Husband went to the driving range when my clogged duct started seeming more like mastitis

[Anonymous]

I'm venting here because if I bring it up to him I have to deal with his narcissistic rage on top of chills, fever, nausea and searing hot pain.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry. I hope you feel better soon.

[Anonymous]

Ask your mom or best friend or sister to come stay with you. divorce as soon as you feel ready.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP. My DH also did not understand mastitis at all. I spent the whole time making hot compresses for my boobs and trying to feed and rest and consult with my doc and a lactation consultant on the phone. He was like “I’m bored, let’s go do something.” I told him multiple times that mastitis is like having the flu and I needed help with the baby and might need him to go pick up antibiotics for me. He thought I was being dramatic. He was like that with so much pregnancy/breastfeeding/post-party’s stuff. And he considers himself a feminist! He was just weird and not very supportive. It sucked.

But it did get better. Many men have a long way to go, and mine was one of them.

Good luck. Hope you get some rest (and some help!).

[Anonymous]

Just get some antibiotics and you will start feeling better right away. Your husband has no clue what you're dealing with but you don't need to be a martyr about it. Call your doctor's emergency line and get a script.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just get some antibiotics and you will start feeling better right away. Your husband has no clue what you're dealing with but you don't need to be a martyr about it. Call your doctor's emergency line and get a script.

Sure, I'll get right on that after I put 2 preschoolers and 1 baby to bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just get some antibiotics and you will start feeling better right away. Your husband has no clue what you're dealing with but you don't need to be a martyr about it. Call your doctor's emergency line and get a script.

Sure, I'll get right on that after I put 2 preschoolers and 1 baby to bed.

Ok, OP wasn’t being a martyr.

OP, why did you have another child with a man who you describe as having “narcissistic rages”?

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm sorry this sucks. If I knew you IRL I'd come help you. I had a 6 week case of really bad thrush, and there were times I broke down in tears wishing I were dead. I don't think anyone who hasn't experienced a BF'ing infection, at a time when you are physically already extra sensitive, can understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just get some antibiotics and you will start feeling better right away. Your husband has no clue what you're dealing with but you don't need to be a martyr about it. Call your doctor's emergency line and get a script.

Sure, I'll get right on that after I put 2 preschoolers and 1 baby to bed.

Ok, OP wasn’t being a martyr.

OP, why did you have another child with a man who you describe as having “narcissistic rages”?

Your problem is not mastitis. Your problem is that you and your husband have not worked out a good weekend child care system. I have three kids close together. Neither of us watched all three alone for an entire day when the youngest was a baby. We divided and conquered and switched off frequently. We got help on the weekend if my DH had plans and I stayed with the baby and the babysitter took the older ones. You need to talk with your husband about your broader child care strategy for the weekends when you are feeling better.

[Anonymous]

You need antibiotics so schedule a telehealth visit right away. You’ll feel better within a day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just get some antibiotics and you will start feeling better right away. Your husband has no clue what you're dealing with but you don't need to be a martyr about it. Call your doctor's emergency line and get a script.

Sure, I'll get right on that after I put 2 preschoolers and 1 baby to bed.

I understand this post was sarcasm but actually yes, that is when you should call.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just get some antibiotics and you will start feeling better right away. Your husband has no clue what you're dealing with but you don't need to be a martyr about it. Call your doctor's emergency line and get a script.

Sure, I'll get right on that after I put 2 preschoolers and 1 baby to bed.

Ok, OP wasn’t being a martyr.

OP, why did you have another child with a man who you describe as having “narcissistic rages”?

This.

[Anonymous]

Omg. People are terrible. I’m sorry OP. I would be mad too. Your husband is being insensitive as are these crones on this board.

You need someone to take care of you not make you feel like garbage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just get some antibiotics and you will start feeling better right away. Your husband has no clue what you're dealing with but you don't need to be a martyr about it. Call your doctor's emergency line and get a script.

Sure, I'll get right on that after I put 2 preschoolers and 1 baby to bed.

Your DH is a dic$. Educate him on this.

[Anonymous]

Yes to antibiotics (Keflex) at the soonest opportunity. Don't try to tough it out with compresses or cabbage leaves. And forget about DH - not all of them care to put themselves in their wives shoes when it comes to problems related to BFing but it's not something to divorce over as some are suggesting.