Tell me about your spouse’s limerent affair…

[Anonymous]

Did you stay in the marriage? Did you leave? When did the affair end (or did it not)?

[Anonymous]

Limerent no clue what this means.

[Anonymous]

OP, your wife is done. Get the divorce it sucks, but that's the truth. I know it's easier for you to think she's simply being tricked, but it's just as likely even more likely that she's in love with this new woman. Get a divorce, get therapy and move on. Dragging it out isn't helpful to you or your kids.

[Anonymous]

Stayed in the marriage but her limerence is still apparent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Limerent no clue what this means.

+1

[Anonymous]

I left. The other woman left shortly after.

[Anonymous]

More than 15 years later after I divorced him and his second wife divorced him, my XH is still in love with this woman he knew at 17. She never left her H despite promising she would. Even after her child turned 18. I don’t think they ever have slept together. She’s just everything he ever wanted and all things good and perfect I suppose so why sully that with some extramarital intercourse. However, I think she is much, more smarter than me or XW #2. Both of us thought he was over her and clearly she has a magic formula she’s mastered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Limerent no clue what this means.

+1

LMGTFY https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence

[Anonymous]

Tell me about how you started an affair because your spouse was driving you nuts using big words you always had to look up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stayed in the marriage but her limerence is still apparent.

Did he/she stay in the affair also?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:More than 15 years later after I divorced him and his second wife divorced him, my XH is still in love with this woman he knew at 17. She never left her H despite promising she would. Even after her child turned 18. I don’t think they ever have slept together. She’s just everything he ever wanted and all things good and perfect I suppose so why sully that with some extramarital intercourse. However, I think she is much, more smarter than me or XW #2. Both of us thought he was over her and clearly she has a magic formula she’s mastered.

Is this the reason you both divorced him? That is quite a story.

[Anonymous]

Limerence? It’s a brief and passing crush and if you don’t act on it no problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you stay in the marriage? Did you leave? When did the affair end (or did it not)?

Is your spouse male or female, OP?

[Anonymous]

Are you the guy whose wife is in love with a woman who may be using the wife to get citizenship? I didn't read the whole other thread. What if the two of you agree to separate for a bit? Can you agree on terms for the kids during a seperation?

I get that you don't want to divorce. Maybe with a separation, the thing can run its course. I would be afraid that it ends in disaster for your wife, and you don't want your kids around that.

Are you getting therapy and lawyer advice?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:More than 15 years later after I divorced him and his second wife divorced him, my XH is still in love with this woman he knew at 17. She never left her H despite promising she would. Even after her child turned 18. I don’t think they ever have slept together. She’s just everything he ever wanted and all things good and perfect I suppose so why sully that with some extramarital intercourse. However, I think she is much, more smarter than me or XW #2. Both of us thought he was over her and clearly she has a magic formula she’s mastered.

Is this the reason you both divorced him? That is quite a story.

No, I stupidly forgave him after finding out. I reasoned that it was never physical. Dumb thinking. We divorced for other reasons. XW #2 says it was a combination of the emotional affair and the same reasons I divorced him.