How does location affect dating for divorced parent?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the info. I mean real, near-in Bethesda.

I don't want to have more kids. Dating someone in their 20s or 30s sounds like fun, but probably it's just ego gratification in the end. Hard to see sustaining a real connection with someone in such a different stage of life.

I would stay in Bethesda. You can drive to DC if you want to date a woman who lives there. No big deal at all.

I assume these are women asking about single men.

I assumed man based on the above comment about dating younger. Most women aren’t looking to date younger men.

Nah. Does this sound like a man to you (from OP):
I don't want to have more kids. Dating someone in their 20s or 30s sounds like fun, but probably it's just ego gratification in the end. Hard to see sustaining a real connection with someone in such a different stage of life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my 40s, divorced, with kids in middle school (50% custody). I'm ready to start dating. I currently live in Bethesda, but I could easily move to lower/urban NW (like Dupont, Logan, Adams Morgan, etc.) or to upper NW, or I could stay in Bethesda. Will my dating opportunites be affected by where I live? How? (For the record, this choice will not affect the kids. It won't change where they go to school or how involved I am in their life, and they like all the locations.)

How old are your kids if they like Dupont, Logan, Adams Morgan?? Those aren't areas kids usually know much about, particularly ones from the suburbs.

Are you going to be empty nest soon? That might change things.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the info. I mean real, near-in Bethesda.

I don't want to have more kids. Dating someone in their 20s or 30s sounds like fun, but probably it's just ego gratification in the end. Hard to see sustaining a real connection with someone in such a different stage of life.

I would stay in Bethesda. You can drive to DC if you want to date a woman who lives there. No big deal at all.

I assume these are women asking about single men.

I assumed man based on the above comment about dating younger. Most women aren’t looking to date younger men.

Nah. Does this sound like a man to you (from OP):
I don't want to have more kids. Dating someone in their 20s or 30s sounds like fun, but probably it's just ego gratification in the end. Hard to see sustaining a real connection with someone in such a different stage of life.

A woman would never be considering this move and how her dating life may improve bc of it. And the use of the term “how involved I am in their life” screams Dad.

[Anonymous]

OP again. I'm amused by the debate about my gender. I'm not going to answer directly. The reason I mentioned dating younger people was no that I'm trying to date younger people. It was that a previous poster suggested that living in DC might be better if the goal was to date younger people. And the reason I mentioned how involved I'd be in the kids life was only to preempt the inevitable pearl-clutching criticism that I should do what's best for my kids.

[Anonymous]

OP, I’m guessing you are male and not worried about moving because your ex is maintaining stability for the kids by staying in the house, so you aren’t worried about that. Kids may be in private school. Still, with 50% custody if you are in DC and they are in Bethesda, it will be more of a hassle for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the info. I mean real, near-in Bethesda.

I don't want to have more kids. Dating someone in their 20s or 30s sounds like fun, but probably it's just ego gratification in the end. Hard to see sustaining a real connection with someone in such a different stage of life.

I would stay in Bethesda. You can drive to DC if you want to date a woman who lives there. No big deal at all.

I assume these are women asking about single men.

I assumed man based on the above comment about dating younger. Most women aren’t looking to date younger men.

Nah. Does this sound like a man to you (from OP):
I don't want to have more kids. Dating someone in their 20s or 30s sounds like fun, but probably it's just ego gratification in the end. Hard to see sustaining a real connection with someone in such a different stage of life.

A woman would never be considering this move and how her dating life may improve bc of it. And the use of the term “how involved I am in their life” screams Dad.

Not op but I am a woman and thinking very much about how moving will affect my dating life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the info. I mean real, near-in Bethesda.

I don't want to have more kids. Dating someone in their 20s or 30s sounds like fun, but probably it's just ego gratification in the end. Hard to see sustaining a real connection with someone in such a different stage of life.

I would stay in Bethesda. You can drive to DC if you want to date a woman who lives there. No big deal at all.

I assume these are women asking about single men.

I assumed man based on the above comment about dating younger. Most women aren’t looking to date younger men.

Nah. Does this sound like a man to you (from OP):
I don't want to have more kids. Dating someone in their 20s or 30s sounds like fun, but probably it's just ego gratification in the end. Hard to see sustaining a real connection with someone in such a different stage of life.

A woman would never be considering this move and how her dating life may improve bc of it. And the use of the term “how involved I am in their life” screams Dad.

Not op but I am a woman and thinking very much about how moving will affect my dating life.

Ok but are you moving and also considering how it will affect your dating life? Or moving to deliberately affect your dating life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’m guessing you are male and not worried about moving because your ex is maintaining stability for the kids by staying in the house, so you aren’t worried about that. Kids may be in private school. Still, with 50% custody if you are in DC and they are in Bethesda, it will be more of a hassle for everyone.

Haha. Yup, so transparent. I’m sure he’ll come on here and make up some BS but this is very likely the case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I'm amused by the debate about my gender. I'm not going to answer directly. The reason I mentioned dating younger people was no that I'm trying to date younger people. It was that a previous poster suggested that living in DC might be better if the goal was to date younger people. And the reason I mentioned how involved I'd be in the kids life was only to preempt the inevitable pearl-clutching criticism that I should do what's best for my kids.

A woman would never use the term “involved in my children’s life.” For most mothers, the children are her life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the info. I mean real, near-in Bethesda.

I don't want to have more kids. Dating someone in their 20s or 30s sounds like fun, but probably it's just ego gratification in the end. Hard to see sustaining a real connection with someone in such a different stage of life.

I would stay in Bethesda. You can drive to DC if you want to date a woman who lives there. No big deal at all.

I assume these are women asking about single men.

I assumed man based on the above comment about dating younger. Most women aren’t looking to date younger men.

Nah. Does this sound like a man to you (from OP):
I don't want to have more kids. Dating someone in their 20s or 30s sounds like fun, but probably it's just ego gratification in the end. Hard to see sustaining a real connection with someone in such a different stage of life.

A woman would never be considering this move and how her dating life may improve bc of it. And the use of the term “how involved I am in their life” screams Dad.

Not op but I am a woman and thinking very much about how moving will affect my dating life.

Ok but are you moving and also considering how it will affect your dating life? Or moving to deliberately affect your dating life?

Moving anyway and making decision based partly on how it will affect my dating life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP again. I'm amused by the debate about my gender. I'm not going to answer directly. The reason I mentioned dating younger people was no that I'm trying to date younger people. It was that a previous poster suggested that living in DC might be better if the goal was to date younger people. And the reason I mentioned how involved I'd be in the kids life was only to preempt the inevitable pearl-clutching criticism that I should do what's best for my kids.

A woman would never use the term “involved in my children’s life.” For most mothers, the children are her life.

Oh not for all of them!! My neighbor who is 51, divorcing, N. Bethesda, had numerous affairs and the husband was much more invested in their sons. She'd make up all kinds of excuses to get time away with her APs--missing kids' events, planned to arrange the college visits to get the kids and husband out of the house while she stayed back to whore around.