How does location affect dating for divorced parent?

[Anonymous]

I'm in my 40s, divorced, with kids in middle school (50% custody). I'm ready to start dating. I currently live in Bethesda, but I could easily move to lower/urban NW (like Dupont, Logan, Adams Morgan, etc.) or to upper NW, or I could stay in Bethesda. Will my dating opportunites be affected by where I live? How? (For the record, this choice will not affect the kids. It won't change where they go to school or how involved I am in their life, and they like all the locations.)

[Anonymous]

If you want to date single women with no kids in their thirties or forties, moving to DC will help your dating chances. Otherwise, if you are ok with dating divorced moms, Bethesda is fine but that’s assuming you mean real Bethesda, not “North Rockville.”

If you don’t want more kids, stick to women over 45, whether they are moms or single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you want to date single women with no kids in their thirties or forties, moving to DC will help your dating chances. Otherwise, if you are ok with dating divorced moms, Bethesda is fine but that’s assuming you mean real Bethesda, not “North Rockville.”

If you don’t want more kids, stick to women over 45, whether they are moms or single.

I meant to say whether they are moms or childless

[Anonymous]

I’m divorced and 44 (f), don’t want more kids, and don’t think it matters.

If you wanna have another family completely and date people in their 30s, maybe it matters.

There are plenty of 40s women though that look really good and can compete with women in their 30s with looks and who don’t want more kids.

[Anonymous]

I’d still want to live close to the kids so it’s more convenient for them to see you and you to attend school events. Also consider college, maybe you should move to Arlington.

[Anonymous]

I find NW DC and Bethesda to be full of boring UMC white women. I'd move to Loudon County.

[Anonymous]

Same question but as a 50 yo woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same question but as a 50 yo woman?

extrapolate, people!

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks for the info. I mean real, near-in Bethesda.

I don't want to have more kids. Dating someone in their 20s or 30s sounds like fun, but probably it's just ego gratification in the end. Hard to see sustaining a real connection with someone in such a different stage of life.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't matter where you live if you're willing to travel a little to date. I live in Ashburn and my dating radius was 9 miles. I wasn't interested in spending time far from home. It worked out well for me. I have friends in Ashburn who will drive to Arlington or Frederick to go on a date. There are single people everywhere.

[Anonymous]

39F and also done want more kids (have 2). I’m in Arlington but have dated men as far as Bethesda. Actually, there are a lot of respectable singles in Bethesda. Seemingly a lot more than in NOVA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the info. I mean real, near-in Bethesda.

I don't want to have more kids. Dating someone in their 20s or 30s sounds like fun, but probably it's just ego gratification in the end. Hard to see sustaining a real connection with someone in such a different stage of life.

Since you are in real Bethesda, that’s fine. I posted earlier about dc. Being in dc gives you a slight edge. But you’re going to want to be near your kids. It’s so much easier that way. If one leaves something at one place it’s not a big deal to go get it. Easier for your kids to get to your place. How are middle schoolers going to all the way to Logan? Metro, yes, but are they going to metro to Logan and then back in the morning to go to school?

What is your custody split?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the info. I mean real, near-in Bethesda.

I don't want to have more kids. Dating someone in their 20s or 30s sounds like fun, but probably it's just ego gratification in the end. Hard to see sustaining a real connection with someone in such a different stage of life.

I would stay in Bethesda. You can drive to DC if you want to date a woman who lives there. No big deal at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the info. I mean real, near-in Bethesda.

I don't want to have more kids. Dating someone in their 20s or 30s sounds like fun, but probably it's just ego gratification in the end. Hard to see sustaining a real connection with someone in such a different stage of life.

I would stay in Bethesda. You can drive to DC if you want to date a woman who lives there. No big deal at all.

I assume these are women asking about single men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the info. I mean real, near-in Bethesda.

I don't want to have more kids. Dating someone in their 20s or 30s sounds like fun, but probably it's just ego gratification in the end. Hard to see sustaining a real connection with someone in such a different stage of life.

I would stay in Bethesda. You can drive to DC if you want to date a woman who lives there. No big deal at all.

I assume these are women asking about single men.

I assumed man based on the above comment about dating younger. Most women aren’t looking to date younger men.