How to verify divorce in Virginia

[Anonymous]

I am dating what appears to be a great guy, but having been burned before I would like to verify that he is actually divorced before this goes any further. I have checked the Virginia websites and it seems that only the people involved in the divorce can obtain records. Has anyone used or done anything different to obtain these records? I'd willing to pay a service if necessary.
And I am looking for actual divorce decree, not any other records like names on a home deed - I am still on the title of my XDH home even though we have been divorced for years, so I don't want inaccurate information.
Thanks!

[Anonymous]

I do not think you can find an actual divorce decree.
I think this is creepy. I am a divorced woman.

Why are you questioning if he is actually divorced?
I find this a bit odd.

FWIW I would be more concerned you are still on the deed of your ex's house. That is weird.

[Anonymous]

You could just reach out to the ex wife.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think you can. You could hire a PI.

[Anonymous]

Ask him. Or, at least see where he is living and if he has kids, do the kids have rooms there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think you can. You could hire a PI.

Serious question..what would hiring a PI accomplish? Some exes still do things with kids together sometimes. What exactly would the PI be looking for to "prove divorce." If a PI went after my ex and I, I don't think they could come up with accurate information if they saw us together with the kids on a walk or something.

[Anonymous]

I think she is the ex-AP and wants to find out what happened after discovery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You could just reach out to the ex wife.

Christ, leave that woman alone. I am sure she has a few stories for you. Lol

[Anonymous]

OP- Maryland's case law search also does not provide this.

[Anonymous]

Interesting. If marriage records are public, then divorce records should be too.

[Anonymous]

What county, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think she is the ex-AP and wants to find out what happened after discovery.

That could be an explanation. Never heard of someone who wanted to see the decree. Often there is not much info there other than who is defendant and plaintiff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You could just reach out to the ex wife.

Christ, leave that woman alone. I am sure she has a few stories for you. Lol

I would be fine telling a new girlfriend “yes, we are divorced. You can have him.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think she is the ex-AP and wants to find out what happened after discovery.

That could be an explanation. Never heard of someone who wanted to see the decree. Often there is not much info there other than who is defendant and plaintiff.

This is spot on. ExDH’s AP tried to find evidence of our divorce

[Anonymous]

OP, I believe you. Unfortunately, it can be really hard to find this info. I suggest a PI.