Is leaving a team between fall and spring considered ethical?
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Anonymous
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My kid's coach has been good, his teammates are nice, and he's enjoyed soccer this season. However, he's interested in joining a more challenging/intense team that several of his school friends play on. The two teams are in different clubs.
What are the ethics here? |
Anonymous
Why not just train with the other team until the season ends and move next year? |
Anonymous
Because some of the practices conflict, and he wants to go to tournaments, etc . . . |
Anonymous
He can guest play with them for tournaments. I don't think it's right to move teams for these reasons. If he was getting bullied or if the level was way over his head or something, then sure, but just people he wants to hang with school friends is bad karma. |
Anonymous
| I do not believe there's a problem with leaving a team or club between seasons if your child isn't happy or developing. There's a good chance that you may have to pay any remaining balance owed (for the seasonal *year* which at this point is any Winter training and Spring 2022) in order to get your child's player card released (assuming the new club uses the same carding organization) but that should be the only issue. |
Anonymous
| It’s kids soccer. No one will care. |
Anonymous
People will care. |
Anonymous
| OP wants to leave and needs justification from strangers. Someone tell him it's ok. |
Anonymous
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I'm probably in the minority here, I feel like unless there's a serious issue with the team/coach, a player shouldn't leave mid-year just to chase a better offer.
When my kid was a HS senior, several players quit so they could play HS soccer. This was back in the DA days when they weren't allowed to play both club and HS. Kids knew that was the deal coming in but then decided to leave anyway. It left the team in a total lurch - they didn't have enough players for games sometimes and struggled to compete. Obviously one player leaving is different than several leaving but the basis for the decision is the same. In my mind, you and the club commit to each other for the year. Unless there's a serious issue, you fulfill that commitment. |
Anonymous
how do you know they aren't developing? It's been two months. It's not good to leave just because you want to play with friends. If they were really your kids friends they would have told them where they are playing and invited him. |
Anonymous
| Do what you want. If your kid wants a bigger challenge - capture that enthusiasm |
Anonymous
OP here, That wasn’t me above. But we moved in the summer, so these are new friends at a new school. Of course they didn’t invite him, they didn’t know he existed! |
Anonymous
| As long as you pay up for the year, they’ll probably let you go. The odds that they would ever let you come back in future years are very low, though,. |
Anonymous
OP here, I do want to move him, but we’ll do what’s right. I am just trying to figure out what that is. |
Anonymous
I hunk you know that leaving the old team in the lurch mid-year isn’t the “right” thing to do. Unless your kid is terrible, the team will feel having one fewer player if someone else doesn’t appear to take his place. But that doesn’t mean you can’t move. |