Second cousin question?

[Anonymous]

I am a foreigner, and this is the first time I hear of second cousin and I am confused. Okay, i have 2 siblings (one has 1 kid, and one has none), and DH has 1 sibling (BIL has 1 kid, and his spouse (SIL) is the only child). Everyone is in 40s, so most likely no more kids for anyone.

We have 3 kids, so my 3 kids have 2 cousins (1 from my sibling and 1 from my BIL). My BIL’s kid has 3 cousins( 3 from my family). ILs were talking at Christmas dinner that BIL’s kid has one more cousin, and I was like, “ who is that?”. And, I find out that they are talking about SIL’s cousin’ kid.

So, SIL’s cousin kid is considered “cousin” to their kid? They just say“ cousin”, not “ second cousin”.

I have many cousins because my dad has 7 siblings and my mom has 5 siblings. So, my cousin’s kids ( I would say at least 10 or more) are all my kid’s cousins? I am not even close to any of them and they live internationally.

ILs used to tell BIL’s the only child that my kids are her brother/sister, and I was like speechless.

[Anonymous]

Your second cousins are your cousins' children. Sometimes this relationship is called "cousins once removed." Some people are close to these family members. Others are not. It depends on the family and the relationships within the family.

When getting together with these family members, I just call them my cousins. I do not call them my second cousins.

[Anonymous]

No, a second cousin would be comparing your kids to your first cousin's kids. Your cousin's kid to your kid is your first cousin once removed. They aren't the same thing. Then your grandkids and your first cousin's grandkids would be third cousins.

I come from a big family with a large age range so I actually have a first cousin who's older than my mom and similarly complicated situations. I generally just say "cousin" in passing. So yeah, Jane might actually be my first cousin once removed, but we grew up with a more typical just "cousin" relationship and it's not worth explaining 99% of the time.

[Anonymous]

We have some second cousins who we are close to. We just call them cousins. I have other second cousins that I barely know. I don’t call them anything but would probably still call them cousins if we happened to meet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, a second cousin would be comparing your kids to your first cousin's kids. Your cousin's kid to your kid is your first cousin once removed. They aren't the same thing. Then your grandkids and your first cousin's grandkids would be third cousins.

I come from a big family with a large age range so I actually have a first cousin who's older than my mom and similarly complicated situations. I generally just say "cousin" in passing. So yeah, Jane might actually be my first cousin once removed, but we grew up with a more typical just "cousin" relationship and it's not worth explaining 99% of the time.

Sorry typo, let me try again.

Your mom and Bob's mom are sisters. So you're first cousins. Bob has a kid, that kid is your first cousin once removed. If you have a kid, your kid and Bob's kid are second cousins. Bob's grandkid is your second cousin once removed. Your grandkids and Bob's grandkids are third cousins. And so on and so on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, a second cousin would be comparing your kids to your first cousin's kids. Your cousin's kid to your kid is your first cousin once removed. They aren't the same thing. Then your grandkids and your first cousin's grandkids would be third cousins.

I come from a big family with a large age range so I actually have a first cousin who's older than my mom and similarly complicated situations. I generally just say "cousin" in passing. So yeah, Jane might actually be my first cousin once removed, but we grew up with a more typical just "cousin" relationship and it's not worth explaining 99% of the time.

Sorry typo, let me try again.

Your mom and Bob's mom are sisters. So you're first cousins. Bob has a kid, that kid is your first cousin once removed. If you have a kid, your kid and Bob's kid are second cousins. Bob's grandkid is your second cousin once removed. Your grandkids and Bob's grandkids are third cousins. And so on and so on.

This is correct. However in a small family, it’s not uncommon to call all cousins of whatever degree “cousin” if you’re close to them because saying “second cousin once removed” or whatever is a mouthful.

[Anonymous]

Here's a chart that explains it from a genealogy perspective.

https://www.familysearch.org/en/blog/cousin-chart

I think people use a loose definition of cousins when they are indicating that they are "kind of related".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Here's a chart that explains it from a genealogy perspective.

https://www.familysearch.org/en/blog/cousin-chart

I think people use a loose definition of cousins when they are indicating that they are "kind of related".

This. Over the holidays we usually see a group of my first cousins (they are all siblings) and their families. Specific relationships include first and second cousins, various levels of "removed". We just call everyone cousins although some of the cousins kids at this point put me in the "aunt" category.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Here's a chart that explains it from a genealogy perspective.

https://www.familysearch.org/en/blog/cousin-chart

I think people use a loose definition of cousins when they are indicating that they are "kind of related".

This. Over the holidays we usually see a group of my first cousins (they are all siblings) and their families. Specific relationships include first and second cousins, various levels of "removed". We just call everyone cousins although some of the cousins kids at this point put me in the "aunt" category.

This. Cousin is both a specific term (children of your sibling) and a looser term for person in the same generation as you in an extended family. People who need always to drill down and use the exact term for such a relationship are overly pedantic.

[Anonymous]

The important thing is to not have sex with anyone you’re related to, no matter how far removed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The important thing is to not have sex with anyone you’re related to, no matter how far removed.

😂😂😂

[Anonymous]

I see a link above but here is the same concept embedded as a picture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your second cousins are your cousins' children. Sometimes this relationship is called "cousins once removed." Some people are close to these family members. Others are not. It depends on the family and the relationships within the family.

When getting together with these family members, I just call them my cousins. I do not call them my second cousins.

No, her aunt or uncles child is her 1st cousin.

Her first cousin's child is her first cousin once removed.

Her own child, and her 1st cousins child, are 2nd cousins to each other

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your second cousins are your cousins' children. Sometimes this relationship is called "cousins once removed." Some people are close to these family members. Others are not. It depends on the family and the relationships within the family.

When getting together with these family members, I just call them my cousins. I do not call them my second cousins.

No, her aunt or uncles child is her 1st cousin.

Her first cousin's child is her first cousin once removed.

Her own child, and her 1st cousins child, are 2nd cousins to each other

Also, I think your family meant to say half-sister or half-brother. Your husband's brother married a woman with a child from previous marriage. That child is your husband's brothers stepchild. And child is a half sibling to your husband's brothers own children. Not a cousin by blood to your kids OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your second cousins are your cousins' children. Sometimes this relationship is called "cousins once removed." Some people are close to these family members. Others are not. It depends on the family and the relationships within the family.

When getting together with these family members, I just call them my cousins. I do not call them my second cousins.

No, her aunt or uncles child is her 1st cousin.

Her first cousin's child is her first cousin once removed.

Her own child, and her 1st cousins child, are 2nd cousins to each other

Also, I think your family meant to say half-sister or half-brother. Your husband's brother married a woman with a child from previous marriage. That child is your husband's brothers stepchild. And child is a half sibling to your husband's brothers own children. Not a cousin by blood to your kids OP

Me again. Sorry for string posting!

Your husband's brothers step-child at most is like a step-cousin to your kids OP. A step- 1st cousin, which is not really legally recognized here.