on” whenever you see them - professional, friendly, active. Not an authority thing, more of a “this person is paying full attention, not doing anything gross and is doing appropriate things.”

[Anonymous]

They care
Passionate about it something
Hopefully good with kids
Father figure
Might be athletic and in good shape
Must communicate and teach kids skills (gasp!!)

[Anonymous]

Inspirational talker too

[Anonymous]

I think it’s normal but make sure you keep it together when you’re in person. Sometimes I think women fall into a trap where they think it’s okay to ogle or gossip about a hot coach but it really isn’t. I’ve been guilty, but I’m working on it.

[Anonymous]

Similar reasons why men/husbands crush on the hot nannies. Nurturing roll with the soft feminine touch…without the usual “baggage” from their wives.

[Anonymous]

Gross!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s normal but make sure you keep it together when you’re in person. Sometimes I think women fall into a trap where they think it’s okay to ogle or gossip about a hot coach but it really isn’t. I’ve been guilty, but I’m working on it.

It may be common but no it is NOT normal.