morning and night duties

[Anonymous]

I'm starting to reconsider who does what in our house. I just need to know...how do you split up these 2 things up? Do you do both?

1.morning duties (breakfast, getting kids to wake up, helping with clothes, reminding them to brush teeth, hair, put on shoes, mask, grab a jacket if it's cold, driving them to school)

and

2. bedtime duties (some nights bath time, stories, tuck in, request for snacks, drinks, and sometimes staying up with your child longer if they cant fall asleep right away)

[Anonymous]

We split the mornings and evenings. DH does early morning and late evening. I do late morning and early evening. I need my sleep! We do this because of work schedule, but it’s also beneficial to both of us to have a relief pitcher

[Anonymous]

1: I do everything up to drive to school, DH drives. (note this is not intentional, LOL. He should be doing more because I do the afternoon stuff).

2: We alternate each night. We used to both do bath (DD was really fussy and unpredictable in the toddler years). Now one of us will get her through the bath, and the other handles bedtime.

[Anonymous]

Our kids are little (5 months and 2) but what we do:

Mornings - divide and conquer at first - I get and feed the baby, husband gets and dresses the toddler. Then one of us is off to the office (we split WFH and office so someone is always home) and the other one handles the rest of the morning routine (breakfast, unloading the dishwasher, cleaning up, transition to nanny).

Evenings - bath time right now we're doing divide and conquer - one of us each does one bath. That will switch as soon as baby sits a bit more solidly, then they'll bathe together, and likely I'll do baths while my husband cooks dinner (he's the cook, and we only do baths 2x weekly). Bedtime - we also each do one kid, and we alternate who does which kid each night.

Nighttime chores - since I'm still nursing/pumping/making bottles/doing a dreamfeed, I'm doing that in the evenings, while my husband does kitchen duty and takes the trash out.

We also have very streamlined routines for the kids - bedtime is 10 mins for baby, 20 for the toddler.

[Anonymous]

We have one kid in elementary who has to be up/dropped off 1.5 hours before our preschooler so I do the early drop off and my DH does the later one. He picks both kids up and we typically tag team bedtime, although occasionally one of us will handle the whole thing if the other has something going on or is just in need of a break. ( We both work full time- me from the office, DH from home- with a more flexible schedule)

[Anonymous]

1.morning duties (breakfast, getting kids to wake up, helping with clothes, reminding them to brush teeth, hair, put on shoes, mask, grab a jacket if it's cold, driving them to school) - the kids have an alarm in their room and they get up with it. they set their clothes out the night before and we don't help. They don't need to be reminded to brush teeth or put on shoes. They can make their own breakfast, but if DH or I are making a smoothie or eggs we'll ask if anyone else wants what we're already making. Either DH or I, or the nanny do their hair. DH or Nanny takes them to school.

2. bedtime duties (some nights bath time, stories, tuck in, request for snacks, drinks, and sometimes staying up with your child longer if they cant fall asleep right away). We would NEVER stay with our kids until they fall asleep. We never even did that when they were babies. DH or I will start the shower so the temp is right, but then they go in one after another. We remind them to take water up to their room if they want it. When they were little and ate dinner way before DH and I did, DH would start cooking OUR dinner while I got them ready for bed and then he'd go in to say goodnight while I set the table and such. But now that the kids are older and we all eat together we have them shower when dinner prep starts. DH will usually go tuck them in while I clean up from dinner, then we switch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm starting to reconsider who does what in our house. I just need to know...how do you split up these 2 things up? Do you do both?

1.morning duties (breakfast, getting kids to wake up, helping with clothes, reminding them to brush teeth, hair, put on shoes, mask, grab a jacket if it's cold, driving them to school)

and

2. bedtime duties (some nights bath time, stories, tuck in, request for snacks, drinks, and sometimes staying up with your child longer if they cant fall asleep right away)

Mom in dual working parent household here.

1. The parent who isn't doing daycare dropoff gets the kid ready in the morning. Usually it is me (and my DH does dropoff).

2. DH usually does dinner (kid is 2ish so it's still hands-on) and I do bath. We both do bedtime (tucking in, reading book, putting on diaper). No one does staying up with child longer... because I'm a sleep training hardass. No drinks or food on demand after dinner in my house.

