Custody evaluation report

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Ex asked for evaluation and it was free through the court. Just got the recommendations. Not in my favor in spite of the fact that evaluator could not observe the kids with ex as kids refused to leave car when I brought him to his house. So now I have to tear apart the report poke holes and show the bias which is doable but will take time and energy. Evaluator also did not put in kids preferences in report. And did not check many things that were verifiable. He just took ex words as truth. Ex said he was a coach for sports and that was a total lie.

You should have done more to work with the kids vs just say it’s not fine to go to dads including giving consequences for not cooperating. The evaluations are a joke as they don’t fact check on either side and it’s basically a few hours of he said, she said with a lot of bias thrown in. Kids need both parents even if one parent isn’t great.

All of this. I’m the $30k PP and currently picking apart a joke report full of factual errors, multiple iterations of misspellings of my own very basic name, amplifications of DH’s stories and his mom’s stories (in spite of the evaluator saying she would accept family as collaterals), and then a lot of vague billing hours for “draft”, “draft”, “draft”, “draft.” It’s a sick business. Avoid at all costs.

It’s all subjective and he could have paid the evaluator more or who knows what. No evaluator is unbiased and usually these evaluations are manipulated.

He paid for 100% of it while crying poor to me. But at least with the latter his own attorney told him to shut up and transfer the money for our bills.

There is your problem. He paid. Between court, his expenses, child support he may be struggling financially. He should not be transferring money for your bills. You pay your bills, he pays his. They are no longer our bills. They are your bills.

Not PP, but guessing that was not in fact the case since his own lawyer directed him to pay.

If you are divorcing, you need to pay your own bills. Time to grow up and take responsibility. If he is paying for two households on one income, of course he is going to struggle financially. Maybe there is more to this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Ex asked for evaluation and it was free through the court. Just got the recommendations. Not in my favor in spite of the fact that evaluator could not observe the kids with ex as kids refused to leave car when I brought him to his house. So now I have to tear apart the report poke holes and show the bias which is doable but will take time and energy. Evaluator also did not put in kids preferences in report. And did not check many things that were verifiable. He just took ex words as truth. Ex said he was a coach for sports and that was a total lie.

You should have done more to work with the kids vs just say it’s not fine to go to dads including giving consequences for not cooperating. The evaluations are a joke as they don’t fact check on either side and it’s basically a few hours of he said, she said with a lot of bias thrown in. Kids need both parents even if one parent isn’t great.

All of this. I’m the $30k PP and currently picking apart a joke report full of factual errors, multiple iterations of misspellings of my own very basic name, amplifications of DH’s stories and his mom’s stories (in spite of the evaluator saying she would accept family as collaterals), and then a lot of vague billing hours for “draft”, “draft”, “draft”, “draft.” It’s a sick business. Avoid at all costs.

Did you offer him 50-50 at the beginning?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Ex asked for evaluation and it was free through the court. Just got the recommendations. Not in my favor in spite of the fact that evaluator could not observe the kids with ex as kids refused to leave car when I brought him to his house. So now I have to tear apart the report poke holes and show the bias which is doable but will take time and energy. Evaluator also did not put in kids preferences in report. And did not check many things that were verifiable. He just took ex words as truth. Ex said he was a coach for sports and that was a total lie.

You should have done more to work with the kids vs just say it’s not fine to go to dads including giving consequences for not cooperating. The evaluations are a joke as they don’t fact check on either side and it’s basically a few hours of he said, she said with a lot of bias thrown in. Kids need both parents even if one parent isn’t great.

All of this. I’m the $30k PP and currently picking apart a joke report full of factual errors, multiple iterations of misspellings of my own very basic name, amplifications of DH’s stories and his mom’s stories (in spite of the evaluator saying she would accept family as collaterals), and then a lot of vague billing hours for “draft”, “draft”, “draft”, “draft.” It’s a sick business. Avoid at all costs.

Did you offer him 50-50 at the beginning?

It sounds like she wants full custody for the money and all her and the kid expenses paid for. That’s probably why. She not stepping up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That case is stomach turning. The guys was controlling and mean to the mother so she gets primary custody and gets to move away?

That has nothing to do with the child.

abusive to mother, neglectful of child (child consumed alcohol, choked on dog food)