Would it bother you if your husband wanted to be buried beside his first wife and child?

[Anonymous]

Assuming their deaths occurred 40 + years ago and he had been married to you longer than his first wife and you and he had more children together?

Hypothetical question based on watching an unsolved murder story on Youtube.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assuming their deaths occurred 40 + years ago and he had been married to you longer than his first wife and you and he had more children together?

Hypothetical question based on watching an unsolved murder story on Youtube.

I don't care if he was married to me for 5 minutes or 50 years if my husband wants to be buried to a woman that isn't his child or his mother or any other close blood female relative than we have problems.

[Anonymous]

I could understand it if he was a widow (aka his first wife died while they were married).

[Anonymous]

The circumstances are not clear in your post but it seems that both (first wife and child) died together? That leaves trauma for life. If I married someone who has lived through such trauma, then yes, I’d get it. Or it could be a mercantile consideration, they bought a plot so he has space there so wants to be buried there cause he paid for the space. It depends on the reason, but ultimately it’s husband’s wish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The circumstances are not clear in your post but it seems that both (first wife and child) died together? That leaves trauma for life. If I married someone who has lived through such trauma, then yes, I’d get it. Or it could be a mercantile consideration, they bought a plot so he has space there so wants to be buried there cause he paid for the space. It depends on the reason, but ultimately it’s husband’s wish.

So you would be buried by yourself? Assuming your kids would be buried elsewhere with their spouses. so basically you were just chopped liver and a warm body. I guess it's true what they say about never being the second wife.


He would be getting cremated, and some of his ashes could be buried next to her, the rest would be with me.

[Anonymous]

I could not understand if you and he had more living children together. Usually the living relatives win out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The circumstances are not clear in your post but it seems that both (first wife and child) died together? That leaves trauma for life. If I married someone who has lived through such trauma, then yes, I’d get it. Or it could be a mercantile consideration, they bought a plot so he has space there so wants to be buried there cause he paid for the space. It depends on the reason, but ultimately it’s husband’s wish.

So you would be buried by yourself? Assuming your kids would be buried elsewhere with their spouses. so basically you were just chopped liver and a warm body. I guess it's true what they say about never being the second wife.


He would be getting cremated, and some of his ashes could be buried next to her, the rest would be with me.

You have a very odd way of determining the value of relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The circumstances are not clear in your post but it seems that both (first wife and child) died together? That leaves trauma for life. If I married someone who has lived through such trauma, then yes, I’d get it. Or it could be a mercantile consideration, they bought a plot so he has space there so wants to be buried there cause he paid for the space. It depends on the reason, but ultimately it’s husband’s wish.

So you would be buried by yourself? Assuming your kids would be buried elsewhere with their spouses. so basically you were just chopped liver and a warm body. I guess it's true what they say about never being the second wife.


He would be getting cremated, and some of his ashes could be buried next to her, the rest would be with me.

You have a very odd way of determining the value of relationships.

So you would be cool with being buried by yourself?

[Anonymous]

Who cares, you’re dead , you wouldn’t know where you’re buried or who’s buried next to you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who cares, you’re dead , you wouldn’t know where you’re buried or who’s buried next to you

In this scenario you are not dead, your husband is and his wish was to be buried with his first wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who cares, you’re dead , you wouldn’t know where you’re buried or who’s buried next to you

In this scenario you are not dead, your husband is and his wish was to be buried with his first wife.

Yes, I would be bothered, but. What are you going to do? Argue with a dead man?

[Anonymous]

The old adage about second marriages is true.

I would be regretting building a life with him. You can’t make someone love you. You can’t make someone choose you. He didn’t want to be lonely, which is understandable, but it does suck for you.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like Joe Biden’s life story. He lost his first wife and daughter 40+ years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The old adage about second marriages is true.

I would be regretting building a life with him. You can’t make someone love you. You can’t make someone choose you. He didn’t want to be lonely, which is understandable, but it does suck for you.

It tells the 2nd wife exactly how he feels about her. However, if we spent a lot of years together I would make sure NOT to bury him with the 1st wife. In the end it would be up to her anyways.

[Anonymous]

My grandma remarried after her first husband (my dad’s dad) died young. And the man she remarried was also a widower with children. When they died they each were buried with their first spouses.