Moms in Bikinis
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Anonymous
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Is there some unwritten rule about moms wears bikinis at the pool?
I take my kids to community pools and almost always wear a bikini. Not skimpy or anything…just a comfortable two piece with a full coverage bottom. One pieces just don’t look right on me (flatchested, tall, size 4 on top and 8 on the bottom) and it’s hard to find one to suit my (average looking) body. I also find it easier to maneuver the locker room wet bathing suit changes with a two piece. Am I offending people by wearing a bikini? Most moms of all shapes and sizes seem to be wearing one pieces. I’ve never viewed bikinis as sexy (well except for those stringy or Brazilian cut ones). What say you? |
Anonymous
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A lot of moms have loose skin or a "pooch" on their stomach so they don't want to expose that. Even if they look skinny in jeans or high-waisted pants, the loose skin may be sort of hidden.
I wear bikinis too (and am also a flat-chested mom), including at the country club. No one's offended. |
Anonymous
| Oh god, not this again. |
Anonymous
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No I think it’s just that a large share of women prefer to hide their tummies so they wear one pieces.
I’m like you, bigger on the bottom (4/6) and it isn’t easy for me to find one pieces I like. I have a few but I also wear bikinis. That said the bikinis I wear now are different than the ones I wore in high school. |
Anonymous
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It’s unlikely you are not offending and if you are, should you care?
I wore a one-piece when my kids were young because they were always jumping and hanging on me and I found it more comfortable for bending and chasing and general wrangling. Back to the two-piece now. |
Anonymous
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Here ya go, OP. 17 pages on this precise topic.
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/15/976280.page#20088594 |
Anonymous
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If you feel comfortable and you aren’t flashing 3/4 of your butt cheek and your breasts stay in your suit - do what you want.
If a mom doesn’t want to be friends because of your suit choice, you were not going to be friends any way. I’m a chubby mom in a 1 piece and I am neither offended or jealous of your bikini. |
Anonymous
OP here. I should have known this has been extensively covered. |
Anonymous
| I find bikinis more flattering to me. I wear high waisted bottoms to cover loose skin from babies. The top provides as much coverage as a sports bra so definitely not a sexy look, but a flattering, practical look. |
Anonymous
| If you can, Rick it. I did until I was about 42. Now at 46, my stomach has some fat and i don’t want to have to suck it in all of the time. Lots of moms also have stretch marks they don’t want to show. |
Anonymous
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I'm 56 and wear a bikini. I workout and am proud of my body. Do I look like a 25 year old in a bikini? No, of course not - but I look damn good.
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Anonymous
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Wear what you want. At some point, a bathing suit should get to be a practical clothing item. That's what it is for men and most middle aged men don't stress over the length of their swim suits or whether they wear a t shirt or a rash guard or whatever. I am a mom and wear a bikini sometimes and a one-piece sometimes, and mostly realized that it just doesn't matter. I do have tell-tale signs of pregnancy on my body, including some loose skin on my tummy. I'm not excited when I see it highlighted in a photo but I'm not going to stick to Miracle suits or something to hide it. It's just my body, which is imperfect and also no one's business.
I did wind up buying a new one-piece last year for the first time in a while and was enthusiastic to find that there are a lot better options for cute one-piece suits these days. I could see that influencing me to wear them more in the future. I found a really cute wrap style suit that has a relatively low-cut leg (which I like, it looks best on my body) without looking super old-fashioned or dowdy. But I'm wearing it because it's a cute swimsuit that makes me feel good, not because I'm ashamed of my little belly. |
Anonymous
| You have a bikini body if you have a body and put a bikini on it. Stop worrying what other people MIGHT think. |
Anonymous
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I prefer a 2 piece because it's.more practical. But... I end up wearing a one piece most of the time because I have a lot of loose saggy skin around my belly button that I would rather not have to worry about flapping around when I bend over.
So if you can wear it, why not? |
Anonymous
| Swimming in this weather? |