At what stage in dating do you screen for political views?

[Anonymous]

Immediately? Later on?

[Anonymous]

Never. I screen for if they are a good person or a jerk. There are many jerks in both of the major political parties. Eventually I ended up marrying someone who is in a different political party and we are very happy.

[Anonymous]

"Never" is a good answer. Good people can align with any political persuasion, as can intolerant, bigoted, and narrow-minded people. If you're not one of the latter, it shouldn't matter. My spouse and I don't share political views, and it's of no consequence whatsoever because we're tolerant and respectful of each other's perspectives.

[Anonymous]

the fact that you have a screening process might be why haven't found the right one yet or may never find them.

[Anonymous]

I put “no Republicans” on my OLD profile.

[Anonymous]

Depends what you mean by "screen for political views." I definitely make sure to reference things that matter to me but are also politicized early on in the dating process. For example -- I have trans, lesbian, gay, and otherwise queer friends and family members. I will intentionally mention them to ensure that I'm not on a date with someone who's not cool with that. Ditto my beliefs about systematic racism and sexism. These are things I talk about or are otherwise in my life. If I can't have a civil, considerate, and respectful conversation (or indeed vent) about them, I don't want to be dating someone and they probably don't want to be dating me to be honest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Never" is a good answer. Good people can align with any political persuasion, as can intolerant, bigoted, and narrow-minded people. If you're not one of the latter, it shouldn't matter. My spouse and I don't share political views, and it's of no consequence whatsoever because we're tolerant and respectful of each other's perspectives.

In 2022?

Not really.

[Anonymous]

Immediately

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Never" is a good answer. Good people can align with any political persuasion, as can intolerant, bigoted, and narrow-minded people. If you're not one of the latter, it shouldn't matter. My spouse and I don't share political views, and it's of no consequence whatsoever because we're tolerant and respectful of each other's perspectives.

In 2022?

Not really.

OP, normally, in sane world, I would have said "never" to respond to your question. However, it is becoming increasingly necessary to do some level of screening to avoid people like the PP above.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Never" is a good answer. Good people can align with any political persuasion, as can intolerant, bigoted, and narrow-minded people. If you're not one of the latter, it shouldn't matter. My spouse and I don't share political views, and it's of no consequence whatsoever because we're tolerant and respectful of each other's perspectives.

This is true. But there is only one political party actively trying to make life MORE difficult for groups of people who already have difficult lives. That's not a life philosophy I can support, IDGAF what it does to your taxes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Immediately

I am not having sex with someone who thinks my fetus gets more of say in my health care than I do!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never. I screen for if they are a good person or a jerk. There are many jerks in both of the major political parties. Eventually I ended up marrying someone who is in a different political party and we are very happy.

Jerks pass "Don't say gay" bills and are supported by plenty of "nice" people who don't mind standing on your throat to get ahead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends what you mean by "screen for political views." I definitely make sure to reference things that matter to me but are also politicized early on in the dating process. For example -- I have trans, lesbian, gay, and otherwise queer friends and family members. I will intentionally mention them to ensure that I'm not on a date with someone who's not cool with that. Ditto my beliefs about systematic racism and sexism. These are things I talk about or are otherwise in my life. If I can't have a civil, considerate, and respectful conversation (or indeed vent) about them, I don't want to be dating someone and they probably don't want to be dating me to be honest.

I also do this with nonpolitical things, to be clear. If you hate science fiction or think it's lame to read kids books as an adult, we aren't going to get on even if we voted for the same political candidates in every election of our lives.

[Anonymous]

Definitely agree. There was a time when there were reasonable views and reasonable people in both major parties. Those times are gone. The parties have re-sorted, and Republicans today are defined by beliefs and attitudes that are dangerous and repugnant to democracy and decency. There are not good people on both sides anymore.

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty involved in local politics so it's something I would definitely talk about early. I wouldn't necessarily reject someone because they were apolitical, but I find that apolitical tends to align with not a good conversationalist.