Would I be unreasonable to suggest separate sleeping arrangements?

[Anonymous]

I love my husband dearly but he's a noisy sleeper. It's OK when he sleeps on his side but when he turns round to sleep on his back he starts snoring, gurgling, mouth breathing, etc.
I'm a light sleeper and it regularly keeps me awake.

I could wear ear plugs but I don't like them much.

We've been married 23 years. I'm 53 and he's 62.

[Anonymous]

Tell him to get a CPAP. I did it keeps the snoring in check.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been married 12 years and I’ve always slept separately from DH as I snore. Our marriage is still strong, it’s just sleeping.

[Anonymous]

DH has been sleeping elsewhere because we are all isolating and I am sleeping better than I have in 15 years. It's amazing.

[Anonymous]

Dh and I swap out time in the guest room. I snore. I intend to do a sleep study at some point, but it’s low on the list in the middle of the pandemic. It’s not a big deal. I’d rather not be waking him up all night long.

[Anonymous]

About six years ago I realized that I woke up always feeling like I had been hit by a bus. I began sleeping in a different room and immediately felt more refreshed. As much as I miss sleeping with someone else, it is not worth feeling that way. Give it a shot, you have nothing to lose. My husband and I have a strong marriage.

[Anonymous]

If yo shut someone's mouth for them while they are sleeping they will not be able to snore. Just a tip. I shut my husband's mouth all the time -- he prefers it to sleeping alone.

[Anonymous]

Of course not. Not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Totally reasonable

[Anonymous]

how and how often does sex happens if couple don't sleep together?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:how and how often does sex happens if couple don't sleep together?

Uhh...you know you don't do it in your sleep, right?

[Anonymous]

Of course it’s fine. Though I second a sleep study. The mouthpiece that my DH now uses has cut down the snoring to a minimum and we’ve not had to do separate bedrooms.

[Anonymous]

Reasonable. Although I will say having done it for a period of time and just gone back to sleeping in the same room recently, there are a lot of things you might miss about it. Falling asleep together after sex being a big one.

If you can maybe try and troubleshoot the snoring more. We got a new mattress pad for his side and a different white noise for mine, I no longer hear him at all.

[Anonymous]

Same boat.

Between the baby and DHs snoring, I get a maybe four 40-min stretches per night of sleep.

[Anonymous]

We sleep separately. DH had a CPAP but couldn’t sleep with it, so off he goes to the guest room.