OP horrid brothers dealing with mother update.

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01/29/2022 07:48

Subject: OP horrid brothers dealing with mother update.

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Its my baby brother”John” who’s still on the rampage since our mom appointed me her POA. My older brother ”Dave” has settled down. John who never visits has taken her out on drives thru her old neighborhood, to her business and even to her home! This is his manipulation to get her to revoke my POA, telling her things like she can come back home and he will take are of her etc.. I checked the timeline when John took her out and it correlates with her bad moods when I call. . My mom kept this to herself but told me yesterday. I would NEVER take her to her home because I think it would only make her depressed and prolong the adjustment to her AL. John is bringing a social worker to moms AL this morning to have a “meeting”. Another attempt to get her to revoke my POA. This social W sent me invite to this meeting but I declined. My mom asked me to come because she knows she is intimidated by John and needs my support. It’s going to be a shitshow yelling match and I don’t want to subject her to this but my husband said I have to put this all to bed!

Meanwhile in the short time I’ve had POA I’ve discovered why John is kicking like a mule. John has been the mgr of my parents businesses for years. I’ve gone to her banks and checked accounts. My parents told John to add me to all their LLCs a few yrs ago when they were estate planning. John’s response, “why, she’s married to a man with money now”. Parents response, “it doesn’t matter if she’s married to Bill Gates she’s entitled to a 3rd of our estate. If she was struggling would you want to give her more than a 3rd?” John then went thru the motions asking me for my ss number telling me he was adding me to all the LLCs. I discovered John created dummy LLCs at a different bank, each having the minimum $600 balance. He kept the legit LLCs at the original bank but told my parents he would move them to this new bank. Of course he never did. My dad passed of covid, mom suffers a stroke shortly after. I also discovered hundreds of thousands of balances in these LLC rental properties I’m not on. Between the balances and the properties we’re looking at well over 2 million. This doesn’t include her home that is sitting empty, her 300k in savings, her 42k car John is now using and her jewelry and cash stashed in her safe with John being only one with access. I snooped in my moms phone(bad girl) to check the texts between John and her and when she asked John why was I not added to the LLCs, his response, “why would I, she’s never been involved in the businesses”. I was shocked and disgusted. Ive always included John in my life of luxury with my husband allowing him so many experiences he NEVER would have had. It’s so sad he believes he can go against their wishes because of who I’m married to.

I will attend this meeting today and I warned my mother I’m not holding back this time and she better be prepared for all hell to break loose. I told her the ONLY outcome John will accept is her revoking my POA! She said that’s not happening. I also warned her he might also attempt to have her add him as a co POA. I told her that would create even more drama, contention and legal battles. Wish me luck.