S/O from both men and women: To wear makeup or not when dating

[Anonymous]

I'm a recently divorced woman in my 30s. I would like to get back into the dating scene soon. Here's my question: I don't wear makeup on a regular basis (although I do wear makeup for fancy nights out or other special occasions). Should I wear makeup in my OLD profile pictures? How about on the first dates?

I'm certainly happy to put in a bit more efforts (wearing makeup, etc.) to look nicer in OLD profile photos and on the first dates. But I also do not want to give men the false expectation that I would be wearing makeup on a regular basis. A few days ago there was a long post of a guy complaining his GF "slacks off" maintaining her appearance once she's in the LTR (I'm not looking for a LTR at this point but I also don't rule it out).

Also I'm generally attractive (BMI between 19 and 20, dress up nicely, take good care of my skin). It's just I never get into the habit of wearing makeup everyday.

TIA

[Anonymous]

Just go for a natural look. A tinted creme, swipe of mascara, and a subtle lip.

[Anonymous]

I don't wear make-up, not even in my profile pictures, and am doing just fine on the dating scene. Do what is comfortable for you.


Ignore incel threads which is what that other thread was.

[Anonymous]

As you get older you lose natural color in your face, your lashes thin out, etc. Things you could get away with when you were 20 just make you look tired now. This doesn’t mean you have to do full-on war paint, but you should get in the habit of accentuating the positive. Makeup lines like Bobbi Brown sell lots of no-makeup makeup products that can give you ideas.

[Anonymous]

Why are you using OLD profile pics. Take updated pics.

[Anonymous]

If you don't want to wear makeup, don't wear it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you using OLD profile pics. Take updated pics.

Yes, Use current photos. As for makeup do what makes you feel best and most comfortable if that's a little bit of makeup do it, if it's bare face do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you using OLD profile pics. Take updated pics.

OP here. OLD = online dating, not "old".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As you get older you lose natural color in your face, your lashes thin out, etc. Things you could get away with when you were 20 just make you look tired now. This doesn’t mean you have to do full-on war paint, but you should get in the habit of accentuating the positive. Makeup lines like Bobbi Brown sell lots of no-makeup makeup products that can give you ideas.

Thanks! I'll check out the Bobbi Brown products. One of the reasons I don't wear makeup is b/c I'm afraid of putting too much chemicals on my skin. But I guess some products are better than others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As you get older you lose natural color in your face, your lashes thin out, etc. Things you could get away with when you were 20 just make you look tired now. This doesn’t mean you have to do full-on war paint, but you should get in the habit of accentuating the positive. Makeup lines like Bobbi Brown sell lots of no-makeup makeup products that can give you ideas.

That might only apply to Caucasian women. I am not and rarely wear more than lipstick or eyeliner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As you get older you lose natural color in your face, your lashes thin out, etc. Things you could get away with when you were 20 just make you look tired now. This doesn’t mean you have to do full-on war paint, but you should get in the habit of accentuating the positive. Makeup lines like Bobbi Brown sell lots of no-makeup makeup products that can give you ideas.

Thanks! I'll check out the Bobbi Brown products. One of the reasons I don't wear makeup is b/c I'm afraid of putting too much chemicals on my skin. But I guess some products are better than others.

I wouldn’t do powder and foundation if you’re not used to it… even just moisturizing before can make your skin look fresh.

Subtle eyeliner and lipstick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As you get older you lose natural color in your face, your lashes thin out, etc. Things you could get away with when you were 20 just make you look tired now. This doesn’t mean you have to do full-on war paint, but you should get in the habit of accentuating the positive. Makeup lines like Bobbi Brown sell lots of no-makeup makeup products that can give you ideas.

Thanks! I'll check out the Bobbi Brown products. One of the reasons I don't wear makeup is b/c I'm afraid of putting too much chemicals on my skin. But I guess some products are better than others.

+1 there are lot of products out there that add a bit of something but don't feel like makeup. i use the Jones Road miracle balm (also a Bobbi Brown product). I also dont wear much makeup, but do a swipe of mascara and a tiny bit of that miracle balm on my cheeks and eyelids makes a HUGE difference, takes two seconds and doesn't feel like chemicals on my skin. people are much nicer to me when I've done just that vs. nothing (im 40).

[Anonymous]

I’m in my thirties and rarely wears makeup. I fake very good care of my skin and don’t feel like I need it. Makeup makes me breakout so I don’t use it often. I do wear mascara everyday but that’s about it. I will wear makeup if I’m going out but it’s never a ton of makeup. A little foundation or tinted moisturizer, mascara, and blush.

I’ve had many guys tell me they appreciate the fact that I don’t wear a ton of makeup. So many women wear a face full of makeup that they don’t even know what they look like without for weeks. Many have said they like the confidence that women who wear very little makeup have. I have many friends who wear so much makeup everyday that I sometimes forget what they look like without makeup. It’s also not good for your skin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m in my thirties and rarely wears makeup. I fake very good care of my skin and don’t feel like I need it. Makeup makes me breakout so I don’t use it often. I do wear mascara everyday but that’s about it. I will wear makeup if I’m going out but it’s never a ton of makeup. A little foundation or tinted moisturizer, mascara, and blush.

I’ve had many guys tell me they appreciate the fact that I don’t wear a ton of makeup. So many women wear a face full of makeup that they don’t even know what they look like without for weeks. Many have said they like the confidence that women who wear very little makeup have. I have many friends who wear so much makeup everyday that I sometimes forget what they look like without makeup. It’s also not good for your skin.

I stick with 100% pure or makeup that doesn’t have a lot of chemicals. Anything will work but I would recommend just do a little light coverage to show you out some effort into it but not a face full of makeup where he won’t recognize you once you take it off.

[Anonymous]

Use a mix of pics on your profile -- some with, some without.