Marrying over 50

[Anonymous]

Anyone here who has done this? If so could you describe the relationship?

[Anonymous]

I don't see the point of marrying over 50. You won't have kids. You would be wise to have separate houses and finances. So why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see the point of marrying over 50. You won't have kids. You would be wise to have separate houses and finances. So why?

Agree with the above except the part about having separate houses. Why is that an advantage ?

[Anonymous]

Real or not, crying in airports gets attention. I missed my connection to see DH a day early. I was snobbing into my mask, next thing I know a silver fox is buying me dessert (I don't drink, I eat cake). I've made friends with strong women in J class, and learned about lux car transport in coach. Airports are so fun, adventure is always around the corner.

[Anonymous]

I do not see the point of marrying over 40 let alone 50. Why? There is no point. You can have a boyfriend/girlfriend without the legal and financial crap of marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see the point of marrying over 50. You won't have kids. You would be wise to have separate houses and finances. So why?

Agree with the above except the part about having separate houses. Why is that an advantage ?

So you both have somewhere to go when there is too much togetherness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see the point of marrying over 50. You won't have kids. You would be wise to have separate houses and finances. So why?

I agree. After 50 years of being married to my mom, my dad just remarried at 77 years old 🙄. Like seriously, why?

[Anonymous]

I am the OP and given the lack of responses I will take this for a no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see the point of marrying over 50. You won't have kids. You would be wise to have separate houses and finances. So why?

Agree with the above except the part about having separate houses. Why is that an advantage ?

It is another way to keep finances separate and also it avoids stress and argument about home maintenance and cleanliness. If his house is a pigsty, you don't have to care.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see the point of marrying over 50. You won't have kids. You would be wise to have separate houses and finances. So why?

Agree with the above except the part about having separate houses. Why is that an advantage ?

It is another way to keep finances separate and also it avoids stress and argument about home maintenance and cleanliness. If his house is a pigsty, you don't have to care.

Yup. I love my DH very much but if he ever got hit by a bus there’s no way in hell I’m ever living with another man. There are so many downsides to living together and if you don’t have kids and aren’t hurting to pay rent what’s the point? The only advantage i can think of is you’ve always got someone around to kill scary bugs.

[Anonymous]

I’ve generally been in the “why marry again” camp. But at 55 and having seen my parents getting old, my mother dealing with my father’s decline and death, I am starting to see a benefit to being married as we age - having no issue making health and financial decisions for each other, funeral arrangements, etc.

[Anonymous]

I am a 50-something widow. I don't see the point of getting married again unless it is financially advantageous, which hardly ever happens.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't see the point of marrying over 50. You won't have kids. You would be wise to have separate houses and finances. So why?

I agree. After 50 years of being married to my mom, my dad just remarried at 77 years old 🙄. Like seriously, why?

That's usually called elder abuse. The marital laws are very strong and often the partner with less assets pushes it. Did you talk to him about a pre-nup?

What about retirements. Once one marries the spouse is automatically the beneficiary unless they agree to sign off. I knew a older woman that was on Match looking for a retirement. Thankfully those old men saw her a mile away. Quite common, so you may want to try and protect your dad if it's not too late.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve generally been in the “why marry again” camp. But at 55 and having seen my parents getting old, my mother dealing with my father’s decline and death, I am starting to see a benefit to being married as we age - having no issue making health and financial decisions for each other, funeral arrangements, etc.

It's worse. Having someone else's kids in the way makes it hard. No reason to remarry after 50 imo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see the point of marrying over 50. You won't have kids. You would be wise to have separate houses and finances. So why?

I agree. After 50 years of being married to my mom, my dad just remarried at 77 years old 🙄. Like seriously, why?

Because men his age don’t know how to take care of themselves and most women his age are smart enough not to act as wives if they are not