[Anonymous]

1. Kids are 7 and 5. My husband leaves for work by 6 AM so I do all morning duties myself. He does get my coffee ready.

2. Husband is also home by 2:30, so he gets kids from bus/daycare, plays with them, and preps dinner until i turn off my computer at 5. Then I shower the kids while he cooks dinner (sometimes we trade off). After dinner he usually cleans up while I pack lunches while the kids are watching a show. We each take a kid for bedtime.

It's been like this since they were born.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1.morning duties (breakfast, getting kids to wake up, helping with clothes, reminding them to brush teeth, hair, put on shoes, mask, grab a jacket if it's cold, driving them to school) - the kids have an alarm in their room and they get up with it. they set their clothes out the night before and we don't help. They don't need to be reminded to brush teeth or put on shoes. They can make their own breakfast, but if DH or I are making a smoothie or eggs we'll ask if anyone else wants what we're already making. Either DH or I, or the nanny do their hair. DH or Nanny takes them to school.

2. bedtime duties (some nights bath time, stories, tuck in, request for snacks, drinks, and sometimes staying up with your child longer if they cant fall asleep right away). We would NEVER stay with our kids until they fall asleep. We never even did that when they were babies. DH or I will start the shower so the temp is right, but then they go in one after another. We remind them to take water up to their room if they want it. When they were little and ate dinner way before DH and I did, DH would start cooking OUR dinner while I got them ready for bed and then he'd go in to say goodnight while I set the table and such. But now that the kids are older and we all eat together we have them shower when dinner prep starts. DH will usually go tuck them in while I clean up from dinner, then we switch.

OMG how old are your kids? This is the dream.

[Anonymous]

So I work 6-6 but not every day and spouse works 4-midnight 5 days a week. If it’s my day off I do all of it. If it’s my work day spouse does the morning and I do bedtime. Having said that, if it’s my work day I have to do all the organizing the night before. Lunch is made in fridge, water bottle in backpack, mask on backpack. We use Alexa to get DD up and she dresses herself before coming out of her bedroom on school
Days ( I also lay the clothes out the night before) I don’t lay with my kid if she can’t fall asleep, I think she’s low maintenance, some of it is personality and some of it is stuff we just never started doing.

[Anonymous]

These posts always make me sad. I think I must just have a really good marriage because we both just pitch in all the time. There is no dividing chores, if it needs to be done, we just dive right in. Both of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1.morning duties (breakfast, getting kids to wake up, helping with clothes, reminding them to brush teeth, hair, put on shoes, mask, grab a jacket if it's cold, driving them to school) - the kids have an alarm in their room and they get up with it. they set their clothes out the night before and we don't help. They don't need to be reminded to brush teeth or put on shoes. They can make their own breakfast, but if DH or I are making a smoothie or eggs we'll ask if anyone else wants what we're already making. Either DH or I, or the nanny do their hair. DH or Nanny takes them to school.

2. bedtime duties (some nights bath time, stories, tuck in, request for snacks, drinks, and sometimes staying up with your child longer if they cant fall asleep right away). We would NEVER stay with our kids until they fall asleep. We never even did that when they were babies. DH or I will start the shower so the temp is right, but then they go in one after another. We remind them to take water up to their room if they want it. When they were little and ate dinner way before DH and I did, DH would start cooking OUR dinner while I got them ready for bed and then he'd go in to say goodnight while I set the table and such. But now that the kids are older and we all eat together we have them shower when dinner prep starts. DH will usually go tuck them in while I clean up from dinner, then we switch.

OMG how old are your kids? This is the dream.

Older one is 8, younger will be 7 in a few months.

[Anonymous]

We divide and conquer as follows:

Morning
DH gets up and takes the dogs out while I shower.
I shower, throw on a robe, get our 2 kids up and dressed.
One or both of us gets them breakfast.
DH deals with lunches, I get their backpacks ready (masks, waters, snacks) then I go finish getting myself ready while DH nags them to brush teeth, put on shoes and coats.
I take them to school.

Evening:
We all go upstairs together and get the kids ready for bed, then we divide and conquer (DH tucks in/snuggles with one kid and I do the other - we alternate each night)

[Anonymous]

I’m a SAHM, DH works a lot. DH does story time, teeth brushing, and breakfast about half the time. I typically do the rest. I think we have a good balance.

[Anonymous]

I do mornings, each of us has a kid for evenings.