So, Whose Husband Has Done Absolutely Nothing for Valentine’s Day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do people hate the idea of gifts so much? I love giving and getting gifts as a way to show my love and attention.

Nah, I like gifts. I don't like obligatory gift-giving holidays. "I saw this and thought of you" gifts are awesome. "It's valentine's day and I know you expect me to give you something, so here's a thing." nsm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are people so rude on this forum? Nobody has said anything unreasonable to warrant such petty responses.

You’re entitled to your opinion, but to a lot of people the OP and others sound petty, and thus are in need of some petty responses.

[Anonymous]

Usually he give me flowers. This year he gave me nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you need a day out of the year to show love, then you're screwed. Real families and couples have things to do.

Yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do people hate the idea of gifts so much? I love giving and getting gifts as a way to show my love and attention.

Because gift giving isn’t everyone’s love language. I hate giving gifts, and I don’t much like getting gifts either. Thankfully DH are on the same page.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband, who has inattentive ADHD and is incapable of planning ahead, has hit on the plan of watching the news regularly to know when such holidays are upon him, and suggesting we get a fancy dessert on the actual day. He's also made chocolate treats himself, when he's had the time.

But shopping for Christmas or birthday presents? Not on your life. He will look up from his work on Christmas Eve and ask what I got for everyone, including the kids. And sometimes not even that - he just finds out when they open their presents. He will get me one useful, practical gift on Amazon, but I'm the only person he shops for.

I hope your husband hasn't entirely forgotten, OP. Maybe you can suggest something this evening.

I don’t get this if you have an iPhone.
Valentines Day is Feb 14 each year. Put it on your phone once (on repeat), and you are reminded. No need to watch the news for re-occurring holidays. Come on!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We've never done it. Very happily married.

+1 at most we'd go out to eat or I'd make a nice meal and dessert, never gifts
I did get the kids something cute and small. We are thankful neither of us has expectations but we agreed we weren't gift people decades ago

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless there is some surprise coming later, which I strongly doubt, I am raising my hand.

What have you done?

[Anonymous]

Mine got me those mix of flowers from Costco for $23. A quarter of them were dead. You know the ones with crysanthenums, and those oversized orange daisey flowers, a few carnations and loaded with greenery. I can't stand those bouquets. Get me carnations any day over those or hey how about roses. Like those even though they don't last long. Costco has gotten so cheap they put more of the green leafy stuff than actual flowers. It made me feel so shitty. I work hard and that's my worth crappy flowers. Why the f**k does Costco sell dead flowers to people? I would rather have had nothing than that bouquet of half dead flowers. My husband came home from work and thought it was funny that the others guys were rushing around on Valentine's Day picking up flowers for their wives from an actual flower shop the expensive kind over a $100. He presented mine on Feb. 13 and then complained to me about the congested parking lot. How Romantic. Why don't I just give it up and walk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine! I haven't done anything for him, either. It's much easier this way.

Agree! We did some fun stuff for the kids (who are 4 and 8) - surprise decorations, heart shaped food, small unwrapped gift. They asked where our Valentines are and we told them in our family it’s a fun holiday for kids.

Really hoping to instill that idea young so they don’t have to go through the angst of caring about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you agree beforehand not to do anything?

We didn’t agree to it but at some point just grew beyond the obligatory and contrived nature of Valentines Day. FYIY, we have a thriving marriage that, even after 23 years, is full of love, passion, and affection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine got me those mix of flowers from Costco for $23. A quarter of them were dead. You know the ones with crysanthenums, and those oversized orange daisey flowers, a few carnations and loaded with greenery. I can't stand those bouquets. Get me carnations any day over those bunches that look like they were picked off the side of the highway or hey how about roses. I like those even though they don't last long. Costco has gotten so crafty - they put more of the green leafy stuff than actual flowers. It made me feel so shitty. I work hard and that's my worth crappy flowers. Why the f**k does Costco sell dead flowers to people for Valentines Day I would rather have had nothing than that bouquet of half dead flowers. My husband came home from work and thought it was funny that the other guys were rushing around on Valentine's Day picking up flowers for their wives from an actual flower shop - the expensive kind over a $100. He presented mine on Feb. 13 and then complained to me about the congested parking lot. How Romantic. Why don't I just give up and walk. It makes me Valentines Day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine got me those mix of flowers from Costco for $23. A quarter of them were dead. You know the ones with crysanthenums, and those oversized orange daisey flowers, a few carnations and loaded with greenery. I can't stand those bouquets. Get me carnations any day over those bunches that look like they were picked off the side of the highway or hey how about roses. I like those even though they don't last long. Costco has gotten so crafty - they put more of the green leafy stuff than actual flowers. It made me feel so shitty. I work hard and that's my worth crappy flowers. Why the f**k does Costco sell dead flowers to people for Valentines Day I would rather have had nothing than that bouquet of half dead flowers. My husband came home from work and thought it was funny that the other guys were rushing around on Valentine's Day picking up flowers for their wives from an actual flower shop - the expensive kind over a $100. He presented mine on Feb. 13 and then complained to me about the congested parking lot. How Romantic. Why don't I just give up and walk. It makes me hate Valentines Day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine got me those mix of flowers from Costco for $23. A quarter of them were dead. You know the ones with crysanthenums, and those oversized orange daisey flowers, a few carnations and loaded with greenery. I can't stand those bouquets. Get me carnations any day over those or hey how about roses. Like those even though they don't last long. Costco has gotten so cheap they put more of the green leafy stuff than actual flowers. It made me feel so shitty. I work hard and that's my worth crappy flowers. Why the f**k does Costco sell dead flowers to people? I would rather have had nothing than that bouquet of half dead flowers. My husband came home from work and thought it was funny that the others guys were rushing around on Valentine's Day picking up flowers for their wives from an actual flower shop the expensive kind over a $100. He presented mine on Feb. 13 and then complained to me about the congested parking lot. How Romantic. Why don't I just give it up and walk.

What would you have wanted instead? was the issue the quality if the flowers? What did you do for him?

[Anonymous]

We never do anything for Valentine’s Day, so we stuck with that tradition. He DID, however, order flowers for his girlfriend which seems a bit uncool.