Who the heck are these people with never enough food for guests?
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Anonymous
| I seriously can't imagine it. My parents and in-laws always have more than enough and getting food from their kitchens at non meal times is never an issue. I would be so outta there if I had to deal with this bs. |
Anonymous
| I leave a few non messy snacks in the guest room when someone stays over, in case they need a little something but don’t feel comfortable bothering me late at night or if I’m in the shower or something. I also tell them they can feel free to help themselves to anything in the pantry or fridge. I also check in with them to see if they’re hungry if it’s been a while since the last meal. I can’t imagine telling people (especially growing children!) that my kitchen is closed and they can only eat on a schedule that I dictate. |
Anonymous
| My Mom. My cousin stayed with her for a week and she basically starved him. He could eat if she didn't feel like eating. They'd go out all day and they'd have one meal. |
Anonymous
| My in-laws. I lost 10lbs the last time we visited. Didn’t feed us and didn’t invite us to use the kitchen. |
Anonymous
| I’m almost jealous. My south Asian in-laws monitor and shame you if you don’t gorge yourself. |
Anonymous
Your visit was TOO long then. |
Anonymous
| It's just so bizarre and poor manners |
Anonymous
Did anyone call her out on this? That's not okay |
Anonymous
Why didn’t he just jump in the car and get a cheeseburger? I would’ve told your mom that I was hungry and went grocery shopping or grabbed takeout; I certainly wouldn’t only eat when your mother deemed it okay. Or is your cousin a minor who could not take matters into his own hands? |
Anonymous
My in-laws live in a foreign country. And yes, way, way too long. |
Anonymous
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Many people eat less as they age, so they might forget what it’s like to want to eat more frequently.
Others are the type who are still strict calorie-counters with a 1970s/80s mentality and can’t understand why half a grapefruit isn’t enough to tide you over from the time you get up until the time you have dinner. There have been many threads on here about parents/IL’s (typically the mother) having disordered eating and expecting their children and grandchildren to follow along. |
Anonymous
My mom bought 1 frozen pizza to feed 3 teenagers for dinner over TG. I ran out to buy 2 more. She has no idea. |
Anonymous
I’m the pp with the foreign in-laws. My sense is that MIL is just done taking care of other people. She lives in a very patriarchal society and raised a half-dozen kids in rudimentary conditions while FIL came to the US to work. FIL is domineering and mean. My sense is this is her version of a bra burner. She lives as if he doesn’t exist and like hell she’s going to wait on anyone anymore. Which I fully respect. But their village doesn’t have amenities like restaurants. And I don’t speak enough of the language to fend for myself. So we were limited to eating when we visited others, which we did daily. But still. I practically ran to the nearest airport wine bar when we landed back in the US. |
Anonymous
| My IL’s basically never eat at home; just breakfast which is always some kind of sugar bomb pastry or a stale bagel and coffee. They go through a token effort of having more food around when we come to visit, so it’s, like, a few oranges and bananas, they’ll unearth some stale cereal for the kids, peanut butter and jelly of questionable age, dinner will be ok but that’s it. |
Anonymous
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Me, my sister surprised me by cooking a meal for the family displacing all the ingredients I had for Christmas Day!
I was so happy she volunteered, but so embarrassed when I realized she had used the ingredients I was planning on using right before cooking. |